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I am sorry you considered it harsh. It wasn't meant to be harsh.

Congratulations!

I read a few posts and deliberately quit reading. My husband and I have been married for 38 years. There have been times when I/we considered divorce. If we had gone that route we wouldn't be celebrating 38 years. Has is all been happy? No. Has it been worth it? YES! YES! YES! 1. Marriage is about service. Its not 50/50. Its both giving 100%, 100% of the time. It won't work out well unless you both serve each other. 2. You can fix this marriage IF you want to. a. Make the Savior a partner in your marriage. That means praying TOGETHER as well as alone. It also means being honest with each other in loving ways. It also means neither of you get defensive. Being defensive destroys trust. b. Watch Fireproof (its on Netflix). c. Watch Mark Gungor (on youtube). e. Five Love Lanuages d. Find a counselor who will be fair and hold both of you to your commitments. 3. It takes both of you to make a marriage work. But it only takes one to start the behaviors which will fix the marriage. 4. Even people who start out not loving each other can have a successful marriage. But they have to serve each other and do the hard work a successful marriage takes. Its harder when you start without love but love can and will grow as you serve each other. One last thing: Nowhere in the church (scripture or otherwise) is divorce encouraged. The only time divorce is appropriate is when abuse is involved. That doesn't mean divorce doesn't happen, it does. What it does mean is that we as LDS members should have a deeper commitment to making marriages successful, especially when we've been sealed in the temple. You and your husband covenanted with Heavenly Father to be each other's spouse. You didn't promise your husband and he didn't promise you. YOU promised GOD! I wish you the best and hope you both can make it work out. You will received tremendous blessings if you can make it work. P.S. Whatever you do, do not bring children into this marriage until its stable.

This is the fence I want between me and the neighbor on our north.

was the fence on the property line or on his property or on yours? rhetorical question there. :) I have dealt with onery neighbors. We're currently living next to one. Thankfully there is about an acre between their house and ours...but we share the property line. If he pain for the fence and it was on the property line or on his side of it... inches matter... its good he didn't sue you.

I have to ask.. :) did you take it down? I agree "good fences make good neighbors" I've never heard the saying applied to the materials of the fence. I also heard it applied to a sturdy fence on a property line both parties agree on.

Wisteria will do well where you live. Also Honeysuckle and Morning Glory and there is another that starts with a C. brain fog moment. Anyway, there are vines that would do well. There are also bushes that make good fences.

In Utah Vinyl has a tendency to get brittle in the cold temps we experience here. Then a bump can crack the vinyl. They tell you that doesn't happen but the vinyl fence around our church breaks every year. I agree that with your feelings on chain link. My sister did a wood fence and then on the bottom 3 feet they put up horse fencing against the wood. That way the babies couldn't crawl under. We will probably do vinyl with wood underneath. Less breaking. And we will probably do the wire fencing on the bottom too. We live on a road that gets busier every year. Right now though the kids play in the back yard and in the wilderness :). (The wilderness is the scrub oak "forest" on the back 1/3 of our property.) There is enough room to play back there so its not an issue unless they want to ride bikes

I just read the following a book by Sheri Dew. She quotes Sahar Qumsiyeh (who lived on the West Bank and had to travel through great hardship to go to church in Jeruselem every week): "Through all the upheaval, she has learned that the "only true peace has to come from the Price of Peace Himself, our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ. The peace that the Holy Ghost brought into my life after I was baptized has remained with me during days of trouble and conflict." I don't think anyone has ever taught that we won't have trials or hardship, just the opposite. The notion expressed in Travelers post (quoted by PC) I believe is a misunderstanding. I know that I personally feel the Savior more (taste of the living waters more) when I focus on Christ regardless of the trials that are surrounding me. Sometimes I find it hard to do when I'm in the middle of circumstances and problems. I often forget. But then I find something that reminds me and the "living waters" do flow into my soul and circumstances aren't so bad.

The title of this thread is a description of my world lately. I want to thank you again for the reminder PC. When I've had a particularly bad day (in whatever way) I come read your post which reminds me that I need to focus on our Savior more. Thank you.

1st.... not our decision. 2nd... not necessarily

Yes, this one. Thank you.

