this is my first time posting something hehe so i dont know if i am doing it right or wrong...i agree with toast....Mary male, or female needs to get some counsling, and start to take some steps to move forward, and become Indepent. Its how we learn and grow, step by step....and toast i am very proud of you, keep up the good work and move forward....remember non of us are perfect if we were we would be translated. Its all a learning experience, and we all have our own emotinal baggage , or stuff or (crap) we have to deal with...SO just keep moving forward...And try not to forget Your a Child of God...and He will help you... :) p.s Plus do we really know if this person is able to live on there own..? hum, Maybe thats why we can judge? Do we know the whole story??