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When it comes to weightlifting it will depend on your goals. If you goal is to trim the belly, then I would start on a daily cardio routine. I would start walking at least 30 mins per day. Of course at your pace. I would start there, and also cutting carbs at night and increase protiens and have a good breakfast. I purchase resistance bands which i love. I started a new program called P90X, but its super hard. I wouldn't recommended until you have been working out for awhile. You should check our craiglist for cheap items.

Wow, I didn't expect some many replies, and after reviewing it, I came to the conclusion that if both consenting spouse agree to it, there is nothing wrong as long as they don't disrespect another. I believe that being in love requires a bit of lust for the other person. Especially when young couples get married. This is where I find mine self. Wife and I are both under 30 and just starting our new lives, and we don't want to get bored, so we are willing to have an open mind, but we also want to keep our house a heavenly home. When we got married, we were just told that to respect each other. I think if the church had a stance they would of told us, like everything else teach us. We have a word of wisdom, law of tithe, how to raise our kids, how to spend our time with family and work, but never really mentioned on how to behave behind closed doors. So, to my conclusion, as long as with no animal, or others partners (swingers) it for the spouse to decide. I believe that sexual relations is very important because it brings the couples closer. My dad also told me, if you are not making love to your spouse, then you are sinning. Its all about being able to have fun in this life but with moderation. Also, each generation has its own values. Things that might seem normal to me, doesn't seem normal to my parents, and so forth.

Is there any sins that someone can commit when are "sharing time" with there spouse? I was told that the church does not enter into the bed room as long and they don't disrespect there spouse? Thank you

I just wanted to Thank You all. I am humbled by all you comments an sincere posting. Each one of you gives me strength to finally kick this habit. I am truly humbled for each of you expressing how you feel and even sharing your struggles with this addiction. I have decided to read, pray on a daily basis. Its true that I been depressed. I guess getting laid off and not being able to find a job doesn't really help my depressing. There is so much that I been going through emotionally that I been unable to get my life in order. I decided to start on my routines of exercising and being a better husband. Alot of these problems I brought upon myself. The reason why I don't talk with the bishop yet is that I spoke with him before about this problem, but I will see what happens these next couple of weeks and make a decision then. Again, I will keep this posting updated with my progress. This time is for good. Again thank you again.

When I work up this morning, I decided to check who would respond for my plea for help. I didn't have to much hope that someone would read my long post, and take the time to actually reply. I was overwhelmed when two special people felt to reply to me. It made me fill up with joy. I felt so humbled with the reply, and I wanted to say thank to you both for taking the time to reply. My whole life I had an abundance of goods. I grew up in USA with everything I wanted and sometimes didn't need. The reason I say this is there is one passage in the scripture that rings in my ears all the time. In Mathew "For unto every one that hath shall be given, and he shall have abundance: but from him that hath not shall be taken away even that which he hath. And cast ye the unprofitable servant into outer darkness: there shall be weeping and gnashing of teeth." This scripture is constantly in my mind. I know that I been blessed more than I deserve, and still I unable to do my part as a priesthood holder. You see, I look at peoples that have less than me, and I often ask myself, why do I have more than my fellow brethren. Sometimes it seems unfair for me to have so much and those outside this country that have so little. During my mediation I come up with an answer, and that answer is "Yes, you have material possessions, and a comfortable lifestyle, BUT is your soul saved?" This makes me think, that we are here only for a spek of time. Maybe those that have given less, less is expected from them. But for me, that have given plentiful, such is required. I have made a commitments before to over this addiction, and I do last a few months. Just like clock work when I usually become unhappy at home, then I fall back. Georgia2 post that I need some counseling, and I do agree with you. I know what my underlying issues are. Most of my issues starts with my life at home and the relationship with my wife. Even though we love each other and have a lovely family, we have very disrespectful arguments that leave permanent scares. You might say that I love my wife, but I am not in love with my wife. This sadness me because she is love with me. I couldn't have asked for a better spouse and partner. We thought of getting divorced various of times, but we both come from family with deep roots and we don't really want to disappoint our parents. Especially now that we have a child, we are trying extra hard to have a better spirit in our home. Ether 12: 27 Has really become my favorite scripture, " 27 And if men come unto me I will show unto them their aweakness. I give unto men weakness that they may be humble; and my grace is sufficient for all men that humble themselves before me; for if they humble themselves before me, and have faith in me, then will I make weak things become strong unto them." One thing that I have always lacked in my live is to have true unwaveringly faith. I guess I skip that step in primary and went straight to baptism. I never really had faith, and now that I need it the most I am unable to find it. My Dad, was always a preach of repentance because of I should fear God wrath. He always thought us that if I didn't come back to church and become fully active that God will punish me some day. This is one thing that never made me feel comfort. I guess this is my spiritual "make up" to fear God more than to really love me. My life has been a personal struggle not of material possession, but a struggle to be in this church. I know that we are part of this world, but not OF this world. Its like Lehi dream when some lost hold to the iron rod. Unfortunately the things of the world attract me. Something those attractions lead to more than just thoughts, but actions. This is where I am now starting my new life. I feel that I am at the trough of a mountain and to reach the summit is going to require a lot of work and dedication. My biggest problem in my life also is consistency. I am always able to start something, but never able to last for long periods of time. I am going to do what Justice advise me, that I read Moroni 7 and be able to have that leap of faith for the first time in my life.

