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  5. Remember When it Was Frowned Upon to Say I'm a Mormon

    in General Discussion

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    I've been a member for over 25 years. I've never had an issue with being called a Mormon. I would simply say, "Yes, I am Mormon." If they ever called the church the Mormon Church, then I would correct them with the actual church name. If I were asked what religion I was, I would reply, "I'm a member of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, otherwise known as Mormons." And I don't ever remember being told that I couldn't call myself a Mormon. 

  9. Country Music - bother!

    in General Discussion

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    I love real country music. Not the country pop of today. My husband calls it crop, but I think he has the wrong vowel in there.

    Here are some great songs with a religious theme (these are older songs): 

    Go Rest High on That Mountain - Vince Gil

    Thanks Again - Ricky Skaggs

    Daddy's Hands - Holly Dunn

    God Bless The USA - Lee Greenwood

    Bless The Broken Road - Rascal Flatts

    Old and New Testament Songs (in particular, Noah Found Grace in the Eyes of the Lord, The King is Coming, Lord Is It I) - Statler Brothers

  11. So now I feel like a fool

    in General Discussion

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    Very sad. This says more about him than you.

    You can't control other people or their reactions. You can only control yourself. I would be sad about this, but I wouldn't let it affect how I am towards other friends. And I would do all I can to think kindly of this person. Seriously, it must be awful to feel such responsibility and think so evilly of people who you've been friends with. Doesn't mean I would open myself up for more preaching or anything, but I think doing my best to think kindly towards him can only be beneficial to me.

  13. How do I behave towards a gay colleague at work?

    in General Discussion

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    I find that as I get older, I become more and more blunt (just like they show in comedies--old people lose filters).

    "So, you have a gay co-worker and you want to show disapproval? Are you asking to be fired? Are you asking to be sued? Your job as a member of the church is to show love. You took upon yourself the name of Jesus Christ and as such you are a witness of Him at all times, places and situations. So, how do you treat your co-worker? As a son (daughter) of God. You treat them as a co-worker--respectful, compassionate, and loving. You don't need to show disapproval unless they are not doing their job--then you deal with that aspect, not their personal one. So, let's look at scriptures about charity and discuss what those mean...."

  14. What do you do when your garment tears right through a symbol?

    in Learn about The Church of Jesus Christ Of Latter-day Saints

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    Yes, I am sure there is greater meaning. You say it was in the garment bottoms. Obviously, this refers to the bottom of the bottle....as in hair dye bottle. So, this is a sign that you need to be a blonde now. As a blonde, you can have more fun, get more free food/drinks, and more confidence. Then, in turn, you can help others to have fun, give away your free food/drink, and then instill confidence in others.

     

  15. You know I'm gonna be difficult, but did I go too far?

    in Learn about The Church of Jesus Christ Of Latter-day Saints

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    I don't think you were wrong to tell them how you feel and set boundaries on how you will help. And yes, these young men probably don't realize that what they are doing is racist (or at least, perceived as racist). As long as you aren't being rude or harsh, instructing them will only help them.

    I can see them asking you to help with an investigator who may have some issues with the history of the church and the priesthood (addressing the 1978 revelation). As a black person, you will have insight into the objections and can provide testimony despite the history. But, again, if you are unwilling to go to the homes of people (your reasons are your own), then simply let them know you are unable to do so. Perhaps you could discuss it with them if they attend church. 

     

  16. Starbucks & beer

    in Learn about The Church of Jesus Christ Of Latter-day Saints

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    4 hours ago, dahlia said:

     

    1) Do you go into Starbucks? If so, are you worried that people who know you are LDS will think you are drinking coffee? For those in Utah, does Starbucks have a big selection of non-coffee drinks there?

    2) When you entertain a mixed group of LDS & non-LDS, do you serve beer/wine, etc.?

     

     

    1. Yes. Nope, don't care if they wanna waste time trying to guess and judge my intents and behavior. I find there are quite a few things there to drink without coffee or tea. But, I only go there because I got several gift certificates there for Christmas.

