SUSIE

dont know what to do my marriage is over and i am no longer in love with my abusive husband of 28 years and the energy he drains from me everyday is so hard to live with. Plus his profanity is so bad and a spirit of contention is always in his presence and so difficult to go as he has siad he would probably kill himself and if this happened i would feel so guilty. The Bishop and stake president would not support or help me, so i am vertually on my own and feel as though God has let me down in a big way. I have found lately that my prayers are not getting answered and only pray and talk with jesus as he is the God of this world. I have tried to help him realise want will happen to him if he does not repent and come back, but his pride is too strong and he is so selfish it makes me feel so ill inside. We have been sperated living together in my eyes for 3 years now and and i do not know where to go from here. All i know is that i would feel much more at peace if i were to live by myself without this constant contention and feeling of evil around him all of the time. Please can someone help me . Susie

Thank you for your answers, but my husband has no interest what so ever in doing concerning God or the Lords church he is completely under the power of satan. I read and study the scriptures twice a day and have had much revealed to me concerning the Kingdom of god and i also know that my husband does not have a good spirit and only joined the church to get me and this is probably why our marriage has not worked. My 3 girls have grown up and left home, one of them the eldest is married and the other 2 are living together. I try my hardest to set a good example for all of them, but sometimes it becomes very difficult as I feel the pain of them all having the gift of empathy is both a blessing and a curse. I am no longer in love with this man and not sure what to do as it has become very draining for me living with him. So have gone on night shift as to avoid him and try and do my work at night when it is peaceful, as satan cannot use his followers against us when they are asleep. We were sealed in the temple 24 years ago, but I felt nothing as he was not worthy to go and I myself was not ready. Our Bishop called me into his office one day and told me that Jesus came to him in the Temple and told him that myself and my husband were to be sealed as soon as possible. I did not think or feel that he could get personal revelation for me and if someone could tell me if thi is possible i would greatly appreciate it. If this was to be I feel that I myself would have had revelation and felt right about this , but I did not and feel as though my free agency was taken away from me. Love Susie

SUSIE I can relate 2 you as for 28 years my life with my husband has been pure hell on earth. As he abused my 2 girls from a previous marriage and me as well and now after years of prayer I have given up on him and am no longer in love with him. I do feel sorry for him that he has thrown away what could have been a perfect relationship. I love my Saviour with all my heart mind and soul and he comes first in my life and I have been blessed to have had many spiritual experiences of which i use to share with my husband. But he thought I was a witch and took me to see 2 Bishops and they told him not to worry as things that I experienced and my gifts come from God. I dont want him to come back unless he puts the saviour before me or it will just not work and I feel he only joined in the first place to get me and this is probably why our marriage just isnt working out. I have been to Bishop and told him but he does not believe so I have no support there and feel very lonely at times. My 3 girls have also gone inactive so I am on my own and it is very lonely at times and I hat the saying endure to the end. I just wish i could find true complete happiness with a worthy preisthood holder who is compassionate and Puts Jesus before me. I feel Satans presence a lot around my husband and this is very draining and besides women are more spiritual than most men as they are grounded and it sais in the scriptures that men are carnal and devilish. I know it is their pride that is their downfull and I do feel sorry for them. I dont want to divorce him , but my Life would me more peaceful by myself as satan is using him to try and take the light of the Gospel from me as well. I know I must hang in there and it has helped to hear other women are in the same boat and I do empathize with all of you. But I do feel that the Lord would not wish for us to stay in an abusive marriage and these men are just big bullies wanting to take control of us. Well must go to bed and nice reading your quotes Love Susan

Hi ghostrider I am a member of the church and have healed myself from many afflictions with herbs that God has made for the use of mankind as stated in the WORD OF WISDOM. For strained muscles buy Hilde Hemmes Comfrey cream as I severly pulled muscles in my back right shoulder and pain was so bad, rubbed the cream into it and within 20 minutes pain was gone and never came back. Also buy some calcium and magnesium tablets as magnesium is a muscle relaxent this will also help. I have been studying to be a naturopath for 23 years and with the help of Heavenly fathers knowledge have been taught many things pertaining to our health while here in mortality and they all work. God has created a herb for every illness known to mankind for us and to strenghten our bodies and I am so surprised that not many of his children use them. Even Joseph Smith was a doctor of natural medicine and used herbs and did not trust in doctors after revelation from GOD telling not to trust them only in the herbal Kingdom. SUSIE

