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You're correct on #1, I'm also very shy. I've gone to a few of the YSA activities, but I'm not a real social person, and I avoid some of the activities (dances) like the plague. On the first two dates, I was introduced to them and only got to know them briefly in church... then later I looked up their number in the directory, is that a bad way to ask someone on a date? Being shy, I'm not sure how I'd get to know them in church really. Thanks all for your help

So I basically feel like several others here who are getting older and not married yet, but I have a couple questions. I'm 27 and started going to the YSA ward recently. (I should note that I had no prior dating before this which is embarrassing, I guess because of work/school and being in a family ward when all the singles are in the YSA ward). I dated one girl, but she turned me down after the second date. The second person I dated I went on because I wanted to get to know her better, but I didn't find her attractive really. It went really well though, and I'd ask her out again except I'm worried that I think of her more as a friend than someone I'm really interested/attracted to (and I don't want to give her the wrong impression). Actually, the first one is the only one in the YSA ward that I feel is attractive. Am I shallow? So I've only been on 2 dates but find that I'm not interested in anyone else in the ward, and I'm not sure if I'm going to find someone as I keep getting older (I'm not looking forward to 30!)