The reason why I am posting this thread is because I have no where to go. I was born in the church and raised. I come from a very good and spiritual family. Its kind of embarrassing to post this thread because I never needed to ask for help from no one. I come from a family where the church has deep roots. I was raised in a family that where my parents are leaders and always had very high expectation for there children. My whole life I been shelter from the real world until I was about 15 years old. When I was 15 years old I started to experiment with drugs, alcohol and pornography. I know that it might seem bad to indulge in those activities, but I did it out of rebellion to my parents. As I practice those sinful acts, every Sunday I was up on top of the sacrament table, preparing,blessing and distributing the holy sacrament. As I grew older, I knew that I needed to go on a mission. Basically I didn't have a choice. I was 18 years old and my dad was serving in the church so I had the opportunity to go at that age. Before I went, I was able to overcome all those sinful practices and I went on a mission and I returned honorable. I loved my mission and I loved the growth that I had so spiritually. As, I look back, and ponder some more, I don't believe that I really gained a testimony about the church. I know that the church is true and all, but I guess to me it make sense to be a part of this church. Its the church that makes the most sense. So anyways, I came back, and I didn't really have any addiction problems and all. After about a couple of years back from my mission, I started getting to friendly with my girlfriends. I believe this is how it all started. I never did anything to really get me in trouble, but I would skip sacrament because I knew that I wasn't worthy of taking it. A few years later, brings to me where I am today. I got married to a beautiful wife. I couldn't ask for anything better. We got married in the temple and now we have a beautiful baby. About an 2 years ago I started to look at pornography again. I don't really remember how it started, but I started to flirt with such sinful act. Now, 2 years has passed and I constantly trying to battle such addiction leads me to write this long blog. I have prayed many times, but I feel that after so many prays and so many confession (I never really changed my sinful habits), makes me believe that the heaven are closed until I am able to prove to the heavens that I am worthy to get back into the fold. I haven't really spoken to the bishop because I am very shameful of my dark secrets. Unfortunate the only person that is really getting hurt other than my self are my wife and our baby. I don't feel worthy to be able to bless my baby in case of a sickness and specially I don't feel worthy to go to the temple with my wife. I haven't been really active in church also this past 2 years. I go to church but I am not really there. Its not that pornography is a daily addiction, but its once in a blue moon that I start to surf the net. I just need some advice on how to get a start on my new life. They say the first step to overcoming an addiction is to first admit that you have one. So, I admit that I have an addiction and I just want to overcome it and not be a salve to such shameful and sinful acts. As anyone been able to overcome this problem? If so, what has been done? I don't really want to talk with the bishop right now, until I am able to really proof to myself that I am at least able to start this by my own. Most people my say, hey are you reading the book of Mormon, and the answer is yes and no. I don't read it very day, but I do read it about every Sunday.