Twospirit

My Goodness, godisabullet, I do think that was quite a bit off the subject , yet very judgmental nonentheless. and that you are dealing with a lot of issues, perhaps better to discuss it in another thread? I too suggest that maybe reading more, and gleaning objective information about South Africa or USA for that matter, and see facts and reality as they are, not as you would like them to be, before forming such subjectective opinons of the world (Opinions that suit your agenda and issues sprouting from your own hurt and fear). Twospiritdancer, My heart is with you, all I can say is, I can see you have been through a rough time, and that it has taken a lot of courage to even write this here. You are a brave soul. Although it is disappointing and hurtful what happened, keep your head held high through this, people are quick to judge that which they do not understand and quick to judge what they fear. Keep being HONEST, truth is always the way to go. I for one am one who believes that a marriage disentegrates from two sides, and as such I usually ask my clients these standard questions, regardless of the so-called "main reason the marriage difficulties" both ways... but for now I'll ask you: * Has your husband been a good spouse and father ? Has he spent enough time with you and your children? Has he put his needs second to that of his family? Has he acted wisely in dealing with you and your children before you discovered and made peace with your orientation? Has he remained faithful to you all theses years? How long have you been married? Has he been a good consistant provider? and lastly, has he respected you and been considerate as his partner throughout your marriage?.... Have you been a good wife to your husband, before you discovery? Who do you think put more effort in keeping the marriage going all these years? Have you provided a good environment for your children? Who spends the most time with your children, leading, guiding , teaching, caring, nurturing, seeing to basic needs, helping with homework etc?.. I am asking these questions, as it seems that more is play here, than just the discovery of your orientation. A thought, if your husband is the one throwing more stones by divulging confidential information, he is doing so to maybe hide his mistakes too? I feel that your husband's behaviour , even though he may be experiencing a lot of hurt and anger, has not been well thought through or Christlike or in the best interest of your children and does say a bit of his way of dealing with situations in general perhaps? I am not saying, gain ammunition for whatever future reason, merely, answer these questions for yourself, and discover for yourself, if there aren't perhaps more issues that lead to the disintegration of your marriage than merely your discovery the past year or "the main reason " for the current state you are in? Once you have answered these questions, take it from there? You are not alone in this, God will always be with you, and you will always remain His child. God be with you on your future journey dear, I can see there are caring and loving people here who are here for you too. Only you and God truly know all the details of what has happened.. Make time to be quiet in His presence and seek His Will and Guidance, He will always listen with a Loving Heart. You will know the difference between His answer and the opinion of other's "well meaning" input. You will be in my Prayers and Thoughts this year. May God be with you and your children this year, and may he bless you during this time.

I haven't read all the posts, but I have read your post. I counsel young adults for a living and from what I have read, maybe explore going for professional counselling young friend. Maybe that trained person is able to guide you gently in disovering yourself and the beautiful soul you truly are. It can only help you. Keep in mind, Although it may not seem like it for you now... But God is there, watching over you and will provide resources for you to get through this. Seek professional psychologists through the network your church provides and begin there. Then take this step for step, day by day.Different people take different amounts of time to learn and grow, and God has His perfect timing for you to discover yourself , your place in life, and Him(first and foremost). Have faith in that. You will get there. Wishing You all the Best.

I agree with SundaeSarah, Vocational Guidance is a very important first step. Your babtism is important too, they needn't be mutually exclusive. Find A Vocational Psychologist , where you are working there may already be a good reference system to someone that can help you. Vocational guidance can also light up some personal issues you may have to deal with in order for you to move on and successfully advance in whichever career there is for you. One's personality, Interests, Values, Life Story, Aptitude, is all taken into consideration in matching you with a possible career. God will guide you there and will continue to do so wherever your life journey takes you, if you are sensitive to his guidance and accept it :) Good Luck and God Speed

Good Day Everyone I've been lurking around here for a while now, and realised it may be good manners to introduce myself at last I am a practising Christian and I try my best to live as close as I can to God’s will, despite my mistakes and sins. I made friends with a few LDS members on my life-journey, as well as many friends from all walks of life. I wanted to find out what the LDS church is all about as I am one who prefers to read up and explore things for myself, rather than trusting or blindly believing others' sometimes uninformed opinions or knowledge, with regard to any subject. I've learned that there is always two sides to a story and that one cannot form an informed opinion from only one side of the fence. After all God did give us the intelligence as well as His Word and the Holy Spirit to discern what is right and what is not. One does not need to fear any new knowledge that may just make one a better person with aformentioned in mind. Life is wonderful, with so many new things to learn. I have also learned that it is important to glean knowledge from both sides in a non-judgemental, loving and open manner too, it is our duty to do so. And yes, I do challenge people in the process too I look forward to more interesting discussions and thank you for having me here :)

hmmmmm, what's he aiming for?....... you ain't getting neither

"Matthew 22 Marriage at the Resurrection 23That same day the Sadducees, who say there is no resurrection, came to him with a question. 24"Teacher," they said, "Moses told us that if a man dies without having children, his brother must marry the widow and have children for him. 25Now there were seven brothers among us. The first one married and died, and since he had no children, he left his wife to his brother. 26The same thing happened to the second and third brother, right on down to the seventh. 27Finally, the woman died. 28Now then, at the resurrection, whose wife will she be of the seven, since all of them were married to her?" 29Jesus replied, "You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. 30At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven. 31But about the resurrection of the dead—have you not read what God said to you, 32'I am the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac, and the God of Jacob'[a]? He is not the God of the dead but of the living." 33When the crowds heard this, they were astonished at his teaching." Heavenguard Interesting that this scripture is found in Mark 12:18-27 and Luke 20:27-39 and spoken by Jesus Himself.....