beefche

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  1. Well, if you don't vote for him, you are definitely not black.
  2. @NeuroTypical that video you posted....is that the same dude who comments on Nascar? Even has the cheering crowds to talk over! 🏁
  3. Well, now there is a quiz on FB you can take to find out how privileged you are. First question, "Are you white?" Other very leading questions. I didn't finish as I have the media, celebrities, and politicians to let me know I'm privileged based on my skin color. But, I'm very relieved to see some of my white friends taking this quiz to learn more about themselves and post about how they never realized how privileged they are. I wonder if they were surprised to find out how angry they are based on the month of birth, too, or what LOTR character they are based on their initials. I hope these quizzes help them with their privilege, anger, and problems with their initials.
  4. @Carborendum how do you know you didn't get the jobs because you were Asian or LDS? Did they actually tell you that? Because that's against the law and even most companies own guidelines. So, I'm really curious how people know they were denied things based on a protected class. In the office I worked in, there was a black lady (good friend of mine) who was a supervisor. We had a newer employee who did good work but it just wasn't working out for him on the team he was on. I spoke with him privately about the issues (I was his coach/mentor) and encouraged him to seek a position on my friend's team. I honestly believed he would be very successful on that team. He prevaricated, never really stating if he didn't want to be on the team or wasn't interested in the position. I spoke with him on at least 3 occasions within a 2 wk or so time period. When I spoke to my friend about it, she said that he didn't want to be on her team because she was black. I was absolutely shocked. Nothing, and I mean NOTHING in my conversation with him indicated that he had an issue with ANYONE on that team. He kept talking about the work and if he would be capable of it, he liked what he was doing, etc. Because she was my friend, I told her that I thought she was wrong. And I asked her what was it that he did to make her think that? She said, she just knows because it's her experience as a black woman. I asked pertinent questions to figure out if he said or even looked at her in a questionable manner. Nope, just that he put off some kind of vibe or energy or something that as a black woman she had experienced before. Well, about a week later, he turned in his notice. He found a job that paid better and was closer to his home. So, that energy or vibe? Yeah, nothing more than he didn't want to give his hand away about getting a new job. When I said something to my friend about it, she just shrugged and insisted that there was still some amount of reluctance on his part due to her race. This story reminds me that we seem to assume so much about others without any real evidence. I remember once being in Sunday School and having to leave the meeting a little early for a calling I had. The next Sunday, the teacher approached me and apologized for offending me. I had no idea what he was talking about. He said he was talking about single people in the church during that class and I ended up walking away. He assumed he had offended me since I was an older than normal single woman. Well, he forced me to admit that I wasn't even paying attention to his lesson and that in fact, my mind was on what I needed to do that prompted me to leave early. I'm not denying that racism exists. Of course it does. And it exists in every country, every culture, every community. It will never go away until our Lord returns. Doesn't mean we shouldn't do what we can to overcome it, but I just wonder how much is assumed when the evidence isn't there.
  5. @Godless I appreciate you posting on this issue. I am one who truly does not see that police brutality is the biggest issue with black Americans. I know that that fact probably marks me as racist (I've been equated with it when I was upset by the rioting and looting, regardless that I was also upset by what happened to Mr. Floyd) but, since the word racist doesn't mean what it actually means, I'm not sure how valid that accusation is anymore. Anyway, I want to understand why this is the biggest issue and not other things. One can't say it's because I'm not black as other non-blacks seem to understand this. So, I appreciate you providing your perspective. I find that this topic (especially right now) is so emotionally charged that most people can't speak or listen rationally (I include myself in this statement). I appreciate the ability to have such a discussion on this forum.
  6. Can someone help me understand? What does institutionalized racism or systemic racism mean? I hear these terms used a lot, but it doesn't fit what I thought these terms mean. So, perhaps my definition is wrong.
  7. @MormonGator how does your friend know where the people are from? Serious question.
  8. There is no RLDS church. They are named the Community of Christ and have been for 20 years or so.
  9. My family history is a little more modern. My dad was born and raised in Bulgaria. He hated being under Communist regime and longed to go to America so he could have freedom to worship. He and a couple of his cousins decided to run away together and make it to America. They were about 13 years old. Upon the time and place previously agreed, dad showed up but the others didn't. So, he took off alone. He crossed the Greek border (about a 5-7 mile walk) and was placed in a refuge camp. He lived in Greek refuge camps until he was able to get a sponsor for America. That took about 5 years. He said that if he had gone to Western Europe or Australia, he would have left sooner, but he wanted to go to America. He came to America and couldn't speak a word of English. His sponsor helped him find a room to rent and a job. So, he arrived in his new country on a Thursday and by Monday he was working and paying his own way.
