ServiceDogHandler

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  1. So many good things have happened. Sorry that I have not updated anyone. I moved and when I did a friend of mine come to me and asked me to help them get groceries for him and his child. He was having a tough month. So I spent my cable money on helping him so was without phone, internet and cable for a month. Well worth it. Anyway it is now hooked up so I can give you the update. First my husbands court date came up and it got post poned to the 1st of October. I talked to the crown prosecuter and he agree to request an extension on the No Contact order. He will ask for the longest extension period. Also Court for the kids came. Here is the low down. I am no longer on supervised visits. My husband is though. Also starting Thanksgiving weekend I get the kids every 3rd weekend. Then I get them for Christmas holidays. THe full 2 weeks. Then I get them every other weekend after that. THen I get them for Easter week and then the boys stay with me completely after that. When the school year ends then my daughter will be permiantly back home as well. I jumped for joy. So all is going fantastic. I see the kids every week. This past Saturday I took them to DQ and to two parks. This coming Friday I am hoping to take them to McDonalds and then swimming. I love just being able to pick them up and go. I just wanted to share this wonderful update with you all and let you all know why I have not been online. Chat soon
  2. I have been working my butt off today. Moving boxes, unpacking boxes, changing my address, making phone calls. I am soooo exhausted. Tomorrow we move the remainder of everything. All the furniture and so on. The sad part is though I did get a call from Victims assistance. There is a warrant out for his arrest but they have yet to find him. So they warned me to keep alert and if anything seems suspicios to not hesitate in calling the police. So I am worried that he might have been watching me move today. Meaning he would know where I live and ruin the reason for moving into hiding agian. Hopefully he is caught soon.
  3. posted the results in a new thread.
  4. lol Yup I am 67 pounds of intense white energy with a very protective nature for kids and home.
  5. He has no idea who my best friend is, what she drives or where she lives. He has never met her. She is a friend I met after we seperated. But I understand your warnings completely
  6. I actually moved into hiding. Within 2 months though, even though he lives over 2 hours away, he found my location. So I am moving agian into hiding tomorrow. All my neighbours know and my best friend lives across the street from the new place I am moving too.
  7. It certianly is tough. I had a feeling he would pull something and be there today so I ensured my friends would be there as well just in case I needed witnesses. THe no contact order is up November 2, though because of this breach his probation and the no contact order could be extended. If not I am going to talk to the Crown Prosecuter and based on the continue stalking, breaches and harrassment ask for an extension. I want it to stay in place even once we are divorced.
  8. Just got a phone call from is PO officer. He had called in to her and told her that he was standing outside of the building and when I came out and saw him that I just freaked out and called the police. LOL She of course called me. I told her what truely happened and also that it was not just me that reported it but also a witness. I also told her that there is now a warrent out for him and that she can verify it with the police. So the police have both statements. She then said well I had set up some things he was suppose to start attending in September but since he will be in jail I guess I will put that on hold. She then thanked me and said she would contact me later. Still lieing to cover his actions. At least he can't pull the wool over his PO eyes.
