How to Ask a Girl Out (and Take Her Out Too)

Two Mormons on a date

The following blog post was written by Ben Nielsen at Finding God in the Testing Center.

Due to some recent (and not so recent) experiences had by some friends of mine, it has come to my attention that young men do not know how to ask young ladies out on dates. Since dating and courtship are necessary aspects to maintain our healthy society I have felt it might patriotic duty and social obligation to do something about this. And so of course I have turned to the blogosphere to get my message out.


Now asking a girl out is not actually a physically difficult task, and I assumed it was a somewhat natural part of life until I realized recently that it must now need to be taught. Asking girls out has always been emotionally taxing though and I won’t deny that. But it is worth it.

Step 1: Decide what you will do

Here is the first major difference between dating and “hanging out” in my mind. You begin with a plan, long before you ever actually talk to the girl in question.

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Natalie New is a writer and intern for and a current English student at BYU-Idaho. She was born and raised in an LDS home and has attending two Mormon universities up to this point. Natalie has also held a variety of Church callings and has had unique experiences, giving her a unique outlook on life. You can contact Natalie via email.