Wants2Know

And by the way, it's fine that you dint "get it". It's very difficult to conceptualize. Hence, why it's important to listen and HEAR what someone like Jenner has to say about his experience. Maybe you will learn something :)

Leah, I happen to be a qualified mental health professional, yes. Transgender issues,are no more of an illness than being gay. The antagonism between being transgender and living in an intolerant world often create mental health issues, which in the world of transgender often results in suicide attempts. I can't stand by and watch others attack transgender people in this thread. I feel especially defensive perhaps,because of Jenner battling his iconic classification. I don't recall a specific post by you. But obviously, there's more on your mind you felt the need to get out. It seems particularly gnarly to me when "Mormons" ride the "I'm religious and just following the word of the Lord" defense when vilifying others, especially those in the light community. It is hypocritical and in my opinion absolutely in defiance of the Gospel.

Have any of you actually watched his interview? Are you therapists who can diagnose mental illness? He is not mentally ill. Gender identity is not an illness. You know not of what you speak.

Seriously. You people call yourself Mormons and Christians? Are you kidding me? This person is not mentally ill. Seriously. This is the most berating lds post I've read on here in years.

I am currently the breadwinner in the home, by a longshot. For now, we are both fine with it because it works out with schedules and children and the bills get paid. The hard part for me is feeling like I am the odd duck out at church because I get the strong message that women are the "nurturers"... when in my case, it's the "daddy" who does the majority of child care (not to mention laundry, dinner and transportation). In other words, I feel like he doesn't get the credit he deserves, and I'm being looked down upon. I mentioned to someone that it was nice that he got up with the baby Mon-Thurs because he's not working and I am, and it's nice to get the sleep. I was not prepared for the look of shock. I did not grow up in an LDS home, and I don't have any real LDS friends... but I would say the "culture" of the LDS faith appears/seems to be very traditional. I wouldn't mind hearing from others on this subject.

That's a tough situation. My best suggestion is love your daughter and don't let it get in the way of your mother/daughter relationship. That doesn't mean you have to show fake approval for everything either.

Ok... so another thought. HIS son was born in that covenant so from your post... I'd interpret that they would still be "sealed". What about my son? Could he still be sealed to me? Or would he have to be sealed to "Us".??

I read somewhere that if a husband and wife are sealed, and subsequently divorce... and then the husband is remarried and has a child with the new wife (they are not sealed), that the new child is part of the covenant with the xwife (and therefore sealed to her). Any comments or thoughts on this from anyone?

Who is it exactly, that "gives" the priesthood????

I guess that's my question... could the child be sealed to her though she is not married?

What would happen if a single woman adopted a child?

That is very impressive Pam. What a relief of stress that must be!

Hello... I am not LDS, but I'm very curious about what the Relief Society is and what it does? I'm also curious as to whether or not most women enjoy it or not?

I don't understand why you would fight the cancellation? Just because you want revenge? My understanding is that your wife would not be held to be with you in eternity if she didn't want to anyway... so why continue the charade on earth?

You are a loved, worthy person. Don't let this chump and his cowardly choices (to cheat) make you feel any less than that. Of course you're angry that he is using the faith to repent, when this is something you wanted, and he knows that. Why did he even tell you about this? Obviously he knew how you felt about it. He sounds like a mean, hurtful person. Sadistic even. I'll bet that given the right opportunity, he'd cheat on her with you, or someone else. You don't need him. Your dreams will come true. Give it time. Cut him loose. Put your happiness ahead of his. You don't need that insanity as you are moving forward. Be THANKFUL you were never sealed to him! You will find a relationship that is honoring of your beliefs in time. Until then... take care of yourself! Do what makes you feel good and right. You are obviously a thoughtful person. All the best... W2K

I like the black one.

I think "Dr" Laura is right about essentially being very prudent with your children around dating. I believe she is incorrect that parents should not date at all.

