JaneDoe

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  1. When is the time to give up with this relationship? I say now! I was in the same situation 5 years ago. Dated someone who had and still has issues with the law of chastity. Married him. Every day is a constant battle. He is a sex addict. He said back then he was trying to change, continues to say this, but nothing has changed. I have finally made the decision to leave. You are lucky that you haven't married this boy yet. You have a chance to find someone who lives their life according to the gospel. It sounds to me there are plenty of red flags here. There are plenty of other worthy men out there who will treat you like a queen. Don't settle!
  2. I'm trying Pam. Trying to have faith about what the future has enstored for us. I'm nervous, but I know it will all work out.
  3. Thanks, Pam. I need all the luck I can get right now.
  4. After being in a marriage for over 5 years, married to a spouse who is a sex addict, I've decided to set sail on another ship. I'm exhausted, mentally and physically from all the wrong choices he has made that have affected our marriage. He has not shown any signs of improvement. He talks down to me and our two children when he certainly has no room to speak. I'm tired of it. Tired of hurting. Tired of the cycle he puts us threw. Ugh. Now where to go from here. All I can do now is turn this hurt and pain over to the Lord and have Him guide me. I don't know where we (my daughters and I) will go, or what I'm going to do from here. I have a college degree. I can get a job, but I hate the thought of having my girls in day care when I've been the one caring for them since they were born. A lot of things are about to change and I pray and hope things will look up soon...
  5. Eowoyn, no he doesn't have a smartphone. We have pretty good filters on the computers. Thank you, Slamjet. Your comments are always very helpful.
  6. JudoMinja, I don't think he's really, truly striving right now. It seems like a lot of going through the motions. I've seen him strive in the past, but I think he may be giving up on himself. He doesn't see much hope in himself since he hasn't gone long without giving into temptation.
  7. Rm, Yes, he knows what the triggers are and so do I. Latest mistake. He rented the new Xmen movie. We watched it together. He turned his head during the inappropriate parts. I forgot to take it back to redbox, and was out running errands. He watched the inappropriate parts then messed up. Told me about it. He told me when we were dating that he was an addict. I've known the whole time. If I could go back in time, I would definitely change it. I had a choice then, but now it's not so easy. I hate the fact that he's looking at women like they are a piece of meat. He's fantasizing about their body parts. His brain is warped and needs a lot of healing. I've talked to him about it multiple times. In anger and calmly. I've written him letters also explaining my feelings. Sometimes I just don't want to be around him.
  8. I feel like I might be slipping out of love with my husband. Since he's a porn addict and makes mistakes on a weekly basis. He still attends his PA meetings twice a week and goes to church on Sunday. The day he gives into temptation, he tells me. I appreciate him telling me. At the same time though, I'm getting fed up with the same reasons of why he gave in. It's frustrating. He's wearing me down and it's depressing. I hate that he brings that crap into our home. He knows my frustration yet still does this. I want to be married to a WORTHY priesthood holder. Someone that I can go to the temple with. I don't know if I should just hang in there and continue to pray that he will overcome this even though he hasn't made much progress so far. Or find someone else that is worthy to go to the temple with me. I'm lost and don't know what to do.
  9. Lust will only take him so far. It has a dead end road. Some men obviously don't realize this until they reach the dead end. True everlasting love is what will bring them back to the right place they need to be. Satan is crafty and will continue to try to entice them to make wrong turns. Try to be strong and know our Heavenly Father is mindful of us. Pray, pray, and pray always. I know it hurts like heck, but keep your head up and try to replace fear with faith that your husband will overcome this.
  10. Yes, it is easy to bypass. I think I'm getting gray hair from worrying about all this mess.
  11. So my husband wants to be actively involved in helping him overcome his addiction to pornography. He doesn't have to look at naked images on the computer to have a relapse. There are things that trigger him in lustful thoughts. His thoughts are his worst enemy. Clevage, inappropriate clothing, short shorts, swim suits, covers of magazines at the grocery store, etc... All these types of things trigger thoughts in his mind and he relapses. So I've been proactive in avoiding going places that would have women dressed this way, but are we suppose to live in a bubble our whole life? When does he take responsiblity and learn how to have self control? Look away. Don't double take. Don't stare. Think wholesome thoughts. His brain is damage. I realize that. I love him dearly. He asks for my help. He wants my help. But how much should I really be involved? It's a daily battle...
  12. So we did end up getting the IPad and now I'm thinking it was a mistake. Hard to put a filter on all the aps. Ugh. Already had issues with my husband looking at inappropriate things. F R U S T R A T I N G.
  13. Thank you for doing a cost comparision for the two. Honestly, I think I'm excited to get an IPad because of all the different apps there are out there. It will also be easy for my husband to have research up on the IPad while he is writing papers on the laptop. As long as we have a good filter installed, I think we'll be ok as far as the pornography issue goes.
  14. EasyBib is a free app that you can enter the ISBN number of the book, and it will do all the APA citing work for you.