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What can I say.... I love fb.... yes I've accepted some ppl as friends that ended up being a bad idea, but that's what the delete button is for.....hahahahahahaha

This is a tough one.... may I tell you my experience as 'the wife'. My husband has been in a band for many yrs and you can imagine the attention he is constantly getting. He would tell me some things that had taken place so I would hear it from him and not someone else...... it was hard and hurt everytime. I had told him a few times that if I caught him cheating on me in anyway, I would leave as I didn't see the point in fighting for something he forgot about for a 'moment'. Well,... it's one thing to say it, another to act upon it. A few yrs ago I stumbled upon evidence that blew my world to pieces, and you know what?.... I never left. But the deceit was the killer. My advice to you is that you go see your bishop, then tell your wife. But pray for the Spirit to guide you and soften her heart.... after that there is not much else you can do. But if she had to find out by accident..... the deceit will make trusting you that much more difficult. Good luck

Sweetie, I did fall over as you said I would.... I'm so sorry to hear about this. I knew something was very wrong, somethings didn't shock me, but I am surprised about this "job" we all had such high hopes for the two of you. Just know that you will always be close to my heart babe. One step at a time...... one step at a time..... and you have friends. And so does your husband, if ever he looks for any, hopefully he'll know where to find them. Oh, for others info.... they are members.

My, makes you wonder if high school does any good.... my husband wants to move to the USA, but my biggest fear is not being able to protect my children from their peers at school. At least here is SA I know what to look out for, but so called school friends are another story. But, doesn't mean we not faced with cruel ppl here. Something I've had to deal with all my life too, and suicide does end up entering your mind out of desperation. Perhaps you could ask a trusted priesthood holder for a blessing, you don't even have to tell them why..... Gretchen, this goes for you too. I once asked a good friend of mine to give me one and it opened my eyes to the fact that I chose the most difficult path on earth cause I knew the prize at the end..... well, I am wondering what the heck was I thinking, and would like to make changes to that decision. But, though it does not make life easier, it helps when there is light on the subject on Heavenly Father's will for you. Ask for a blessing every 2 wks or more if you have to, and you can also call the temple and ask them to put your name on the prayer list. My daughter has made friends with a girl who gets bullied at school, she has been called names because of her friendship with this girl..... but she sticks by her.... and I am so proud of her. When she was called a nerd I told her that nerds make a name and money for themselves, have good homes and grow into themselves..... I'm yet to know of many jocks who live a good life..... without a beer. Now, when they call her friend a dork, she happily replies.... "but she's my dork" I so wish I could sort out those kids for you, but pls you should know by now that most of us have gone through that high school age, and you know what.... some are still going through it, you'll make an awesome friend to someone who faces the same trial one day. Hold your head up, you are a king.... in training...

I must confess.... all this psychological talk had me lost a few times on this thread..... Think I know what I should study next... lol

Dearest Gretchen, I wish I knew what to say to help you at this time of your life, I wish I had a wand I could wave to make it all better. I too am a cutter, I often go through times of wondering if it's worth living. I'm not always successful at staying away from cutting, but when I am it's because I focus my energies into my passions...... my children and my dancing. I'll push myself physically to the point where my body aches, my feet have blisters and my knees are buised..... but I become a better dancer in the process. I'd suggest finding a passion or talent you want to improve on...... maybe try be the best at.... preferably physical. gives you more incenctive to focus on it. It may not always be the answer but it will help redirect that energy. Girl, you'll be surprised how many of us understand and feel for you, more than you know. There are many here who have reached out...... and I'd like to be one of them..... msg me anytime.

Missi, it's always all hard work. My metabolism is working at the perfect rate, so I can eat what I want.... so far so good. I'm hoping to defeat the middle-age spread.

Well after 5 babies, my last one was 4 months ago, I picked up 19kgs (41.6lbs) I have already lost 17kgs (37.4lbs) and I'm a junkfood fanatic. I eat a bag of chips, choc slab and lots of chewy sweets just about everyday.... after gym hehehehe.

Go for it Missi, you can even msg me direct

Haha..... get hr monitors at sports shops.... polar is a good make. If you gonna do this you need to give me your age so I can work out your target zone.... and any injuries I should be aware of. If you buy the monitor you can't waste money and not do it, so best you make the decision and then stick with it.... don't waste it........ hehe......

Ok, here goes... I'm a qualified personal fitness trainer and aerobic instructor etc, etc... I've killed myself for 2hrs a day on trying to get into shape and maintain it which is alot of time and work. Now that I'm married with 5 children, time is scarce and the body gets beaten. I found a program that takes 1 hr, no weights and doesn't slide backwards when you go on vacation. It's metabolsm training program that trains your metabolism to function at a healthy level for you at your age, and involves aerobic training, not anaerobic. It will take bout 3 months to kick in properly, but works... I do it everyday. I had a triple surgery a few yrs ago, which they don't normally do, the doc was surprised at the condition on my body that he just did the whole lot, I stayed in hosp for 6 days as apposed to the usual 2wks. And my baby is 4 months old now and my jeans are already falling off of me. And I don't do diets. If you're interested, let me know, I need your age and all you need is a heartrate monitor, and for you to give it a fare chance.

Ok, here is my bit for all that it's worth.... I'm a qualified personal trainer with a huge weakness for junk food. When I crave sweets I eat a fruit first...that way I find the sugar craving is satisfied through nature, if that doesn't do the trick I then chew some soft glucose sweets, I just don't go over board. I find if I try stop... I end up eating more than usual, so instead I try listen to my body. I'm also very active so the glucose gets used up quickly which can cause a slump. May I suggest lots of water throughout the day and snack on fruit in between meals, but if you feel a major crave.... don't torchure yourself.... treat yourself then move on.

Glad to hear, I found the more active I was the better the pregnancy went, I even competed in a Nationals dancing comp at 22wks, (was a chanllenge spinning around with a stomach). But then we went on vacation after that and I went down hill full speed.... keeping active was the key for me.

I have a non-lds friend who takes her 14yr old out to clubs with her and they get drunk together, asks her daughter to roll a joint with the leaves they grow and smoke it together. Her girls started dancing in shows..... in underwear.... in a nightclub on school nights, she also requests her girls to dress sexy when she has meetings with potential business men. And to top it all off, she closes the bedroom door for her girls and tells them to let her know when they're done so she can take the boys home.... Needless to say, I don't see her very often. We have had parents hiring strippers for their son's 12th birthday, and I have watched parents happily drop their daughters off at the mall wearing more make-up than clothing.... these girls look like they should still be playing with barbie dolls. My jaw drops ever time.

Congrats to all you mommies-to-be, that's marvelous. I'm done with pregnancy, I have 5 and my baby is 4 months. I've had UP and UB's with all of mine and was fortunate enough to have waterbirths too except for my first cause she came 4wks early and my last cause I had a 45min labour and almost had him in the car, so there was no time. I have been truly blessed considering my body doesn't handle pregnancy very well.