    2. Absolutely not. Besides my covenant to not drink alcohol, I abhor alcohol. I just don't think alcohol is a good thing to drink. I've been involved in planning parties for work, school reunions, etc. I flat out told them that I would help organize anything except any alcohol. So, someone else handled that for those parties. I'll go to dinner with friends who order a drink and that doesn't bother me (as long as they keep it reasonable. If they start drinking too much, I leave). 

    My non-member friends and cow-orkers know I'm Mormon and don't drink alcohol. So, while I've never insisted they don't drink while I'm around, they also know to not expect me to provide it or hang around if that is the purpose of the social event.

  17. Modesty, The Word of Wisdom, and Other Mormon Rules

    in Youth and Seminary

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    9 hours ago, RooTheMormon said:

    I often have lots of questions about what I can and cantcan't wear, what I cant drink, and what type of makeup is approappropriate for and LDS youth. Being the only LDS mebermember in my family, I cannot ask my parents about this. So I thought it would be a good idea to have a froum dedicated to these types of things. We can all help each other out as we try to follow our HeavenlyHeavenly Father and stay rightouesrighteous.

    Ask your questions to one of your leaders. It sounds like you are in Young Women. I can promise you that your YW leaders would love for you to approach them and ask if you can ask them questions. You can do so in private, if that will be more comfortable for you.

    When I worked in YW, I had some of the teens ask me: how do I wear a tampon? can I wear a skirt like this? isn't sex God ordained, so why wait until marriage? I thought iced coffee drinks was ok to drink? I don't understand this scripture, what does it mean? 

    Please don't think your leaders will think badly of you or judge you. They love you and only want to help you. 

  20. Receiving the Sacrament in another church

    in Learn about The Church of Jesus Christ Of Latter-day Saints

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    I agree that offensive terms are often used from ignorance rather than insult (in a lot of cases--obviously, they are used for insult very purposely by some). So, in order to help an ignorant person:

    @fatima, I know that apologies have been made and explanations given, but I'm trying to understand the offense that Vort gave so that I can know how to avoid it when talking with my Catholic friends. I don't see that he ever called the communion "cracker" (honestly, did not know that term was offensive--so that explanation was very helpful), so I'm still a little lost on what was said that was offensive. I'm really not trying to get the mud to be slung around again, just really trying to understand so we can avoid the offense in the future. 

  21. Just got endowments out.... garment sizing issues :-/

    in Advice Board

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    I went to Utah for a vacation and while there decided to go get measured for garments and temple clothing. It has been YEARS since I last bought garments and the sizing has changed at least 3 times since then. So, I got sized, then picked 3 types of material that I was interested in and bought a set in each material. It allowed me to try them out and then order them (I live far away from a clothing store). 

    Wow! I am loving the new fit! I didn't realize that my garments were so outdated in size and material. I wasn't embarrassed at all getting measured--very discreet and helpful. And I like my idea of buying a whole set in one type of material/size, wearing them and then deciding if I like the material and/or size. I thought that if I absolutely hated the material or size, then that particular set of garments would be my back up in case of laundry day or something.

    In one type of material, I think I'm going to go a bit larger as it is very snug....although in this type of material I'm kinda liking the snug fit. Very, very different than what I'm used to. 

  22. Worst/Best Story of Electronics Destruction

    in General Discussion

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    1 hour ago, anatess2 said:

    My kid got a D in a progress report, so my husband took his phone while we were driving around and chucked it out the window, then went back and ran over it.

    In another incident, the other kid got a D, we were at home, so my husband took his phone, threw it on the floor and shattered it.  What's interesting about this is - the phone was in an Otterbox.

    Needless to say, my husband eventually ended up getting them replacement phones (which basically means I get a new phone and they get my old phone, yeay for me) but my kids learned to make sure they have a solid reason and plan of action for a D on their progress reports...

     

    Why destroy them? Why not just take them, hide them and then return them when punishment time is over??