Angelkajm

Things right now in my life seem to be a crazy mess. I am so stressed that I can hardly sleep at night...............................so I am wondering if anyone has any funny stories to tell that might cheer me and everyone else up? In desperate need of some laughter...............oh and please keep it clean!

Becoming inactive is not very cut and dry. It isn't like you can pin point a person, a reason etc. I believe that we fall victim to blame "someone treated me poorly" or "I don't like my new ward" etc. Bottom line is that they are poor excuses because the "church" isn't the reason, it is people involved and no one is perfect. When we let others influence us like that it becomes very dangerous. Let me make this clear I HAD BEEN INACTIVE for most of my teenage years and early married life. I blamed it on not feeling included, not feeling this or that, someone hates me etc. I know some of you will be upset for me saying all this but THE CHURCH IS TRUE!, keep that the focus of why you worship and all the rest will fall into place. One way to stay active is to have a calling, something you feel responsibility for. I know that in our ward that is something the bishop works very hard on. Whenever there is a new member or a new family to the ward he will give them a calling right away.

Thanks! This is why I ask. It is nice to sit back and let someone else who doesn't have so many emotions in the situation give advice! I think I have just decided that obviously she will not be changing, I can't make her do that and I need to accept the fact that we are all people and things happen, we make mistakes. I don't think it is healthy for us to be under the same roof because not only does it cause tension with me and her, but also my husband and I and I want to avoid tension with him at all costs. We have a great relationship and I want to continue that. I think the best thing to do is let her finish out the month and kindly ask her to move on. Obviously it will be done in the best way I can to avoid the drama. I know I have something to learn from this so I will continue to have a better outlook on the situation and move on. Only thing I can do at this point right? I prayed about it and I realized that by having her there we have changed some of our family things. We don't pray together as a family so that we might not hurt her feelings, we don't pray at meals and we stopped having family home evening. I know that we all have seen how it is changing us and I would like to get back on track! No more being worried about her and her feelings and just make sure I am taking care of my family the best way possible! Thanks again to EVERYONE!!!

Also, she is 26 years old and everyone in the situation is over 25! My husband is broken over this as well. I struggle with the way he handles hard situations, he just shuts down so really he is no help in this situation. I thought everything was going to be okay................................

So she had my father in law pay the rent for the month. I almost feel like I can not take the money? How should I handle that and be fair?

My in-laws are not LDS and have made it clear that they don't believe and that they are bitter towards most because they feel like they are better than them. I only write that to give you a little background. Here is the first of my story.............my sister inlaw moved into our basement 2 months ago with her son. The arrangement was for her to pay 250 month and that would include all utilities, food, etc. This would save her money and allow her to get back on her own with out putting us under financially. Well the first month we had to remind her to pay and this month was another story........... Last week I gently reminded her and she said that she needed some time because she had just changed jobs and hadn't received her deposit back yet so I told her that would be fine to take some time and she told me she would have it by Friday (this friday). Well Friday came and went, no word from her and then saturday she got up in the morning, she hurried out of the house and never came back. So today we sent her a text saying "rent is due". She FLIPPED out on us! Seriously she packed up all of her stuff, took her son and called my father inlaw to come bring her money because she didn't have it again. That is not what we wanted! We simply would have been fine is she called us on Friday and told us what was up instead of trying to avoid us like she admitted she was doing. I didn't want her to move here in the first place because I knew something like this would happen. Well today ended up being a bash on me day. Apparently this is all my fault, I say horrible things, I do horrible things and again it is all being put on my shoulders as if I was the only one in this whole fight. So I came home to my father inlaw in my kitchen with a wad of cash and I looked at him and told him that I would not take the money. He looked at me with the horrible look in his eyes and said to me "you got your money, keep it" he would not say another word to me and then walked out the door. I feel HORRIBLE because she came up the stairs two second later and said to her, "are you seriously going to storm off? You are acting rediculous and I am not doing this today. You need to grow up and deal with your responsibilities." Then my daughter went to talk to her and told her to not talk to her because she was being rediculous. I FEEL HORRIBLE!!! I said these horrible things out of anger and never should have. I did send her a message on her phone because she would not answer. I simply told her I was sorry for saying the horrible things I said and I am sorry if I ever made her feel unwelcome and I told her I talked to my daughter about the horrible things I said so she doesn't feel like I hate her also. I just don't know what to do. No one in my family is talking to me as if this is entirely my fault and I am so upset and sad about it that I had to get into forum to vent because my husband is not supporting me on this either. I feel all alone! How do I fix this?