I would just like to thank you all for your responses and for sharing your experiences. You have helped me alot in dealing with my feelings.
My two biggest hurdles are that I have no choice but to have this person in my life on a regular basis and I know it would be far easier if I didn't have to and the other hurdle is that when I tried to resolve things with this person they refused to discuss matters. If I could change these two things I know I could manage it a lot easier.
You helped me to see that this is a process that can take a long time and that there is no quick fix. I feel strengthened and feel stronger to continue to deal with this situation for now anyway but it still distresses me very much.
Thankyou LM for explaining further that helped alot.
Dove, its good to hear from you again, I hope your ok, I'm still plodding, sometimes just one day at a time but I'm getting there.
Just want you all to know how greatful I am to be a member of this church and for all my Saviour suffered for me. It brings so much into my life, don't know where I'd be without it.