Mahone

We were planning on flying back to England this Christmas, but that isn't going to happen now based on finances. I have no more concerns about being in most European countries than the USA

I'm something of a hoarder of computer kit that I obtain through various means. My wife puts up with it more than she used to, mostly because she has now realized it saved both us and others a decent amount of money. It's a fairly common occurence that people come to me with broken equipment and components that need to be replaced. Broken graphics card? I'm pretty sure I have a 3 year old one in a drawer somewhere that you can have. Router stopped powering up? I've got a box of them I can replace it with. When we moved to the US last year, I had to leave all my spare kit behind. I got asked to look at a ladies TV briefly a couple of months after we moved here and quickly determined they needed to replace their HDMI cable. I've got loads of them saved up in my 'hoard' in the UK, but none of them here, so we had to go out and buy one. Unless you order these things online, they are pretty expensive. I think target has them for something like $20 which is crazy for a basic cable. They bought it that day as they wanted it quickly and I replaced the cable. Later that week, I was back at her house and had to go into the garage. I found a box of old cables with at least three HDMI cables in. What a waste of $20 - I took it back to the store and got the money back. She may not have known what an HDMI cable was or what they are used for, but if she hadn't kept them, she'd have lost that money. I also have a copy of windows 3.1 somewhere... believe it or not, it's been useful at least once in the last 5 years - some companies still use this operating system today, including the LDS church.

It's probably not so commonly seen by Americans, but those of you with British friends on Facebook may have seen posts from the group calling themselves 'Britain First'. They are a far right group that are blatantly racist and post so much factually incorrect information that I deleted two friends on Facebook for the sole purpose of not having to see that stuff on a daily basis and I was fed up of correcting it with information from reputable sources. I think a few people deleted me over the years but I never took the time to see who.

I had my phone go off during a job interview once, many years back. I could have sworn I had switched it off before hand, so I assume I knocked the power button and switched it back on as I got my wallet out to show my ID. I apologized and diverted the call to voicemail, but in my haste I still didn't immediately switch it off. The caller, not taking the hint that they had been manually diverted to voicemail subsequently called me again 15 seconds later. Not surprisingly, I didn't get that job. Incidentally, the persistent caller was my sister asking what we were having for dinner.

That's what people keep telling me, but my single (albeit expensive) experience in an American hospital suggests this isn't always the case. We were both unemployed at the time due to our circumstances and discussed the bill with the hospital for hours. Not only did they refuse to reduce the bill by a single cent, they also refused to negotiate on how much we paid per month. Our monthly fee is fairly significant considering we had no income at that time.

When I first moved to the states in September last year, I was unemployed - the visa process made it extremely difficult to move here with a job lined up so I had to just leave my previous position in the UK and move here. So that meant until I got a job several months later, I had no insurance. As we have universal healthcare in the UK, I'm accustomed to being able to go to the doctors or an ER without having to even consider the expense. Not to mention the fact that I'm pretty healthy on the whole - the last time I saw the inside of a hospital for myself was about 20 years ago and the same with my wife. So we decided we could go without insurance until I got a job. We needed our savings for other stuff. As sheer bad luck would have it though, I did end up in the ER a couple of months after after we arrived here. I was still unemployed at that point and we ended up with a multitude of different bills totalling to something like $6000. I got those bills in January 2015 and I'm still trying to pay them off almost a year later. I was not happy and cursing the lack of universal health care for a while.

I don't believe either of these are known to have been said by Einstein.

My father was/is useless at most things and I don't think I've ever seen him successfully repair anything, let alone show me how to do so. My wife is in a similar situation so we've having to learn a lot for ourselves. The primary difference between us is that I always try to do something myself first through research and trial and error and occasionally fail so badly that I waste a lot of money and have to call a professional in to fix the original problem and reverse amy damage I caused, at which point I'll watch and listen to ensure I learn for next time. My wife skips the DIY attempts and just calls a professional.

