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  1. SweetJester

    FUN TOPIC: Things to Ponder

    True story: I applied for an internal job...so I requested my resume from HR and had to resubmit it to them...seriously, went back in to the same file. *shakes head*
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    Well I guess it is ok to do that.....

    Kinda related, however sorry for thread stealing: I rent a room in a friend's home...I am not allowed to do this as he is an unrelated male?
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    Dating before divorce?

    Thank you, I was feeling a bit...upset, overwhelmed with the abruptness of some opinions, although I can appreciate the kind intent beneath. I also am thankful for everyone's comments and am open to the advice (I have learned to not ask for it unless prepared to receive it)! Right now I feel like I have a piece of paper that ties me to this man and now I am waiting for another piece of paper that tells me I am not. We were married by a JP and no sort of religious ceremony. By law I am still married and I will respect that, yet I look forward to the day I will (if it is in Heavenly Father's plan) be sealed to my eternal partner in a temple. I choose not to be bitter about this and am able to talk to my ex without feeling any attachment beyond wishing him well as a fellow human. Time has brought me to that. Hopefully we can continue to sort out the details together and finish this as gracefully as possible, considering. I entered into my marriage naively and am coming out of it with my eyes wide open and in NO rush. Thankfully M isn't in any rush either. Waiting will not be a problem and I know he will wait for my divorce to finalize. At least with the long distance we are forced to not see each other often regardless so that would make it easier to wait. I feel very new in church and am relearning the basics. LOL :) I have a great non-LDS friend base with the same basic morals that are good for me to be around. My best friend even offered, and came with me, to church the first time I went back so I wouldn't have to go alone. Not a lot of people my age in my church, those few there are have a busy family and their own lives however I have met nice people that are friendly. Our two wards recently combined (as they were quite small on their own) so that should help! I will look into what activities there are offered. Thanks for your thoughts. ~SJ
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    Dating before divorce?

    Ok, well thanks for the advice everyone. I wont go into details however I won't be reconciling with my ex. I will make an appointment with my bishop and go from there. ~SJ
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    Dating before divorce?

    I live in Canada, (and in my situation) you have to be separated a year in order to divorce. I haven't lived with my ex (and bare minimum contact) since Dec. 2007. So yes.
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    Dating before divorce?

    I think I am posting in the right area. I didn't know whether to post in the Singles area, since I am not really..? A bit of background info: I was baptized when I was 21 and left the church not long after. I married a non member and we ended up separating in Dec. 2007 after over 5 years of marriage (no kids). I met a wonderful, active LDS man (I'll call him M) in Sept. 2008 when we were both on holidays in Europe. I truly believe we were meant to meet and he feels the same. We fell hard for each other and kept in touch ever since (we live 4000 km's apart and in different countries)! LOL We get together when we can, talk all the time and it is going great! I returned to the church in Dec. 2008 and am feeling confident and happy about being back. I know that even without this amazing guy that I would stay a part of the church, I have my testimony back and am thankful. My problem is this: I am still not technically divorced! Everything is in motion towards that (of course M knows about this). It could possibly take until summer until the divorce is finalized, possibly sooner. I have prayed about what to do regarding dating M while still technically married and I keep getting the feeling that I can proceed. M and I agree that once I am actually divorced we can plan a lot easier. Right now we are in the "exclusive to each other but lets keep it fairly quiet" stage. Our close friends know, and my family and they are all supportive. Are we doing the right thing? I know this is a silly question and I am not sure why its bothering me considering I have prayed about it and feel I am on the right path. Thanks for your help! ~SJ
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    Hello everyone! I was baptized when I was 21 however left the church not long after wards. I was away 7 years (and married to a non member in that time) and am have been separated over a year now (no children). I just returned to the church last Dec. and I am enjoying it very much! I feel a lot happier and complete I look forward to these forums and reading the threads!