WOW, So many of the things that you brought up are exactly how I have felt. When I lived in an area that had small wards and branches it seem like everyone is working to help build each other up, and strengthen testimonies working together to find the answers that people need. Now I live in an area with lots of LDS members and large wards, and if you are struggling they don't want to know it. They don't want to get personal, help, or even acknowledge that you might have doubts or questions. I certainlly glad to know that you found the answers you were seeking, and I hope that we can all be helpful to those in need here.
Marty