In the UK in the 1960s through 1980s it was common to hear mother's warning their daughters to avoid the mormon missionaries because they would kidnap them and take them back to Utah. There were several variations of this, but many who grew up during this period recall bring warned to avoid them for similar reasons

If it proves difficult to leave a public review or find another way to get her attention, cut your losses. Remember your time is also valuable - don't invest any more of it in her. It's not worth it for the minor amount of money that was lost. A few years ago I fell into a tourist trap. Thankfully I only lost a very small amount of money and realizing immediately that something wasn't right, I left. I read online later that many other tourists haven't been so lucky and ultimately lost hundreds of dollars before figuring out what was going on. At first I was angry and tried to find the culprits but they had disappeared. Then I felt grateful that I'd realized quickly enough to prevent any major loss, aside from my damaged pride for falling for it in the first place. In the famous words of frozen, let it go...

I feel the same way. "It only goes down hill from here" and "these are the best years of your life, enjoy them" are snippets of things I was commonly told during my teenage years. Well intended but very misguided advice.I too had an horrendous time during high school and I have little desire to attend any reunions they might have and no desire to ever again meet most of my fellow students from that time. Not that I have much of a choice anyway as I'm now living on a different continent which makes such things impractical. I had to endure 5 years of it as well, as that's how long high school lasts in the UK. All I can say is, my life improved dramatically since then. We finish high school at 16 in the UK. I'm 29 now and I've never looked back.

What exactly are the concerns of those who teach their children to call their parents first? What is their reasoning?

I would normally recommend that you continue in the position for at least a year before quitting, for the sake of your resume as much as anything else. But it doesn't look like this will be feasible in your situation, so try and give him as much notice as possible as a courtesy, more than what you are contractually obliged to if necessary. This will give him more time to find your replacement and will be less likely to burn bridges. In my last position, my contract stated that I had a three month notice period but I ended up giving four as per their request. I agree that your family takes priority and you shouldn't feel any guilt. But offer to do what you can to make the transition easier.

How? If he is in the USA after the 90 day tourist visa expires and before he gets his spousal visa, he is in the USA illegally and that in most cases is grounds for a denial when he applies. He has to apply outside of the USA. It takes over a year in many cases between the date of application and getting the visa. It took me 1.5 years. That time had to be spend outside of the USA.

I've been through the immigration process from your cousins spouses perspective. Firstly, it's been a couple of years since I had to deal with it, but I'm pretty sure there is no mechanism for transferring from a tourist visa to a marriage visa while in the country - it has to be applied for outside of the USA. It's different if he is here on a fiancee visa transferring to a marriage visa, but I'm pretty sure what they are doing is illegal, whether they know it or not. I'd caution them to check this with USCIS. If he is here illegally, its grounds for a denial and a ban when it comes to applying for a visa in the future. These bans can last from 10 years to a lifetime and believe me when I say USCIS have no sympathy. It's also worth noting that a courthouse wedding with no real wedding photos or guests won't look good when the application for his visa is made, and he wouldn't be the first to be denied on this issue alone. Secondly, I have a great deal of empathy for them both. When I got engaged to my wife, I was accused of using her for a green card by members of her family and members of my family were mocking and taunting my wife both behind my back and in front of me, despite having never met her. I think much of it was -because- they had never met her and our relationship was fairly unusual due to the long distance involved. So I understand why they made the decisions they did, but I suspect they did it under a misunderstanding and no real experience of going through the visa process.

I've lived in the states for almost a year now. I still look to the right first when crossing the street. It's a wonder I haven't been killed yet.