Dear Rachael, First of all is your husband a member of the Church and are you sealed to him for eternity? I love the D&C and have studied it from the beginning to end and keep reading it all the time as it is my favourite scripture. Please read D&C 121: 35-40 and your answer is there. Also the Lord does not expect us to stay with these abusive men as they are just bullies and only wish to control their wives making them feel all powerful but the opposite is true they are very weak men and you need to srtand up to him for yourself by using the scriptures as an example. They need to be put in their place and also go to the Lord and pray for guidence on what to do you will get a feeling about it if it is the right decision to leave or stay. But if he does not get professional help there is no way he will improve and the situation is only going to get much worse. These men put on a false self at church and come home and abuse their wives and children, plus no-one believes us because they only show to others what they want them to see. But remember dear that the :ord see's all and hears everything, and your husband has lost the spirit of the Lord and satan has entered into him and once he takes over it is an uphill battle. I have told my husband if he does not learn to respect me then there is nothing left and I shall be given to another man in the eternities if i am worthy and that seems to have made if think twice about abusing me. He is slowly starting to improve, but until he comes back to church and puts the Loed before me then I hold no hope for his salvation and I feel sorry for him as he will end up with satan as he has rejected the Lord and put him to an open shame crucifying him again. Please do not have any children by this man until you have sorted out where you are going to go from here, but you are special and a daughter of our Heavenly father and he will deal with your husband in his own way and in his own time, but you do not have to put up with this cursed abusive situation. Please feel free to write to me and we can become freinds and I wish you to know I love the Lord with all of my heart and soul. Love SUSIE

Charley thanks for your reply, but I have my family mum and dad and sister in the Church, but they do not show any charity and when I was very sick for 5 years they never even came to see me or even gave me a get well card. I was so devestated and I shall take this pain with me to my grave. I only trust in Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ as they are the only ones who care for me and have been my constant companions through my trials and tribulations. I am always the one who has to ring them to see how they are and I know that people are on different spiritual levels, but it seems to me that a lot of Gods children take the Gospel for granted and maybe I feel all I have been through has bought me closer to our saviour and I have walked in his shoes and have a very deep empathy for him and what he went through for all of us. My experience is that sometimes friends treat us better than family members of which I find very dissappointing as I am not like this at all. I did put myself into a private hospital in January for 4 weeks and rejuvinated myself and if I have to shall do this again. SUSIE

Hi i am going through a very difficult abusive marriage as well and also I have read Dallin Oaks view on divorce. But how much is a women suppose to go through before she breaks down. I have the greatest respect for the Preisthood if used righteously. But my husband is inactive and the spirit of God has left him. I cannot take much more of his controlling behaviour, so I have sought help from a phsciatrist as my Bishop will not help me and it seems that the men stick together when it comes to marriage problems and dont believe the wife. I am active and going it alone, which is very difficult as well and my 3 girls are also inactive. My family live in another town so I have no support system there either. I have faith in God and I am in no situation to leave him can someone please give me some advice on what to do. I am no longer in love with him and only have pitty that he has thrown away what could have been a special relationship and our temple marriage. SUSIE

Hi everyone, It is great to be able to share the Gospel as I find that most of the Members of my ward dont have any interest in Gods Kingdom as I myself do. I have been a member For 28 years now and what a joy it is to be free from spiritual darkness and coming into the light of Christ. What a wonderful man he is, and the all consuming love he has for all of us is so overpowering. I felt his love for me 2 months ago while watering the garden late at night i could feel his presence right next to me even though a veil was covering him. As the scriptures say that he walks amongst us and the pure in heart shall feel him or see him. I have been so lonely now for 15 years as my husband has gone inactive and my 3 girls also, so i am the only one left with a strong committment to God and our Saviour and i gues this is why i joined this forum to be able to share my love and experiences with you all. take care and remember jesus loves all of you SUSIE