I have never done one of these so I feel a little awkward. haha. I just feel that if I get advice from a non biased opinion it might help me out more. So here goes:
I am a non-mormon but my boyfriend of over two years is mormon. I have been to church a few times and read "gospel principles" and really enjoy everthing about the religions beliefs and morals.
Here is my issue... I have not had the best past before I met my boyfriend and I have some serious trust issues. To sum it up I have basically been betrayed by every male figure in my life (father, brother, boyfriends etc.). I have always been around men who have a "wandering eye" and it really bothers me. I show the same respect towards people and I think they should do the same. I do not like it when men use the excuse that "that is just how men are, it is how we are programmed", well I think that should not be true.
Ok...so I guess here is my question. I always suspect my boyfriend of looking at other women, because that is what I was programmed to think. He insists he DOES NOT and that he only has eyes for me. I just wanted to ask other members of the church if this is true and if mormon men have different morals and are not like all other men.
I hope that made sense.
In addition... I wonder if I should not care if my parter finds someone attractive (whether it being in person or even on tv), but for some reason I think that it would be very wrong. He insists that he does not look or fantasize, but I wonder if I am in the wrong and if I should not even care if he did (which he says he does not). Maybe I am being to controlling or insecure. I just feel that thinking something is just as bad as doing it.
