unixknight

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    The Friend Who Started Hating Me

    Generally speaking I agree. Guys tend to be more likely to let you know what you did wrong, if for no other reason than it justifies a counterattack. (Not necessarily a physical attack. Retaliation takes many forms.) That said, people of both sexes who are highly confrontation averse might ghost you, or an introvert might ghost you for a while even if he's a guy but in general he'll eventually make sure you know what he's mad at you about. As I look back over friends I've lost, the guys do tend to be the ones that ended in a blowout, the women just disappeared. But that's just my own experience. For me, the biggest thing I had to overcome was to be objective, not only in being able to see where I had done wrong, but also where I hadn't. Misunderstandings happen, but sometimes people might get mad at you for no reasonable cause. Being able to tell the difference is crucial, because you can't maintain a genuine friendship by being a doormat.
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    The Friend Who Started Hating Me

    I've had stuff like that happen to me too. I had a similar epiphany but I got there via a different route. It occurred to me to wonder why *I* was the one bending over backward to fix things. Why *I* was the only one making an effort to communicate and find out what happened. How come the other person wasn't trying to communicate too? Why weren't they as invested as I was in clearing the air or, at least, clarifying what the problem was, whether it could be remedied or not? The answer was: Because I was the one who was invested in fixing it, not them. You can't make the other person care if they don't... and if they were your friend until recently, then it's been brewing a while and the fact that this is the first time you're hearing of it means they don't want to fix it and never did. That doesn't reflect on you. A good person who was a good friend would have spoken up long ago if these were legitimate issues. The fact that they didn't bring it up sooner suggests the problems aren't genuine. Yeah, it sucks and it's painful and you feel helpless because if they don't care then they don't care. You can't force the issue. All you can do is acknowledge that they're the ones with a problem. Maybe they've got a legitimate gripe or two, but if they aren't willing to talk to you about it then all you can do is disregard and move on.
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    Does God Manipulate His Children?

    I think manipulation is more about controlling others without them realizing you're doing it. If I threaten you to do what I want, that's not manipulation because we both know full well what's happening. The same goes for offering incentives, persuasion, etc. I once heard diplomacy defined as "the art of letting others get your way." I think that description more aptly fits 'manipulation' than 'diplomacy.'
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    The "Mandela Effect"

    I'd say those examples are more historical revisionism than the Mandela Effect.
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    The "Mandela Effect"

    And not to be nitpicky, but "Scotty, beam me up" isn't the same as "Beam me up, Scotty." Kirk never says "Beam me up, Scotty." Not one single time. People cite it as an example of the Mandela Effect but I don't think it is, because nobody actually remembers him saying it. (Or at most, they think they remember him saying it because they've heard every Trekkie in their circle say it.) It's just that "beam me up, Scotty" is the sort of thing that Kirk would say, so people just assumed he did and ran around making T-shirts about it. To qualify as a Mandela Effect, it has to be remembered in specific detail and by multiple people. So "Beam me up Scotty" would be Mandela Effect if a lot of people could point to a specific moment in a specific episode when they clearly recall Kirk saying "Beam me up, Scotty" but it's nowhere to be found. As an example, I've seen a Mandela Effect video or two where the guy claims that a couple of specific verses in the KJV Bible were altered because he remembers them differently.
  6. The title of this thread made me think of Ahmad ibn Fadlan's prayer at the end of The 13th Warrior.
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    Embarrassing likes

    2 things I wish about that: I WISH they'd used this as the basis for the D&D movie. The actual movie has nothing to do with the D&D cartoon... or the game, for that matter. I WISH I was the voice actor who plays that unicorn. His name is Frank Welker. You may know him as Fred from Scooby-Doo, Megatron from the Transformers cartoon, Nibbler from Futurama, or any of hundreds of other tv shows and movies. He's actually the highest paid actor of all time, owing to the sheer volume of work he's done.
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    Poll AC/DC vs Michael Bolton

    Well then it figures, since in the movie he's singing it to his own heavenly Olympian father, is he not?
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    Embarrassing likes

    Ok. I've been hiding this for too long. I've been living in the closet and it's time to come out, and admit the truth, both to myself and to the world. *deep breath* *exhale* Ok. Here goes... I like the Dungeons & Dragons movie. WAIT HEAR ME OUT I *know* how awful it is. I know how embarrassingly terrible the writing was. I know how cringeworthy the acting was. I know how miserably it represented Dungeons & Dragons as a game and a cultural icon. I know the Director and lead actor were stoned out of their minds when they recorded the commentary, and I know Dave Arneson wasn't actually in the room with them. I know how cheap the sets, the costumes and the props were. I know how derivative some of it was, and I know how utterly mind-numbingly pathetic the VFX of the dragons were. I know. It's just... it's just that the movie is just so much fun to laugh at. It's like a drinking game waiting to happen. "Jeremy Irons chews the scenery. Drink!" It's so awful but tries so hard that you can't help but love it... Like the mutant fish with the missing fin in an aquarium. He's not as good as the other fish, and in an actual lake he'd be eaten on his first day... but ya just can't help rooting for the little guy. Don't get me wrong... I can't promise I'd never punch Courtney Solomon in the mouth for what he did (and is still doing, with the rights battles) to Dungeons & Dragons as a theatrical property... but I just can't make myself hate this expensive little vomit cascade of a movie.
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    Poll AC/DC vs Michael Bolton

