seeking_peace

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  1. When my so was that age, he did the exact same thing. One day he said, "Mommy, I love you with enough love to fill the earth and sky, but I love DADDY with enough love to fill the earth and the sky and the rocks and the trees, and the grass and the dirt!" I never let it bother me (I thought it was cute). I knew that he loved me, but I kind of created the situation myself. Whenever Daddy would come home, I would excitedly point out that daddy was home. It would be a big deal to see him. I was with him all day long, and there was no one to "throw a party" of get excited when I walked into the room. There will be phases when dad is the favorite and phases when mom is the favorite.
  2. 42. It was awesome. I welled up several times.
  3. I can't believe that I'm admitting to this, but I prefer the creepy Marilyn Manson version of Sweet Dreams over the Eurythmic's version. And, less embarrassingly, I prefer Seether's Careless Whisper over the original by Wham!
  4. I think that Dove's point is right on target. My son's bishop suggested that he delay his mission--it wasn't about LOC, WoW, or any of the other worthiness things that generally come up. But when he was asked about his father (who left us for another woman when my son was 16) a flood of repressed anger poured out of him. His bishop suggested that he needed to spend some time dealing with his anger and learn forgiveness before he could effectively teach the Gospel of Love and Forgiveness. It goes back to what Dove said about being converted before you can convert others.
  5. seeking_peace

    Bummed

    Ah. Go ahead and give it to her. She might surprise you and like it. BTW Bath and Body Works will exchange anything. If you try something and don't like it, you can trade it in for something you like better---even candles that have been lit.
  6. My ex-husband had once had a dream that he walked in on me and another man in bed. For days afterward he looked at me with suspicion. I had to keep reminding him that it was HIS subconscious, and not mine, that had me in bed with someone else.
  7. I didn't see it either, Skippy. I think that the parish may have updated their newsletter.
  8. Texas has 24 US military bases (in fact all Airmen go to San Antonio for basic training). The military provides a lot of civilian jobs to a lot of Texans.
  9. Your new avatar of a rainbow on the BSA fluer de lis looks like it is a statement in favor of gay men being allowed to be Boy Scout leaders. Is it meant to be?
  10. I've been single for 3 years now. I've heard your same complaint from many different single people. However, it hasn't been my experience. Maybe because I've lived in the same ward for so long, that I am not "that single sister." I am "Seeking" and everybody knows me already. In facet, I feel like I'm invited to more social events then when I was married. Either people feel sorry for me....or they didn't like my ex very much.
  11. When I was married, I felt weird going to lunch with a gay man that I worked with. Obviously, there was no sexual tension, but I still felt weird being at Wendy's with him.
  12. I tried to think of some reasons that Sister Poo-Face might have left you out of the loop. Perhaps, she thought that you were busy and didn't want to bother you. Perhaps, she is uncomfortable delegating tasks. Maybe it is just easier for her to do something than to explain the way she wants it done (and she might be the kind of person that thinks it can only be done her way). Maybe she hates making phone calls. Maybe YOU intimidate HER.... Ummm.... I have nothing else. Hopefully, now that you've explained the way she made you feel, things will be better and she will dump all the service opportunities in your lap.
  13. You are not being punished. Don't own his choices. In staying with him, you are not preserving a marriage. He is making a mockery of your marriage by cheating. If you truly value the institution of marriage, you will not allow him to continue mocking it.
  14. You gave be goosebumps, Eowyn. I've been blessed over and over by people following similar promptings. I was also told by a friend that a conversation that I had with her daughter was a direct answer to her daughter's prayer. It's a testament to me that Heavenly Father knows each of us, is aware of our needs, and puts other people in our path to help guide us.
  15. ..But, if you celebrate Halloween, it will prevent the cycle at Christmas!
  16. I only had one major breakdown during my pregnancy and it was over something much more trivial: I have a steep driveway. It was Autumn and it had rained. A bunch of wet, slick leaves fell on my driveway and as I tried to drive up it, the wheels on my car just spun. Instead of just parking the car at the bottom of the driveway and walking up to the house, I sat in the car and sobbed........ Yep, you're normal.
  17. You mentioned that you were going to miss the support of your ex and her family. How close were you to her family? did you have the kind of relationship where you could talk? If so, use them as a source of support. My son is your age, and his first girlfriend just broke up with him. It hurts me to see him heartbroken, but if she ever came to me with a problem or wanting answers, I would certainly support and love her.
  18. Britty, You are not alone. I don't think that I've ever talked to someone that hasn't felt that way at one time or another. It's not because of you, we just all get wrapped up in our own lives and forget to reach out. I've lived in the same ward for 20 years and there have been times when I've felt alone and times when I feel like I'm really involved. It comes in waves. Someday, you may have an amazing friendship with someone that you barely talk to now. I know that doesn't help how you feel now. But hold on. Heavenly Father loves you. I would talk to the RS president, though. Tell her that you need a different VT companion because you have a hard time going on your own.
  19. My ex husband NEVER helped out in the kitchen. Now I live alone. I think that I would enjoy having help, even if it wasn't exactly the way I would have done it.
  20. When I was married, we had the missionaries over to our house for dinner about once a month. When we separated, I stopped inviting them. One Sunday, they had signed my 16 year old son up for "splits" but since he didn't drive, I had to go with them. I mentioned that I missed having them over for dinner and they told me that I could still invite them, because my son was living with me. Before he left for college, I mentioned that I would miss having them over once he left, and they said that since I was over 30, they could still come over. I don't know if mission rules have evolved but no one has an issue with me having them eat dinner with me. I really think that it varies depending on the mission president.
  21. Hazelnut Tree (Extraordinary) — charming, sense of humor, very demanding but can also be very understanding, knows how to make a lasting impression, active fighter for social causes and politics, popular, quite moody, sexually oriented, honest, a perfectionist, has a precise sense of judgment and expects complete fairness. About 40% correct.
  22. And here I was, proud of my 101 point word. Now I feel inferior.
  23. Thanks, Dravin. I was wrong. It wasn't the 60's. It was January 1971. I was off by at least two years.
  24. Your husband is cheating on you. He's having an emotional affair and it is just as hurtful and heartbreaking as a sexual affair would be. Four and a half years ago, my husband did the same thing. He reconnected with someone that he knew in high school on facebook. She told him that she had made a mistake marrying her husband and should have married his. They "fell in love." Six months later, I came upon the secret email account that he set up so that he could communicate with her. It was the most nightmarish time in my life. To read their declarations of love, turned my stomach inside out. He promised to break it off with her, and I used it as a "wake up call." I thought the same thing that MOE said, that there was something missing in our marriage. I spent the next 4 months bending over backward to make my husband happy. He became the center of my life. My child, my friends, my church callings all suffered because I lived to make him happy. I honestly thought that our marriage was in a really good place. BUT, then I discovered that he hadn't broken it off with her. I told him that he couldn't have it both ways and he had to let one of us go. I t took him months and months of agonizing, trying to decide what would be the best choice (which was also very painful because the answer should have been obvious). Finally after 5 months of him wavering. I gave him an ultimatum. I told him that sometimes not choosing is a choice. If he couldn't make up his mind by a certain date (6 weeks in the future), I would help him pack. He waited until the assigned date, and asked for a divorce. She divorced her husband and they got married the day after our divorce was final.