momoftwobabies

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  1. I actually know of a girl who was married and divorced cause of an abusive relationship and went on a mission! She was a little older than you too. I don't know what the rules are for that, but I know it can happen because I've seen it happen.
  2. Congrats Faded! I hope AI works for you! I have somwhat followed your story cause I too was dealing with infidelity. I never would have thought this but it's true that something like this can make your marriage stronger. I can atest to that for sure. My husband and I have overcome a lot as well and am happy to announce we are expecting our third child in the fall!
  3. This is happening way too much. It probably shouldn't suprise me but it still does. It happened to me. There is a support group on this site for thsoe who are dealing with infidelity. Surviving Infidelity is the group and just ask the creator to join. It helps to talk to others who have been thgouth it. I'm so sorry you are dealing with this. It's a very difficult road to overcome. Just hang in there. Time is the key!
  4. You just found out so I think you will be in a state of shock and possibly denial for a while. I have been through it as well. It takes a long time to heal but it can happen. You and your husband need to go to a counselor. It helps a lot. There is also a group on this wesite called Surviving Inflidelty. There are a lot of us and it's nice to vent and get advise from others who know your pain!
  5. Affairs don't mean having sex. You could be having an emotional affair which is just as damaging. If you are confiding in someone other than your spouse, you are having an affair. Stop now. You need to confide in someone like the bishop or a counselor. Not another man.
  6. I also know what you are going through. I found out just a few months ago about my H porn problem when I caught him having an affair with a co worker. He committed adultry with her once. Before all of that we had the "perfect" marriage like you describe. He hid his addiction from me all that time. It was on and off since 8th grade! Most of this I found out 5 days before I gave birth do our second child. I got "trickle truth" for a few months after I caught him and now we are working on our marriage. We go see a marriage counselor through LDS Services and she has helped tremendously I have filters on our computers also. I have not seen him looking at porn since. He has been through the repentence process and is currently going through his discipline. This incident has seemed to wake him up. He has totally stepped it up and being the husband, father, and preisthood leader he has needed to be. I just hope it continues. I still have my daily struggles with this. Sometimes I am so angry about this whole thing I feel like picking up and leaving. I told my husband I am at zero tolerance mode right now so no screw ups. I do love him but the trust is not there. It will take time to get back and I just hope I have the patience to stick around. Sometimes I just don't know. I'm so sorry you are going through this. I had no idea porn addiction was so huge!
  7. I can't seem to find mine. How do I get a new copy?
  8. What is the difference between formal/informal probation, disfellowshipped and excommunication. I know what excommunication is but what does it take for one to recieve these "punnishments". i know that excommunication is rare now days compared to a few years ago. I just wonder what the diffence is.
  9. Well, he wrote me a 3 page letter explaining everything that happened, which was a bit more than he told me, why he thinks it happened, how he feels now, an apology, what he has to do to fix things etc. He is meeting with the bishop soon too is seeing a councelor. He is also going to the doctor to get checked out. I can tell he is remorseful and sorry. I am really really trying. Every day is a struggle to see past thig but I can tell you that when I pray for strength and read my scriptures I feel much better. So I do it multiple times a day... this is going to be a long road. My husband and I never had problems all of a sudden we have the biggest problem a marraige could ever face and more. It's over whelming and painful.
  10. I love my husband. I love him so much. I tell him all the time even through this. I have reacted so well concidering what I have gone through. I plan on trying to work through this. But I can't say right now what the future will be. I learn more and more things every day about the affair and it reopens the pain and hurt. He has never been honest with me except when he says he is so sorry and wants to fix the family. We went to the marriage councelor individually yesterday and he came hom saying there was more he needs to tell me tonight. He wants to take a few hours to talk about it and finally get everything out.... FINALLY???? I think I know and expect what is going to be said but I am dreading hearing more. I was confused at travelers post but there were some good points. But if he was in my shoes I wonder what he would do. Probably exactly the same thing I have. I have done well. I know I have. I have probably everything and reacted almost always the way I should and I know our heavenly father is proud of me.
  11. SO the past few days my husband has been in a deep deep state of depression. He has had nightmares, shaking, etc. Its hard to see him go through this but I think he has to to fully go through the repentence process. It seems like I have another child to take care of now. He says he will go to a councelor and he ahs an appt this week and wants to schedule with the bichop next week. I miss my strong husband. All I see now is a weak man. WIll I ever see that strong man again????
  12. I met with the bishop. He contacted me immediatly. He was wondeful and gave me a blessing of strength, peace and patience during this time. I felt a burden lifted. He said he ran into my Husband a week before and went to shake his hand and could tell something was wrong...... yesterday my Husband broke down... sobbing and told me he needed help. I still want to beleive him. Half of me does but the other half says he just feels guilty he was caught and I know. I have to learn to tryst again. I hope I have the strength to do it. The bishop gave me some wonderful advise.
  13. No I had to lie to him to find out. i told him I talk to the other woman adn she told me everything i wanted to hear the stroy from him. Than I got it. But still I don't know if it was all........ becasue than I told him I lied to get the info from him before i had all the info I think. I emailed my bishop last night to contact me asap. I shouldn't have waited these few weeks to talk but now he knows to contact me.
  14. Found out today that he did commit adultry with her........ once and he stopped it before "they finished" Right.... oh yeah, and he has had a porn addiction I didn't know about.