blackestate

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  1. To me the key words are "don't know if" I would take her out, and find out what it is she is struggling with. Love her and help her regain her Testimony, That is the key. If you love her and help her become stong again, she will either tell you, or overcome it on your own. And never underestimate praying together. It is good for her to hear you tell the lord how you love and care for her, and want to help. I think we should often express our love for our companion to the lord, in prayer so they know how much we value them. Also, in my opinion, do not just have a recomend, use of it will bless all in the home
  2. Great for you! lots of work for you here in the northwest. We are in the Kenniwick WA mission, but used to be in the Portland mission! Beautiful area,
  3. I think that if you are their friend, and can live the standards as an example, You may be the way for them to come back, if they ever decide to. It is sad to see it happen. But someone once said we are all 2 weeks from inactivity. 2 weeks of no church, no scriptures, and no prayer.... Stay strong, and love them.
  4. But... If you "leave" the church, for what ever reason and your still a member, you are still under covenant, and accountable for your actions in that light. Where if you remove your name, the covenant is removed, and then you are not held accountable to the rules of the covenant. If you do not live worthy of the covenant, it does not just go away, it can become a negative in your life. So for a lazy person who lives most of the gospel like most of us, being inactive is not terrible. If being inacticve is based on not wanting to live by the rules, then you may be better off to remove the covenant (name removal). But if you do not believe....
  5. Sometimes both sides are to learn something, you and the leader. I would have a frank talk with them, and then go from there. I believe that we are a church of assignment not of volunteers. asignments, and return and report. I also believe that things change, and leaders often do not understand the struggles a calling places on us, but they want to help us be successful. Groth and learning does not come from the easy callings. Share with them, and I think you will be supprised.
  6. My brother was kicked out of the house when he was 17 for not obeying the rules. About wiped my parents out. today he is married in the temple, and has a good relationship with our parents. Stand tough. If you do not, he will think the gospel is a thing of little value to you. He is old enough.
  7. Everything on the table. Then work through it with the bishop, IF he really wants to change, do not leave a chain taht will drag him back into the old life.
  8. Relax. I have been in a few from the other side. I will tell you that there is nothing but love and a desire to help you get your life right with God. Be calm and honest. and all will go ok. You have the correct attitude, and we all make mistakes. The Bishopric knows this, and has a desire to help and love you. Keep on the track!
  9. I have talked with the leaders and the Bishop. Last week the MM adviser called one of my girls a name... Argh!!!!!!! Anyway I have to hand it to my girls. They have decided to try and make it change, and stick with it in our ward. I just do not understand how two girls who are there all the time, do all that is asked of them, and live the best that they can, can be treated soo poorly by those who are to help them.
  10. Back to the OP's issue. Why isn't a mission for you? only you can answer that. But do not let money be the reason. There are ways that can be arranged without parents etc. Does the college you go to have an institute class? Great way to get back into learning the gospel, and find a possible room mate to rent a place with. Then a lot of the turmoil would rest, and you could have visitis etc. But you need to talk to your bishop, and at 18, the Elders Quorum president can also help. the three of you can make a plan,guided by the inspiration of the bishop. And soon you will be back in full throttle! Do not get discouraged.
  11. we have talked to the YW leaders repeatedly. The older of the two is the MM pres. And is just given the work assignments. She will get them done, that is what we have taught. But they now feel like that is the only reason they get called into the leadership. An example of this.. Last year at the temple on a baptisim trip, They were 2 of the first 5 or so through the lunch line, and sat at a table. And ended up alone for the whole time, including leaders.... Breaks my heart for them...
  12. My girls 15, almost 16 and just 14 do not feel wanted in our ward. It has been a long ongoing issue. They are kind of the outcast, unless you need something done. So here is my issue. They are fed up, and no longer want to go to YW. But have said they would go to another ward's YW. The older one has friends from seminary who would love to have her come. What do we do. We are thinking that we would encourage the good friendship, and weeknight activity, and they would attend church with us on Sunday, including YW. What do I do for my girls. thanks