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I wonder why some don't give the power of prayer a chance....

Maybe if you loved and respect him he would see that he is worthy of love and respect and he would treat his body with respect and love. MY sis in law treats my brother the way you describe and he gets to feeling so worthless and hopeless because of it that he eats even more. I have been happy married for more than two decades and I have learned that a man will do anything to please you if they know they are loved, adored and treated as the most special person in the world.

Your son shouldn't reach 400 pounds if you don't have junk food in the house and you prepare nutritious meals. Sure, he will get some junk out of the house, but if you make your house a healthy haven then he should be fine. It would also help your husband. And if he (your husband) is the one buying it, just tell him you will pitch it. Totally reasonable under the circumstances. Here's the hard truth. Your husband isn't going to do anything about his weight until he wants to. No amount of pestering or nagging will change that and probably makes it worse.

1st off, all marriages have issues, so this thought that you are missing out on a fulfilling marriage by him being overweight is rubbish. 2nd, you are missing out on a fulfilling marriage by owning his problems. His weight is his issue and his battle, it is not yours. Yes it affects you, but you cannot control it, conquer it or fight it, only he can. The thing you can do is be supportive of him. Let him know that if and when he wants to conquer this battle you will be there to help him however he asks and then drop it. I feel fairly certain that most people who are overweight, know it, don't like it and would like to be a healthier weight; they just haven't figured out how to fight it, either through strength of mind, lack of incentive, or it's not important enough at this point. 3rd, life is so incredibly short, there is no guarantee that moving on will result in a better life. In fact, (unless he is abusive, in which case yes leave) you might just find that you had a great husband and you were too blind to see it- don't wait until it is too late to see the good in him.

http://www.mormonnewsroom.org/article/mormon-temple-building-process The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints released a video, an infographic and a detailed text description of its approach to building temples on the Mormon Newsroom website Wednesday. The downloadable infographic provides an overview of the five stages: funding, site selection, design, construction and completion. The YouTube video expounds on these stages with comments from Elder William R. Walker, executive director of the Temple Department, as well as construction workers and others who oversee the process.

I wonder if I will be flying to Oregon or driving there? I wonder if I can find someone to drive me to the airport if I fly? I wonder if my husband is as excited to see me as I am to see him? I wonder about a lot of things.

Not in the relationship or able to properly view it, but I'm more concerned about the fact he was unwilling to get a job than his weight. So are you more bothered by laziness/apathy or his actual weight problem?

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Very informative. A good read for anyone, not just mormons i would think.

I always found LDS temples to be some of the most interesting religious buildings on the planet

If not mentioned already, Moroni's specification that he is not strong in writing and mentions if there are mistakes they are the mistakes of men and fools mock. Some revelations are pure, unadultered writings, while others are probably similar to my own revelations.

This issue has been fixed.

I'm more concerned with what happens after the food is harvested. I have a friend who is a chemist who works in food processing. They add so many ingredients to foods it is crazy! They add chemicals to change the texture and taste to make people crave more of it. If you use any processed foods you are eating some strange stuff, I am convinced the best diet would be for me to have my friend tell me what the chemicals are and what they are used for in every food I eat.

I wonder where all our utensils are going?

I have actually come back into this thread quite a few times to read it and each time the same thought stands out for me. You said your husband was clearly overweight when you were dating him... yet you married him anyway. What was it in your husband that made you fall in love with him? He was overweight already...but, you still fell in love with him and married him. My husband is overweight...was over weight when we got married. BUT... he is an honorable man. An honorable priesthood holder. He is loving, kind, willing to please, helpful, caring, loves me to pieces, loves our children, grand children, church going, holds a calling... I could go on and on...but, those are a few of the things I love about him. His weight has nothing to do with him being all of the above and then some.His weight is HIS issue not mine. I look at it as an addiction to food. He loves to eat and I bet your husband does too. Trying to get on a controlled eating pattern is key to losing weight. All the high carbs, sugars, etc continue to make a person hungry. You are not going to change him... he has to change himself. But, pressuring him probably will just make him want another piece of cake or whatever. I guess my point is... YOU dated him being overweight and married him while he was still overweight. You loved him then... but, now the weight becomes an issue? I believe there is something far more going on in the marriage. Ask yourself, "Why now and what changed"? Try to find that out before you jump to divorce.

