beefche

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  1. Two things helped me with my budget. First and foremost was get out of debt. I read a lot of books from the library on the best way to get out of debt (the LDS church has info on this as well). I took a little from everyone to come up with a plan that worked for me (I used Dave Ramsey and Suzie Orman the most).

    Then once that happened, I automated as many bills as possible. For the majority of my bills, I can choose the day for it to be taken from my checking account, which helped when I looked at other bills. My mortgage bill (the largest) is paid with the last check of the month. Therefore, I had most of my other bills taken from my first check of the month. That eliminated me having to worry about missed deadlines.

    I'm not sure where you are in your financial quest, but just something to think about.

  2. Rachelle, When making a major change, I have always found it best to make an appointment with a really good stylist, not the "walk-in" shops, but a salon with a 'known' reputation. Before you go, look through magazines and pick out several styles that you like. Take them to your appointment, and discuss them with the stylist. They are experienced and trained to know which of those styles would best suit you face and your hair type. They will also be able to tell you the amout of time and product each style would require. (Post the picture of your new "do"...:))

    I completely agree with this. I did this...cost me a lot of money, but I only used her that one time to get a professional opinion on style and color. Then I found my current hairdresser who just trimmed it (until I was ready for another style).

    If there is anyone you know that has nice hair (from work, church, neighbors, family, etc.) ask them where they get it done. Then check them out. Or look on the internet/magazine for your town's best voted hair salon. They will name a few that you can call/check out. You can call to get prices and that will allow you to decide if you want to spend it then or save for it (depending on your financial situation).

  3. I'll tell you where all the single girls are. They are in the Salt Lake area and the thing is they won't give you the time of day unless you 1. live within 20 minutes of them and 2. can show them your temple recomend whenever they request it. Oh and 3. as long as you meet their long laundry list of qualifications that most average men have no chance at. I guess that explains why they are still single.

    Nuh uh. Seriously? Or are you basing this on 2-3 chicks you asked?

  4. I have seen time and again that I can't go solo. I need help from others and I need help of modern day medicine to keep things balanced.

    I now go to church very regularly. I attend the activities. Right now I'm working on becoming a little more outgoing.

    It's too easy to fall into a comfort zone. Sadly that's how cliques are formed. I don't want to become what I hated most so I try my best to get to know the newer members or to talk to people I don't know very well.

    You hit it there, raggman. Even the most outgoing people sometimes feels shy to approach a complete stranger to introduce himself/herself. We can only do what we, as individuals, can do. So, as you reach out to others to make them feel welcome, you will feel needed and wanted and a part of your ward. I would think that if you befriend one of the newcomers, that you would feel even better. Find that one that doesn't seem to fit in or seems extra shy or you feel just needs you. And be a real friend to that person. Call/email him/her, offer to go to activities together, sit by him/her at church, etc.

  5. i can't really say for online but i know i've had this discussion with hubby. i will be hurt for a long time about an argument we've had and he will say it was just a disagreement and have no idea why i'm upset. i have very calmly repeatedly said....."honey, if at any point in a "disagreement" you feel inclined to say 'please, don't yell at me'.....IT'S AN ARGUMENT!!!!! and it will come back to haunt you" lol

    Hmmm, now that I wonder if men or women are more likely to interpret a disagreement as an argument.

  6. I applied for my CC permit 6/24 and haven't received it yet... :(

    HiJolly

    Hi, Hi.

    I applied for mine on 6/6 and received it around 6 weeks later. When I applied I asked how long it'll take and I was told 8-10 wks. I'm sure this varies from state to state, but it's probably a decent guideline.

  7. The reason why I ask the OP is because on another thread there were 2 people expressing their opinions. I, as an outsider, did not read any animosity, arguing, or anything negative. Simply 2 people expressing their opinions in which do not agree.

    Yet, person A felt that the thread had become argumentative. Person B made it clear that he/she did not feel that an argument had insued...simply 2 people expressing differing opinions.

    I've seen this on other forums or even IRL. When does a disagreement become an argument?