    I like Michael Bolton. Ever listen to the lyrics to "Go the Distance?" That song could be listened to as a hymn. I'm not kidding. Think about it. "Well done, thou good and faithful servant." Now read the lyrics with that in mind: I have often dreamed of a far off placeWhere a hero's welcome would be waiting for meWhere the crowds would cheer, when they see my faceAnd a voice keeps saying this is where I'm meant to be I'll be there someday, I can go the distanceI will find my way if I can be strongI know every mile would be worth my whileWhen I go the distance, I'll be right where I belong Down an unknown road to embrace my fateThough that road may wander, it will lead me to youAnd a thousand years would be worth the waitIt might take a lifetime but somehow I'll see it through And I won't look back, I can go the distanceAnd I'll stay on track, no I won't accept defeatIt's an uphill slopeBut I won't loose hope, 'till I go the distanceAnd my journey is complete, oh yeah But to look beyond the glory is the hardest partFor a hero's strength is measured by his heart, oh Like a shooting star, I will go the distanceI will search the world, I will face its harmsI don't care how far, I can go the distance'Till I find my hero's welcome waiting in your arms I will search the world, I will face its harms'Till I find my hero's welcome waiting in your arms
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    Van Halen Poll

    Dreams, with the Blue Angels video. Much luvs.
  12. In another thread, I commented that "hate speech" is one step away from "thought crime." I've been thinking about it over the weekend, and I'd like to take that back. Instead, I should have said "hate speech" = "thoughtcrime." They're not a step apart from each other, they're the same thing. Disagree? Show me the difference.
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    Quote search

    Which is why we have cargo cults.
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    Easter Bunny Gets Into A Fight

    No doubt. he goes on a breaking and entering spree every year.
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    Taking the Free Speech Argument a Step Further

    HAY I M OFFENDED BCUZ I M A DM AND I M NOT A SATANIST I DEMAND U TAKE IT DOWN AND U SHULD APOLOGIZE (WICH I WONT ACCEPT ANYWAY) AND U SHULD BE N JAIL BCUZ U R A NAZI
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    Stanley Cup Playoffs

    I was bummed about the Caps, but back to back Stanley Cups is a rare thing. That said, I do wish they'd managed to avoid being eliminated in the very first round. But it is what it is. As for me, for now... GO AVALANCHE!
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    2019 Weight Loss Group

    Yeah the tendency to stop pedaling is my son's biggest hurdle, now that I got him to stop leaning to the side and use the steering to correct when he starts to go over. I'm also letting him crash so he's used to dealing with that and won't be afraid. No serious wipe outs. He just gets frustrated. He's almost got it, we just need to get back to the park... which is more exercise for me too.
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    The "Mandela Effect"

    ...said the moderator.
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    Taking the Free Speech Argument a Step Further

    "Everybody's a winner!" culture from the '80s/'90s, which has produced a generation whose feelings are so fragile that they consider words to be violence. ..what does that say about them, I wonder, when they think words = violence and so quickly resort to insults, name-calling and attacks. I guess that means they think they're bringing violence upon us. Do you think they're surprised when we don't clutch our wounded chests and fall over dead?
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    Taking the Free Speech Argument a Step Further

    In this case, I wasn't talking about the right. I was specifically addressing the current phenomenon we're seeing on the left. Relax, bro. This isn't a "but the right does it too!" defense of the behavior of the contemporary left. Just pointing out the nature of politics.
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    Taking the Free Speech Argument a Step Further

    I think it's partly hypocrisy, but also partly myopia. Keep in mind that most of the loudest and most aggressive voices weren't even alive for most of the 90s, nevermind the 80s. To them, it isn't hypocrisy, because they never saw what it was like to be on the other side of cultural sentiment. The pundits and politicians making those noises? They're just pandering to the young. They know what they're doing. We all, on both sides, have a tendency to be more forgiving of shenanigans that are pointed at the other side and less forgiving of mistakes affecting ours. It's human nature. The more honest and rational among us try to be as objective as we can, but it's still a struggle sometimes.
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    2019 Weight Loss Group

    Great? Nah. But over the weekend I took my kids (and their new bikes) to that local bike trail. Mostly rode around as my son got used to his bike, and then we started practicing to remove his training wheels. I think most of the exercise I got was jogging along beside him.
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    Stanley Cup Playoffs

    I watched the Stanley Cup series last year and I gotta say, the Golden Knights home games were a lot of fun to watch. I mean, I know it's Vegas. They really know how to put on a show! Of course, as a Caps fan I wasn't rooting for the GKs but yeah...
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    The "Mandela Effect"

    My favorite is the one about Sinbad being in a movie called "Shazam." I was fully convinced of this one myself. Know where it came from (in my case?) When I was a kid I watched a cartoon show about a genie, and "shazam" was the magic word you'd say to summon him. He had dark skin. Later, Shaq did a movie called "Kazam" Combine these elements into a memory stew, add a dash of years in between, and voila! A false memory of a movie with Sinbad in it called "Shazam!" What's freaky is how many people share the same false memory... but it's not like my own movie/TV history is unique, so it probably comes form the same place for many people.
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    The "Mandela Effect"

    I think it comes form an article written a while back which stated (inaccurately) that he had died, and even included a photo of the funeral. An error, but a lot of people were led to believe Mandela had died because of it. I've watched a few videos on YT about the Mandela Effect and it's an amusing phenomenon to talk about. The idea is that it can be explained by one or more of the following: They've changed the Matrix, but some of us remember how it was before. There's a parallel Earth, and some of us are actually from that alternate world but have been transported to this one. Some variants of this story maintain that on the other Earth, we had a slightly different anatomy and that the Earth itself had slightly different geographical features. There's another Earth on the opposite side of the galaxy. Similar to the second item, but it holds that people have been moving back and for the between worlds. It all ended a few years ago when the other Earth was destroyed, meaning no new Mandela Effect differences have been observed since that time. Fun ideas, to be sure, but man, these people are sure of themselves. Too bad the strongest bit of evidence they are able to come up with is "I'm really really sure it was different before!!!! I remember!"