I have been there. My husband had several affairs while we were married, I only knew about the last one when he left. Here are my thoughts on the subject. Infidelity is the most heinous abuse of marriage covenants, no matter what your faith is. It is also the most painful betrayel, especially when there are children involved. All this being said, you can still love the person who was unfaithful, but ultimately you are not loving yourself if you allow it to continue. I understand wanting to keep it a secret. It's so humiliating. In my situation, my former husband was a public figure... combine that with a small town... and you get the picture. You can not hang your head in shame. What is shameful about working to keep your family together after the first incident? Nothing. I wonder if you've remained sorta/kinda inactive because you don't want to deal with the Bishop? Do you really feel he'd be admonishing? I'm thinking you'd find support and help in healing. Once I'd found out about the affair, the hubby left, and I stopped crying long enough to breathe again, the first stop I made was to my minister (I'm not LDS, my fiance is). What I didn't get in the marriage (a partner in faith), I found in divorce. I found my faith again. It's an irony to me that I have more in common with my LDS fiance than I did with my same faith former husband! Nevertheless, I sincerely advise you to seek counsel within your faith. You will likely find that this burden of secrecy is released from you. It is not your's to carry any longer, in my opinion. Best of luck. Let us know how you're doing. W2K.

I don't believe you have to provide a "parenting" relationship in the home in order to teach your children how to parent or interact with a spouse. I think kids can learn how to treat others in relationships that are not parental or biological. They will see how you interact with your family, friends, their teachers and their friends' parents as well as church members. H

After I got divorced, and my former husband introduced our son, then 7, to his new girlfriend, my son started asking me when I was going to get a boyfriend. I promised myself that I would not be one of those people who introduced different suitors to my son. I was less worried about him getting confused, than getting attached and hurt. He would worry about me though, wondering if I "had someone" like Daddy did. (He's such a sweetheart). If I was dating someone regularly, and he knew I was going out, I would tell him that I had a date... and that when and if someone was good enough to meet him they would, and that thus far no one was good enough. My intention was to make him feel special that he wasn't meeting anyone, rather than left out. It was maybe a year and a half before he ever met the man I decided I would marry and have a child with. I really kept the "dating" on the low and he only knew if I'd slipped about it in front of him or he heard a phone conversation - and I tried to answer his questions directly and honestly. We also had several conversations about what were "grown up" worries and concerns vs. what his concerns should be as a child.. i.e. what to ask Santa for Christmas or who to play with that afternoon. It's not an easy road. Good luck!

Being unemployed has let me see the blessing of having a paycheck. I've never asked to be rich. I just want to pay my bills and put some money aside to take the kids on a trip once a year and maybe even retire one day. I don't think that's sinful. The stress of unemployment and money issues is not good for families. There's nothing worse than rationing out food and having to minimize to such an extent that your quality of life is in serious jeopardy. Health insurance, gas in the car... those necessities and things can be easily taken for granted when you have steady paycheck.

What about the girls then?

I echo other's sentiments - I'm sorry this is happening to you. Divorce is never easy on the children, and it truly is NOT your fault. Most kids think it is in some way - so if you think that - do your best to let that go. Most kids do ok with divorce as long as they have supportive people around them and their parents keep them away from the trivialities of it all. You are obviously old enough to voice yourself, and I hope that if you ever feel "in the middle" you can tell your parents that you don't want to be there. My son became much closer to his dad after our divorce, and things can and do work out for everyone. It takes time.

I am all for embryonic stem cell research - as long as there are very strict oversights guarding the ethics and manner of the creation of the embryo's and disposal of waste. I think it has a high potential to be somehow scientifically misused and abused, and that scares me. But... the potential outcomes have incredible possibilities for the health of humankind, that it's utterly ridiculous to ignore and/or outlaw the scientific potential.

Perhaps Doctrine is the wrong language for my understanding. I'm hearing from others that it isn't doctrine at all??? Maybe what I'm interested in knowing is about this pre-mortal life? My understanding is that we somehow chose our families? Is that the correct belief?