I believe that wealth will come to those who use it wisely in the pursuit of following Christ. Example: My husband's neighbors growing up were amazing people. They didn't have money yet they found ways to help others financially and in all other ways. When I started dating my husband I heard the story more than once of the wife going visiting teaching, finding a household with a broken toaster, going home to get her toaster to give to the family who needed one. How I learned this was one day I heard "June gave the toaster away again". The husband was the same. They quietly and without fanfare served. They both served at the Ward and Stake level and later in life he served as a temple sealer. Several years ago they became wealthy.... millions and millions wealthy. And it grew. Their lifestyle didn't change other than he splurged on a new truck for ranching. He still wore overalls for work and suits for church work. When the wife died of cancer he didn't hire nurses, he took care of her himself at home with the help of their daughters. If you met them on the street you would have no idea they were wealthy. Their attitudes didn't change and they continued to help those around them, just in bigger yet meaningful ways. There is a scripture about seeking wealth somewhere but I can't think well enough to remember where it is. The jist is if we seek riches to to the Lord's work we will receive them. I think this applies to the GAs.

I trust the Scout leader and the scouts more than I trust CBP

That's where I found it. :) P.S. Next time I have to teach a lesson on prayer it will be held in the Kitchen.

This video touched my heart today. I hope it does your's too.

I completely agree. This situation wasn't a great lesson in anything good.

Holding a gun to an 11yo's head is child abuse.

This puts the missing Malaysian plane's fate in question for me.

Whenever I read these discussions anymore or whenever I hear the lesson at church and the talk about the lesson afterwards I have reminded of the following: Luke 8:5-8 5 A sower went out to sow his seed: and as he sowed, some fell by the way side; and it was trodden down, and the fowls of the air devoured it. 6 And some fell upon a rock; and as soon as it was sprung up, it withered away, because it lacked moisture. 7 And some fell among thorns; and the thorns sprang up with it, and choked it. 8 And other fell on good ground, and sprang up, and bare fruit an hundredfold. And when he had said these things, he cried, He that hath ears to hear, let him hear. So often we (me included) hear something taught that hits home in my heart. Instead of saying how can this apply to me I get defensive. We all do sometimes. Then instead of stopping and saying "how can I make it easier for my brothers" I hear and read threads like this.

Anatess, I agree. Both have a place in staying healthy.

Actually other than the spelling YES!

Spirit Dragon, have you listened to Dr. Wahls' explanation on Mitochondria? She explains why exactly we need to eat whole foods. She personally was dx'd with MS. She was in a wheelchair. She quit chemo and radically changed her diet. She went from a wheel chair to walking in months and in 8 months was riding a bike. I truly believe there isn't a disease out there that can't be cured with what Heavenly Father gave us - FOOD! Novel idea: Food as Medicine. But its working for me. I've been drinking dandelion root tea every day and my chronic kidney issues are gone. I also take Milk Thistle. I sweeten my tea with local raw honey and my allergies are nearly gone. I rarely take a Zyrtec anymore. I can breath. Last winter I saw a recipe for a natural decongestant. Radishes and ginger and honey. Surprise! Surprise! Works as good as Sudafed.

Pam, I agree with you that the over consumption of processed food is a big part of the diseases we are seeing today. I am shocked at the diets of my grandson's friends. its all in boxes. Nothing from the produce section of the grocery store. How did these 20-something mom's learn to feed their families? Probably by example and most likely because its convenience. I don't know if its all they way they were taught. I cooked whole foods. We had some processed foods because I worked and there just isn't always time. But... of my 4 children they only ones who learned to cook were the boys. My daughter makes MacNCheese. My boys bake bread. Yet, even my boys are quick to reach for the easy-pop-in-the-microwave options instead of preparing food. I don't think listening to the food media helps much other than to stay informed about our world. The only thing I've heard in 30 years that has been helpful to me was 2 small paragraphs (5 sentences total) blurb in a magazine 30 years ago about transfats. At the time my mother-in-law thought I was crazy to get rid of margarine in my house. I was going to kill her son with butter. Now all we hear is the dangers of transfats. I'm grateful my mother taught me about the importance of whole foods. I wish I had been better at teaching my children.

I will hang on to keepsakes until we become so destitute that we have to have money for food. And even then I would try to sell whatever keepsake to a family member along with the written story behind it. :)