I get this a lot as well. It didn't affect me financially as I'm not self employed, but it did end up eating up a lot of my evenings and weekends. Eventually I started saying no; the exception being when the bishop asked on someone's behalf, and the requests stopped coming in. Now that I go to a new ward, I just don't tell people I work in IT and they don't ask me to fix their computers. That said, I can understand why people attempt to find a friend or associate to look at their computer first. I don't often have need to enter stores like best buy, but when I noticed in passing how much they charged for really basic, simple stuff like malware removal and/or a cleanup, I did a double take. It's the digital equivalent to replacing a washer in a leaking faucet in terms of simplicity (most of the time. It can be more difficult occasionally) and yet they are charging hundreds of $$ for it.

Likely a SYN attack and is usually well protected against at the network border. This kind of attack won't ever hit the webserver most likely, even without cloudflare protection.

Cloudflare is often used by websites to protect themselves from DDOS attacks, and yes, the message you are seeing is a symptom of enabling the "I'm under attack" option within the cloudflare control panel. The only reason you'd do this is if someone was actively running a DDOS attack against your website, and that is probably why lds.net was offline for a few minutes too. The 5 second redirect you are seeing primarily means standard HTTP DDoS attack traffic will never hit the lds.net webserver. Instead, the load is taken by cloudflare themselves who have a much larger infrastructure and are more easily able to handle it. As long as cloudflare has been set up properly, it's actually really quite difficult to DDoS a website using it to the point that most attackers just give up.

I did actually smirk when I read it. But I use the mobile version of this website almost all the time and it doesn't show 'likes' by default, so frankly I keep forgetting the ability to do it is there.

I believe vort's comment was an ironic joke

For what it's worth, you don't even need third party software to do this and it seems a little overkill to install a bloated application for such a simple task (assuming just a white list and nothing else is what you really want). If you're sure that you want a local filter, not a network based filter, then the creation of a simple proxy PAC file will do the trick - it'd only take a few minutes to create and implement and i could write one now and post it to tje forum for you to use. Essentially you'd tell your browser that if you're visiting one of the white list sites, send the request traffic through the normal route (direct). Anything else, send the traffic to a location that doesn't really exist and the website will then obviously fail to load. I actually did something similar a few years ago in a corporate environment when the network filter was temporarily playing up for a particular website and not blocking it as it should have been.

It's a lot more difficult than 'teamfamilywall' makes it out to be, and having his account deleted makes no sense from a security perspective.Firstly, to intercept passwords sent in clear text, you have to be sitting somewhere between the users computer and the server that hosts lds.net, otherwise known as a man in the middle attack. It's unlikely that anyone using this forum is in such a position unless they work for a major internet service provider. Secondly, if he was following IT security best practices, he would be using a unique password for this forum, so if it was intercepted, the most the hacker could do with it is log onto his account on his forum... not a big deal. He was using a unique password, I'm sure... Thirdly, he could have left his account undeleted and it would make no difference to any security vulnerability regarding lack of SSL. Just choosing not to use the forum and not log into his account would have been just as effective. So yeah, he is making a big fuss over nothing*. * I'm not understating the importance of SSL, merely pointing out his overreaction in this particular circumstance.

The phone ban has been in place for a long time. It was already firmly in place when I worked at my local temple for a period of time in 2007 - eight years ago. It was drilled into me at the time by multiple members of staff and the temple presidency and I witnessed several people being told politely but firmly to not use their phone at all while in the temple, including one instance in the cafeteria. I personally was instructed not only not use my phone, but to never physically carry it past the lockers - that was just before my endowment. There was never any exception given to this rule, such as what the phone is actually being used for. It doesn't matter unfortunately, they are quite strict about it. So it's not a new rule by any means. The temple worker should have been a little more diplomatic, but they were right.

When you agree to manage a group of people, whether as part of your position at work, at church or online on an internet forum, you have you accept from the outset that you won't be able to please everyone with the decisions you make, and not everyone is going to like you. It's unfortunately part of the role. Had you allowed this, you'd have the issue of precedent to deal with. That rule would suddely become a lot harder to enforce and a much larger group of people would become upset with you, causing you to feel even worse than you do now. You made the right decision.