Soul_Searcher

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  1. I usually wear bikinis. I Dont think you can be worried about modesty issues if u intend to get partially naked and swim in front of strangers. Either I think is fine. I wear short-type bottoms most of the time as I am fairly curvy around that area lol. I am also curvy up top so bikinis suit me better as i can choose the size.
  2. I was goin to say service too. You really get to know members and whats going on in the ward-the heart and hub of the ward is in service.
  3. Hubby would only be upset because I kept it from him, not that we slept in the same bed. Gwen I didnt help him as a) its a bit weird of him to ask me and b) what he was asking was so ridiculously impossible it was almost laughable!!! I agree really, past should stay in the past :)
  4. I agree which is what I have done. Was interested in peoples opinions really.
  5. I should also mention that my hubby has hinted he has got up to things in the past with girlfriends-nothing serious just the usual getting carried away you do when ur kising or whatever if u no what I mean. i havent asked about it because I dont care, it doesn't matter at all to me.
  6. OK, My last boyfriend before my husband contacted me recently asking for help to propose to his girlfriend, of all things... Now, he is not a member and we only dated for a few months about 6 years ago. However, when we were dating, we shared a bed. We did NOT have sex or do anything bad apart from one time. I did more with my hubby when we were dating. In his email he told me how much he respected my decision to not have sex before marriage and I taught him so much about relationships. He also said if it wasn't for me he doubts he would still be with his girlfriend as their sex life diminished after the birth of their daughter, and because he had been with me he realised sex wasn't the most important thing in a relationship. He mentioned a couple of other things and my stomach turned over when I read it because my hubby was sitting right next to me. I have never told my hubby that we slept in the same bed, and because it has been so long it would be a big deal if I ever mentioned it now. I have also never confided this to a Bishop. The thing is, when I was in YSA I had lots of male friends and we used to share beds a lot, including with my hubby before we were married on seversal occasions. I dont want to be looking over my shoulder in case this comes up again,which is unlikely as I mever see him really maybe once ina blue moon in town or something. Just wondered what everyones thoughts were on this???
  7. Welcome, I get good vibes from ur post. Hope u enjoy it here!
  8. I wouldn't let my daughter do it if I had one. I worry when my hubbys home 5 mins late and he's a fully grown 30 year old, never mind a 14 year old sailing alone round the world, even is she WAS experienced.
  9. He's the ward clerk and the stake member in question has a grudge against him because he got a divorce.
  10. Ive had a great day. Had my appointment with the consultant gynacologist who said we can start our treatment in as little as 8 weeks if we want, and we will be having it at a specialist centre in London, At St Barts hospital! Very exciting.
  11. I didnt get asked all the questions by the Stake either. My Dad didnt get asked any, it was more of a chat.
  12. We are not like u Americans over here lol. I have maybe recieved one gift from VTers in my whole life and that was a Christmas. If they cant make it that month they just ring and say sorry I cant. Im the same. End of lol.
  13. I thought it meant that too!! Incidentally, what happens if you dont get asked the question? My hubby didnt get asked if he worse garments so does that mean he doesnt have to wear them?! (Bit of a flippant question Im not totally serious but still....)
  14. Well I disagreed with the prom thread so I'm not being hypocritical! Who says they are even endowed anyway? Its none of our business if they are and risky to make assumptions. Not wearing garments isnt immodest anyway. Does that mean we are immodest when swimming or sleeping? If I wore a burkha but didnt wear my garments would I be immodest?
  15. We dont really do anything in particular-We have a pay-as-you-go meter so we can control what we put on it. Maybe now that the clocks have gone back we will put 20 quid a week on it. The gas we would put 15-20. But we are hardly ever home so we dont use that much. We only use it at weekends and for 4 hours in the evening. Haha theres my tip-Dont be home!!!
  16. I agree with bcguy-My Mums a hoarder and I have just waited until she was out and binned stuff. I binned stuff 6 years ago and nothing has ever been said about it since. I think the problem is if she sees it, she will want to keep it. Dont ask her, just do it. I do a similar thing with my husband. He had a load of crap lying around in the spare room. When I asked if I could give it or chuck it he snatched it out of my hand and clutched it to his chest like he was a child and I was the Mother taking his toy away. Still unconvionced he would EVER use it, I bagged up a load of his stuff and shoved it in the loft. 2 years later he hasn't realised they were even gone. So you know where they are all going to end up when we move..... I think de-cluttering the house would be therapeutic for u. It is for me, and I think it would help to order your mind too.
  17. I was goin to ask that too Seattle. Ive had tp read books for school before that my parents wouldnt have thought appropriate. However, in the grand scheme of life and the eternities it was not really a big deal for me. My hubby works on a building site and hears worse things that I ever could have read in that book. Is he not supposed to work? I think if you feel you should stick to your standards of course you should, but sometimes I think we as members have a tendency to overreact. If it was a reativelty small thing, like a half hour show, I'd probably just suck it up. Just my opinion, not saying thats what you should do. But the problems I would have caused if I had spoke out about a book with one or two swear words in would likely have ostracised me from my classmates as an entire new book would have had to have been chosen, just for me, and I dont think that would have been fair. I was bullied at school as it was and this would have made my life an utter misery. Im sure God understood and was happy with my decision, and so was I.
  18. I think it looks fairly wholesome in a 50s kind of way too. It couldnt get more sickly sweet! Its not like they have their boobs hanging out. I think its harmless.
  19. 4 out of 5 of your questions involve worries about your husband. Maybe reading between the lines here, but is your marriage happy? If not is this a way for you to escape your marriage problems? Would your husband be supportive and accepting of your choice to go back to church? If you know that you have problems with your marriage then perhaps some counselling is in order. I think your question number 5 is very telling-I think you feel this way already. Whatever you decide to do regarding the church, I think you need to sort out the problems in your marriage too x x
  20. I did a french exchange when i was 13 but it was only for 2 weeks. I would highly recommend it to anyone, its great to see other cultures and families and religions. If its for a year, thats a long time for a school age child. We do 'gap years' over here where students take a year out after school before they go to uni to travel etc. Maybe that would be a good idea so she doesnt get behind with school. I wouldnt worry about the church side of things personally. If she was 18, it would be upto her to make her own choices by then anyway. If you feel you brought her up right then there should be nothing to worry about anyway x
  21. Me and my hubby LOVE golf. He has his own clubs and we live on the back of a golf course. We go all the time, its so fun, a great way of spending time together and exercising. x
  22. Im sorry that you are going thru this Elgama. Could you sit in on the class? If not maybe have her with u in Sunday School, or failing that go to another ward for a while? This is probably what I would do in that order x
  23. I havet read any of the thread, but seeing my Dad cry showed me he was human, sensitive and I respected him all the more for it. Same with my hubby who is a very sensitive and emotional person. One of the reasons I fell for him. I ALWAYS avoided macho men who never cried or showed emotion. Men who cry are real men to me.
  24. You're focusing on what he doesn't have. Focus on what he DOES. Why did you marry him? Does he love you, treat you well, is he a good Father? These are the important things. I love my husband no matter what religion he was. He is the number 1 thing in life, even before the church. I wonder why you married him if you want a member husband. Because you 'love him' isn't enough of an answer as this obviously isn't enough for you judging by your post.
  25. Go for it. You dont HAVE to live with members. If they have women over the worst that could happen is you bump into them in the kitchen in the mornings :) You may as well give it a try and if it doesn't work out you can always move out. If theres not gonna be any drugs dont see what the problem is really. They sound like respectable people.