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Erik, I'll refer back to Article of Faith #2 again. We did not inherit "orginial sin" we gained the opportunity to receive a body and work out our own salvation. Adam's Fall was not a "sin" but a transgression. The difference being that he was an innocent being and couldn't sin. To commit sin you must have knowledge, and Adam and Eve did not have the knowledge needed to make their transgression a sin. This transgression had to happen for the chidren of God to have the opportunity to come to earth and receive a body. We are all accountable for our own sins. We do not inherit or have responsibility for anyone else's sins including Adam's transgression. What we inherit is the priceless abililty to choose between right and wrong. By exercising their agency our first parents gave us the same opportunity they had to gain a body, and the knowledge of right and wrong. Your spirit sister, Applepansy

Welcome!

No we do not. The 2nd Article of Faith: We believe that men will be punished for their own sins, and not for Adam's transgression.

Thanks. . . I heard about it on KSL Radio today. After reading the Meridian article I sent a text to my adult children to go see it. :)

President Monson, November 1990 Ensign, Page 47 "I have always loved the words frequently quoted by President David O. McKay as he described you: “Woman was taken out of man—not out of his feet to be trampled underfoot, but out of his side to be equal to him, under his arm to be protected, and near his heart to be loved.” But the thought that never fails to stir my soul is the simple and sage advice: “Men should take care not to make women weep, for God counts their tears.”

secretsister, one more thing. . . REMEMBER: you are a daughter of your Heavenly Father. And as such you are entitled to respect from your husband. you're in my prayers

secretsister, welcome!!! From what you describe it sounds like he needs to see a doctor. I'm not sure you'll be able to convince him of this but maybe with the help of your bishop he would listen. The mood swings you describe are classic bipolar disorder. But abuse can also be caused by other issues and you shouldn't ever put up with it even a little bit. You are not to blame for his behavior. You shouldn't take responsibility for it or make excuses for him. Get Help!!! (((hugs))) applepansy

I think its cute!! and appropriate. just my two cents.

I'm not sure how to properly insert a Quote so I'll so it this way. Ruby Wrote: "I know I am to blame for the past issues that have led to our rocky relationship but so is my sister. I don't want to end up like your mother and sisters but I am not sure how to get past it when my sister refuses to acknowledge any wrong doing on her part or that my hurt feelings are just as valid. In the latest incident my family is requesting that I apologize for blowing up at her(which I should) but it hurts me when I ask them if they have talked to her about her apologizing to me(for hitting me) and they say she has no need to apologize. I will apologize when I know I won't get upset if her apology doesn't follow mine. Because I don't think I should be apologizing just so my family will be happy or because I expect something from it." An apology never hurt anyone and it makes you the bigger person and puts you on Christ's side. Then remember Forgiveness is not for your sister. Its for you. You have to let go of the hurt in your heart and let Charity move in. Read your scriptures and let the Atonement help heal your heart. You can truly love your sister even if she never changes or never apolgozes. There are books by he apostles on this subject. You CAN let Christ into your heart and enjoy this time regardless of all that is happening around you. Remember the only person in this world you can congtrol is yourself. Unfortunately that includes our children. Just kidding, I have a deep testimony of moral agency. Another point is that once you've forgiven and let the Atonement work its miracle, I don't believe you are expected to stand there and be continually "slapped on the other cheek" Space can heal a lot but only if used properly. Avoidance will not heal family issues. MissHalfWay wrote: "I love how you can leave your family and create a life and an identity for yourself, but you go back home and you are still the "problem child" or the "baby" of the family or whatever role you used to play." Been there done that. . . age 50 and still doing it. (my grandfather used to say "The older you get the more like yourself you become." His words helped me understand my parents and myself.) This is were Forgiveness and the Atonement come into place and Chairty becomes important. After 32 years of marriage my family has started to accept that I'm still part of the family. It didn't start to happen until I let the Atonement change ME! Until I forgave my parents for how I was raised and let the true love of Christ heal everyone involved. I had to change first, then their attitudes about me and mine changed. With time they have realized that my choices were best for me. Just a random thought: "Did they change or did my perception of them change?" :) Something off subject to ponder. The bottom line here is that family is the most important unit, period. Everything the church is about points to the family. We are not saved without them. We have been commanded to forgive. Ruby, I applaud your "getting busy" and volunteering at the local school. Wonderful!!! The best way to work through problems is to "forget yourself and go to work" as President Hinckley's father advised him to do when he wanted to come home from his mission. What wonderful advice for us all. May I suggest prayer too? Don't just try to put it out of your mind, Pray about it, then do your volunteering and service. You might be surprised at who crosses your path and has something that helps with the issues you're facing. Now. . . Relax and Enjoy your pregnancy. This is the only time you will have this sweet spirit all to yourself. After he's born you have to share. :) Please don't let these issues cloud this wonderful time for you. with Love Applepansy

'One you have yours your nephew will lose his appeal as well." Good Point. . .in my family the newst baby always got all the attention.

My heart broke as I read your post. I just wanted to reach out and give you a long hug. Have you dicussed your feelings in a serious way with anyone in your family? It sounded like this issue with your sister has been a problem for a long time before you were married. While hormones will send your emotions on a roller coaster that doesn't mean that the things you are upset about aren't real. Suggestions: 1. Pray about the problem (s). 2. Soften your heart and truly love your "enemy" (yes, family can feel like the enemy sometimes). 3. Tell someone in your family (your mom and dad?) about your feelings. Follow their counsel. 4. Maybe talk your sister to lunch and talk about your feelings. 5. Forgive!!! Problems are better solved with the Lord's help and a problem or feeling buried just grows. And finally, Forgiveness isn't for anybody but yourself. You can love others despite their behavior, even family. :) (((hugs))) Applepansy

canned, skinless boneless Salmon is a great substitute for Tuna. My husband gets bad heartburn after eating tuna. . . so if he's going to eat what I'm making I substitute salmon or chicken. I hope you enjoy making whatever you end up making

Hi, My name is Alison. I'm 50 years old, married 32 years (dated for two years, so known hubby for 34 years). We have four children... three boys and one girl. My oldest died in 1999 at age 21 in a car accident. My younger three are 27, 23-1/2 and 20-1/2. No grandchildren yet, hoping some day my kids will stop playing video games and hanging out and do some serious dating. LOL I have health issues that have left me disabled and no longer able to work. I miss working. I was born in the church. Having said that this is a church of converts and even if you're born to LDS parents and baptized at age 8, you still need to be converted and find your own testimony eventually. I look forward to chatting .... my most favorite thing to do. :) applepansy

Chapels are places of worship, where we go for weekly Sacrament meetings, Sunday School and Priesthood or Relief Society and Primary for the children. Temples are places where enternal covenants are entered into. Its a special place. I volunteer at the temple in Ogden Utah. I love to be there. I'm glad you're investigating the church and reading the BOM. applepansy