  10. Oh, no, that's NOT what he calls you.
  11. Good to see you, Carb. I felt the same as you regarding this moment from conference (I was so hoping to hear some Slavic singing). But, my feelings during this hymn was that we weren't singing so much about Joseph or our current prophet, but about our Prophet, our King, our Savior.
  12. PC, this is true: no matter where you are, if you want x, you will find x. The people who want y, are aware of x, but they continue to choose y. While at BYU, I knew those who were engaging in activities that were inappropriate but I didn't hang out with them.
  13. When I attended BYU, I first went as a non-member (we won't mention how long ago that was but I'll admit it was not in this century). At that time, even as a non-member, the tuition was cheaper than the Indiana University tuition. After I became a member, my tuition went down about 25% and my dad, who was not happy about my baptism, was at least a little gleeful about saving some money. PC, it's seems amazing to me that your daughter is old enough for college! In my head, your girls are still around 10 yrs old (even though I've never met them or know them in any way...just from your mention of them on here). Exciting times!
  14. So, my company (large company with Southeast Asia offices) just banned all travel and stated that there was to be no face-to-face meetings--we are to conduct meetings via web. Interestingly enough, they are not banning visitors to one of our major offices (in KC, MO). But, they are requiring those visitors to complete a questionnaire. Anyway, as a result of the no meetings ban, our local work from home contingency (there are 6 of us total here) had to cancel our quarterly lunch. There are 3 of the 6 who live near each other--we decided to go to lunch together during the time we already carved out of our schedules for the previous quarterly lunch. It's not a "work" lunch...just 3 friends who work together going out for lunch.
  15. My dad was born and raised in Bulgaria (formerly communist). He remembers this happening but it was Stalin that provided the candy they prayed for.
  16. I didn't recognize Coach Keady. They were playing the music from the movie "Hoosiers" when they introduced the coaches. LOL
  17. And for the great stinky one, @mirkwood, 2 legends were honored at the Pacer game.
  18. Seriously, how has this not been discussed? It was an emotional day for Hoosiers.
  19. I recognized that it was more of a memento rather than an award for his own service. I'm not into the EU to know the details you provided.
  20. I'm gonna jump in here to say a couple of things after watching this last installment of cra....uh, Rise of Skywalker. First, why?why?why? Are people really that desperate to see gay kissing that they have to have it so prominent in this movie? Ugh. I should be used to it being in every freaking thing put out by Hollywood, but I suppose I'm still naive. And I hope to see Dominic Monaghan in a Star Trek movie at some point so he can be a part of the trifecta of movies...LOTR, SW, ST. Thank you, @anatess2 for expressing some of my thoughts on ignoring her parents, Palpatine winning, among other issues. I did have a little rejoice moment to see Chewy get his medal, although I felt he deserved the ceremony with it.
  21. Cracker Barrel has THE best pancakes I've ever had. Crispy edges, fluffy middle and full of flavor (before adding the butter and syrup). And for dinner, they have greens! My friends make fun of me because I'll often get 2 servings of their greens. Yum!
  22. I'm so glad you were able to adapt it. And I'm so glad to hear that my momma's recipe is finding the love with others!
  23. My husband has to work on Thanksgiving, so we are doing our own dinner the night before. It's just the 2 of us, so we decided that are musts are: Turkey (well, chicken in this case--we just can't deal with a whole turkey), stuffing, mashed potatoes, gravy, something green (green beans, this year), rolls, dessert (doing a sweet potato casserole, this year), and my husband needs cranberry sauce (I don't do that except as a jam for toast). I'm actually not big on desserts and I can't stand sweet things with my savory food. Hence, the sweet potato casserole is not next to my potatoes/gravy, but a dessert for us and my husband will enjoy his cranberry sauce with his food, while I'll save it for toast or a PBJ sandwich later.
  24. Yep, I have 3 gmail and 2 yahoo. Used to have a hotmail until it got hacked. There is only 1 account that is my "home" account with my personal info. All others have fake name...Like my first name is "First" and last name is "Last." Or first name is "A" and last name is "Bacon" or something like that. I use several accounts just to sign up for websites. For example, to use Pinterest, you need to have an email account. I don't want to get blasted with stupid spam email so, I use one of my "fake" emails to sign up. That email account has thousands of unread messages since I don't go into consistently.
  25. Why can't you just create another email account in gmail or yahoo? I have several email accounts. A couple are used simply to sign up for sites that I know is going to send me junk mail. When it asked for first/last name, I use something like "First" and "Last" (literally). That way, I'm not giving any actual information.