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I don't think she needs to be more specific. Without "love" in your heart everything is grey. It doesn't have to be love for something or someone. Love is a state of mind.

You mean the progenitor of the Messiah, right?

The statement "you teach people how to treat you" used to really set me off. But as I've gotten older I've realized its true. Until you change your response to him he won't see a need to change. You can't change him but you can change your response to him. When you change the status quo he will no longer get what he expects the reaction will be to his abuse. He is getting something he needs when he treats you badly. When he quits getting that because you don't respond the same way then one of two things will happen, either the abuse will get worse thus making it easier for you to leave or he'll wake up and realize how hurtful he is being when he does the things you've described and then hopefully repent. Right now in the middle of a problem is a really hard time to forgive but it can happen. You need to change how you respond to him. What he's doing is harmful to you and your children but you have the power to change it. Because in the end the person he's hurting the worst is himself. Step 1 is to examine your reaction to what he's doing/saying. Then decide a better way to react/respond. Then do it. Step 2 is to reevaluate. Step 3 is to repeat Step 1. Make sure you pray, fast and pray, and pray again. Make sure your reactions/responses are such that the Holy Ghost stays with you. There might be a time when you have to leave, so prepare, but don't move forward from here thinking this will end in a broken marriage. There might come a time when his behavior escalates, be prepared. Put protections in place. Verbal abuse is often the beginning. However, everyone can change, including your husband. I wish you the best.

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I'm a bit confused. My cookie?

It probably is a reminded to attend the temple or do your genealogy and find a family name to take to the temple.

Thank you! It worked

I tried. It didn't work

anything on BYUTV. :) We love Granite Flats and the one that finds people randomly and tells their stories. We watch Shark Tank sometimes. American's Got Talent has been fun and I've enjoyed The Voice. I have to admit I love Big Bang Theory. :) I haven't kept caught up with the last or new season through. No time in the evenings with homework, dinner, bath and bedtimes. By the time I sit down to watch TV its 8:30 or 9:00

Its great you have a friend you can do that with.

When I log in on my laptop I can't post. Its not showing me logged in. But when I log in on the desk top its fine. Not sure what is missing on the laptop and I don't know how to figure it out.

Have you tried the other relationship searches?

Unless you've made the living connection in your tree then it won't show up. But as soon as you put in the living people and one who is deceased (like a grandparent or great grand parent) then the tree will populate and then the relative finder will work.

Thank you for the link. I'll use it the next time I teach a family history class. :) What surprised me is that it doesn't show the people I did know about.

Interesting

I completely agree with JAG.

Talk to your Bishop.

Congrats. I'm starting again soon.

We're not suppose to do that now too?

I guess I'm old and old fashioned. I always do two spaces after the period. Two spaces increases readability. If you pay attention in printed books there are usually two spaces. I really notice when there is only one.

When are volunteer organizations "required"? It is always appropriate to quit something that interferes with family time and resources. I can say that buy have never been a military wife so I have no clue about that part.

I haven't had cancer but I worked in hospice. We found that anything we could do to help them continue to have quality of life was what was most appreciated. Cancer patients also need a place to talk about their feelings and be heard. Sometimes this means we hear some really hard things without saying things like "You can hang in there." "This will get easier." "You'll beat this." Sometimes they need to be able to talk about dying without judgement - just listen with love. On a more day-to-day basis. Finding the foods/dishes they can eat without throwing up and delivering it hot and ready (or something they can microwave when they feel up to eating) is very helpful. Sometimes its just a good friend to sit on the porch with.

Zucchinni is always icky when mushy. I cut it in julienne strips, toss with your favorite oil (avacado oil) and Italian Seasoning and roast on a cookie sheet until crisp tender. I also cut it into bite size chunks (1/2 in.) and put it in homemade spaghetti sauce. Its also good in Homemade Mac N Cheese. You back the Mac N Cheese, then add the Zucchinni slices on top for the last few minutes and top with cheese. My family will eat it fried. 1/4 inch thick slices, dip in egg, flour, salt and pepper to taste and then fry in oil in a frying pan. Will your husband eat salads? Shred the zucchini and add on top. Jerry Seinfeld's wife wrote a cook book about hiding veggies in other foods. I bought it. I don't use all her recipes but I use her ideas with my own recipes. Such as, pureed cauliflower in Mac N Cheese or pureed spinach in brownies. That's all I can think of off the top of my head. If I think of something else I'll post again.

Yes emotional abuse is just as bad or worse than physical abuse. If there are already kids in this marriage then both parties need to double down on making it work. Its better to repent than to destroy a family, especially one with children.