Sister Kristen Oaks on Being an Apostle’s Wife, Stepmom, and Author

Elder and Sister Oaks
Elder and Sister Oaks

This article was originally posted by LDS Living. The following is an excerpt. 

We recently talked with Sister Kristen M. Oaks, beloved wife of Elder Dallin H. Oaks. She shared with us her thoughts on being an apostle’s wife, stepmom, and writer, as well as her passion for helping families make their homes more holy places.

What’s the greatest lesson you’ve learned as the wife of an apostle?

I’ve learned that my major responsibility is to create a holy atmosphere at home. Without the Spirit, Elder Oaks cannot function to his fullest potential. This even includes such mundane things as washing his socks and preparing good meals to the more essential spiritual tasks of maintaining harmony and peace, as I try to be a woman who honors the commandments of our Heavenly Father.

What’s your favorite place?

I was an international education consultant and traveled widely before I married my husband. I love this beautiful world, especially anywhere the Saints congregate. Because of my time as a teacher and missionary, Japan, the Philippines, and Mexico are especially dear to me.

Favorite mission blessing?

The eternal friends I gained and affinity with a nation. My ties to Japan and the Philippines seem only to deepen as I stay in touch with the members.

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