As the heads up: I'm the "Yep. Get divorced. Yesterday." person on this board. (The lovely & brilliant Annatess my foil). My three cents? 1) Your husband deserves someone who loves him. If that's not you, please stop wasting his time, and making him feel terrible in the interim. 2) Take all the blame squarely OFF your child's shoulders. YOU control your child's diet & exercise& medical regime. Worrying that "at this rate he'll be 400 pounds by college" totally abdicates all parental responsibility, while blaming your husband for your failure to act. Don't do that. Good diet, good activity & if it's a glandular disorder, take him to the durn doctor and get his levels stabilized! 3) Some genetic lines (think Viking & Polynesian & Russian wrestling) spawn BIG people. Big HEALTHY people, so long as they keep their activity up. 350 pounds of "Never gonna be ripped like Batman, but I can make a quarterback wish they were never born" fast, strong, HEALTHY. These people are never going to be the nimble thin runners you see darting all over. These people WILL be the TANKS in underarmor (and other stretchy clothes, cause tailoring custom clothes is expensive, and their size isn't sold off the rack) who have to replace "flimsy" shoes and furniture on a biannual basis, as they make you giggle with their terminator impressions. I knew a few of these guys in the Marine Corps. (350+ pounds of grizzly bear ya never never never wanna face in a fight). Football, & hockey players, & wrestlers the lot of them. Even running 3 miles under 18 minutes 5 times a week, with about 20 hours of gym time, and 40+ hours of constant motion...my hese guys never thinned out like the rest of us. 15-20 years later... I still know a couple of them. Those who have stayed active (physically), playing sports every day, cops on the street, gym teachers, etc... Are still as healthy (and TANKS) at 40 as they were at 20. Those who moved into desk jobs & non movement? Well... They waddle a bit. If they manage to stand much at all. You met a BIG physically active guy in college. Whatever his diet & exercise program was... It was obviously working for him, as he was playing college ball. You've tried to completely change his diet, and clearly that hasn't been helpful. Have you considered encouraging your husband to go back to what WAS working? Eat as he was... But go back to training. Do something he LOVES, and is good at, and kept him fit. __________ Ahem. As a former athlete: I need 10,000-15,000 calories a day when training. Of I don't have that level, my body starts to eat itself. We're not talking "lose weight". We're talking bone loss, organ damage, heart damage. I also start stacking on weight (because my body hoarders calories) if I'm eating too few calories when exercising. It looks INSANE to people who aren't doing similar training (I remember my family -all athletes- snickering at people with jaws dropped over Michael Phelps talking about the 10k-20k he eats, all whipcord thin). In the military? Your rations depend on your environment. I never worked in the desert, I worked in mountains & jungle. Our rations were 6,000 kcal per package. 3x-5x per day. Yep. For some exercises we were stoking 30,000 calories a day. (The army moves on its stomach). Just some food for thought. Q

Marriage is more than just a pretty shirt to wear, and when it gets stained you toss it out. My husband is 200 pounds overweight. He wants to lose weight, but he easily gives in to eating JUNK food. I am 65 pounds overweight. I love breads and pastas. I also love fresh vegetables and fruits. Husband does not. He loves vanilla cookies, ice cream, chips, flour tortilla's. As the cook, food *gatherer* (shopper) - I need to NOT buy the junk food, and to have the healthy food available to him. When I ended up tossing a lot of spoiled raw veggies out because I could not consume enough of them, we bought a NurtriBullet and I attempted to juice them. I flopped, BUT he did like the Whey Protein shakes with the berries and chia seeds added to them. When he writes down cookies and ice cream on the shopping list, I start making him more protein shakes. Empty the house of the junk food. Have healthy foods available. When the banana's get too ripe, DON'T make banana bread, mash them up, put in ice cube trays, freeze them, pop them out into vacuum seal bags. Then when he and your son are 'wasting away' for want of a sweet junk food fix, whip them up a banana, milk shake. Using 1% or 2% milk. NO ice cream. My diabetic nurse/nutritionist suggested that we have one night every two weeks, where it is junk food night. Pizza, ice cream, pop corn (for him he can have pounds of pop corn, I can only have 3 Cups of popped corn). Be sure to change your attitude too - being disgusted, disappointed and angry with husband is picked up and magnified by your child(ren). Go to a Paleo diet. I do eat beans and legumes. I do not avoid glutens. We have not been diagnosed as celiac, so I eat glutens. There are fruits I simply cannot have because they are naturally too high is sugars (carbs). In the past two months Husband has lost 13 pounds (quite a bit of it was water retention, that he lost by getting off the salty chips). I have maintained. So, rather than think and obsess over ending your marriage, think and obsess over having healthier foods in the house, healthier treats available and including husband in the process of setting up menu's, preparing the meals and clean up afterwards. Nagging and negativity is not only discouraging it eats away at the spirit. Remember he is an Adult - feed yourself and your child good healthy foods, exercise with your child. Good luck.

Keep in mind you are on a forum and asked questions. You are going to get a variety of answers. Some you will like and some you won't. So please be respectful of all. Whether you like their response or not.