Kaelee

I have never liked the idea of my teenage boys being asked personal questions by the Bishop behind closed doors. My husband has overruled me each time. It's just creepy, I can't imagine ever letting a daughter be grilled by an adult man about personal habits.

Your son shouldn't reach 400 pounds if you don't have junk food in the house and you prepare nutritious meals. Sure, he will get some junk out of the house, but if you make your house a healthy haven then he should be fine. It would also help your husband. And if he (your husband) is the one buying it, just tell him you will pitch it. Totally reasonable under the circumstances. Here's the hard truth. Your husband isn't going to do anything about his weight until he wants to. No amount of pestering or nagging will change that and probably makes it worse.

Since she told you weight was an issue, are you working on that? It seems like you just dismissed that. I work hard to take care of myself because I think it is important not just for my health and self esteem but because it isn't fair to my husband to just let myself go. My spouse's weight would be an issue for me. Luckily, it isn't.

Please don't drag any more children into this. Maybe down the road this situation will be more stable but not now.

Please, please, please do not have children until you are completely devoted to her. PLEASE!!!

So sorry this is happening, but this sounds like a wise move.

Do you want to be married to a controlling man who cheats?? That's what you have. He said he wouldn't change the controlling behavior. That is alarming. Run.......

Sounds like she needs to get a job to pay it back. And don't use the kids as an excuse. If they see mommy going off to work to pay for her responsibilities, they will learn from it as well.

I love juicing. I have done an 11 day juice fast and a 17 day juice fast. About 10 days without solid food is my limit, then I get bored. So I just juice daily and eat one healthy meal, generally. It is very satisfying. I would consider myself a lazy juicer. I juice enough in the morning for the entire day, then clean it all up. I can't imagine washing everything several times a day. Also, I LOVE the mean green, so I mostly stick to that. Sometimes I add spinich or carrots.

Wow, took forever to wade through all of these posts. I can't find anywhere the age of your children (to the OP). Are they old enough to explain that they are to stay away from this person? Older primary children would be capable of understanding. As for leadership, I would ask the Bishop what the plan is to ensure children's safety and then tell him you are getting all of the children a whistle to blow if he approaches. Also, you might tell the guy if you ever see him near a child, you will call the police to the Church building immediately. Just some thoughts.

Could you get a job to make up some of the difference?

If you are a decent person and it seems like you are, please let the wife know what happened. I would send her a letter and cc the boss, his boss, everyone up the chain and an attorney, with facts only.