  8. Beefche, how did you get an animated GIF for your avatar?

    I have no clue. I found the avatar awhile ago and have used it on other forums. So, it's saved somewhere on my computer. I just downloaded as I normally do when downloading avatars.

    Sorry for such a technical explanation. Hopefully, you're not too much of a computer geek that you can't interpret my well articulated instructions.

  9. When does a disagreement turn into an argument? I see it so often in forums when 2 or more people have a disagreement that some will interpret as arguing (sometimes I agree and other times I don't). So, I'm curious on what your personal criteria are for when disagreement becomes arguing.

  10. Just to lighten the mood a little.........

    When your friends come to you for advice you can do the Lucy thing from the Peanuts comic strip. Set up a booth and charge $5.00 (she charges 5 cents, but hey, inflation!!!) and then give a very sarcastic or obvious answer. "Your arm hurts when you do that? Then don't do that." Just an option.

  11. that's a pretty broad brush. What about all the ones that are out for filthy lucre, like Swaggert, Baker, Hinn and the dozens of others that are looking out for only 1 thing and it isn't their parishoners well being?

    There is a reason why the Lord's church is set up the way that it is.

    I'm not going to judge individual's heart, motivations, and intents. But, yes, you are correct. There are those who are in it for money and/or power/prestige. But, I can say the same for the LDS church (although money wouldn't be a big issue).

    And I completely agree that the Lord's church is set up the way it is for a purpose. I just don't feel comfortable saying that paid ministers are bad or evil or imply that we are more righteous because our ministry in unpaid. I know a few pastors and they are good and honest people who are doing the best with the knowledge and beliefs they have. One of the strongest testimonies of Jesus I have ever felt or heard was by one of these paid ministers.

  12. Did you know if the church ever published their finances, it would literally blow every other church finances out of the water. Almost every church spends 95% of their income for their congregation every year. Many churches are in the red. The LDS church only spends like 10% of its income for each ward. Thats 90% savings every year for other programs in the church.

    Then of course if it ever is published, people will start doing everything they can to make sure the church doesn't have that kind of money.

    I'm curious...if this isn't published, then how do you get your stats?

  13. Ok, before this becomes a jump on other churches discussion....

    Let me remind everyone that there is much, much good in other churches. And their pastors and other leaders who are paid have good intentions and do a great work. The fact that they are paid does not lessen the work they do. We may not agree with it or even truly understand it, but they do believe that it is a job and a calling.

  14. bytor, I'm gonna have to disagree with your SP. I can't remember now, but one of the prophets (Pres Hinkcley???) gave a talk in GC and said something about how sad it is to see all the cars in the parking lots on Sundays at the mall/restaurants representing many Saints who are disobeying the Sabbath.

    But, regarding the OP, I completely understand. My family are not members and do not observe Sundays in the same way that I choose. One thing that has helped me is to really try to plan ahead. If I know that we are having a family get-together on a Sunday, I'll call on Saturday to make sure that we have everything that we need so if I need to go to the store I can do that on Saturday. I've also made it known by simply stating things like, "I don't choose to support businesses on Sundays. I'll eat a PB&J instead of the pizza, but thanks for offering."

    I have had to relax my standards somewhat with my family when traveling. While I expect them to respect my beliefs, I also have to respect them. There have been times that we've been out of town together or I've felt otherwise prompted to join them in eating at a restaurant on Sunday. It's a fine line and one we all have to define for ourselves.

    Here is an article that helped me when deciding how to observe the Sabbath. Again, I think Pres Faust is saying it's something between the individual and the Lord.

    The Lord's Day

  15. Hahaha. You know I used to have a huge crush on Mary Lou. That tells you how old I am I suppose.

    I can one up ya. I asked Greg Louganis to my prom--this was after he'd won so many Olympic gold medals. Wow, was I bold. Of course, this was BEFORE he came out.

    I'll watch gymnastics, basketball, and diving.

  16. and yet you followed the advice....i don't know what i find more freaky. that it was "advised" or that you took the advice. freaaaaaaky!

    I KNOW! What does that say about me? I realized that as soon as I posted. And yes, it was on this forum.

    I wouldn't have gotten the message had I not logged on. If I start getting email messages, then I will be freaked out.