  9. This day turned out to be nothing of what I suspected. First the court case. It went as my lawyer hoped. THe department withdrew their permant gaurdianship order and now want to negotiate with my lawyer about me getting the kids. The next court date is scheduled for September 17th. But they will be having a meeting with my lawyer in the mean time and making decisions there. So it went just as we hoped. I should be getting the kids within 3 weeks. Now for the WOW part. First my husband did show up. He came into the courtroom looking for me. When I saw him I was in total shock. Shock that he could let himself go like this. He showed up to court by himself in a green shirt with cut off sleeves, a black cowboy hat, dirty tan jeans, a mullet(long hair in the back and the head shaved, and a new tatoo on his arm. He hadn't even bothered to shave. He used to take pride in his appearance, he used to care about how he looked and the image he put across. He is 32 and looked like a dirty old man who just got there from work. I only saw him out of the corner of my eye and refused to acknowledge him. I had my 3 friends there and I had dressed up in a really nice suit. My friends and I were smiling and laughing and chatting about the up coming cases. As soon as he spotted me he took a seat 2 rows back and to my left right were he could keep an eye on my. One of my friends said he stared at me the entire time. Personally I didn't care I was too excited about the case. When they called my case I stood up and went and stood next to my lawyer. My husband came right up dehind me and stood only a few inches in back of me. He was litterally breathing down my neck. As soon as he spoke and I realized he was there I got closer to my lawyer. He made me really nervous. But after the judge finished with us he rushed out so I thought that was the end of it. I then went out and talked to my lawyer for another 20 minutes. No sign of my husband in the hall or main part of the building and my friends were on the look out for him too. After we were done talking we excited the building and there he was. Leaning agianst one of the floor stands. He looked up at me and said Hello to me and my name. I quickly turned around and entered the building. I told the security guards about the no contact order and that he just breached it. They called the police and then went out and told him to move. I went to the station and lodge an official complaint. We were there for over an hour as they took my statement and that of my friend who also had heard him. THen we left and headed for lunch. The crazy thing is my friends who were driving picked Burger King. We had no clue what my husband was driving and when we entered and ordered my friend turned around and saw him there with 2 of his friends and his girlfriend. Smiling I left. 2 of my friends stayed inside to get our order and my other friend phoned the police to let them know where he was since they were now looking for him. My husband left though 5 minutes before the police showed up. But one of my friends got the plate and make of the vehicle and noted that the girlfriend drove. When the police arrived we gave them the info and they radioed in that he was to be arrested on sight. I just got a call a little while ago from the police stating that they have yet to find him but there is now a warrant out for his arrest. Because he is noted as stalking me and has breached so many times they are not taking this lightly. What an interesting day.
  10. Nope my lawyer is going for all three kids. She says it has been proven that the department and my parents are playing games and she no longer wants them to have any of the kids. Thanks for the support.
  11. Well tomorrow is the date to find out custody of my kids. Whether I get them back or they stay in perminant custody of my parents(never going to happen). The department(social Services) is taking the stand that they want the children to stay in permant care with my parents. Their case revolves around several lies, ommitted facts and screwed up reports. All proveable to be so. They state that my psychiatrist does not think my mental health is stable and ready to parent(this is the only reason they would be able to keep my kids from me). Not true at all. My lawyer is armed with a letter from my psychiatrist refuting the lies of the department. THe case will most likely be adjourned for 2 or 3 weeks and then I will get my kids back. Tomorrow 4 of my friends will be in court with me to add their support. A couple from church, a lady from my womens group and my oldest friend. We have been friends since ninth grade. My husband will most likely be there as well. But I could care less. I got a new suit to wear and plan to walk right by him with my friends and completely ignore him. If he tries to talk to me then my friends and I will tell one of the officers there and he will be arrested for Breach. He may be allowed to be in the court house with me but he is still not allowed to talk to me. I am so excited to get my kids back. Yippe.
  12. Just found out today that I will be getting my 2 youngest children back. My oldest will be staying with my parents for at least another year or two while she is in therapy. THey think it would hurt her to change cities and therapists and routines right now and I agree. It is not official yet. But they let me know it will happen. So at the end of August my boys are coming home. My addicted/abusive husband has no chance of getting custody of any of the kids so no worries there. Now I have the fun of finding a bigger place and moving. YIPPEE. Had to share the happy news.
  13. I am home now. Didn't sleep a wink at the shelter. My head would not slow down. Nothing is missing from the house and there are no strange calls on the phone. So all is well. I doubt he is still in town, since he is living at his parents he has to account for his wearabouts. I feel much better and safe now too. Thanks for all the prayers and safety wishes. Makes me feel so much better that others are out there that care about what happens to me. Yes when I move he will most likely find me agian. That is why I have to keep using the resources that are here to keep myself safe.
  14. THanks for the tip but I am not taking that chance.
  15. Thanks. I should be moving at the end of August. In the province I am in there are no stalking laws. So until he either contacts me, stops me in public or breaks into my house there is nothing the police can do. I think that is not right. There is a no contact order. They should be stopping him from doing this. I have no idea how to make it stop either. I have moved into hiding once already. I have done everything the police, my lawyer, therpist and the womens shelter has told me to do. What else can I do to make him stop. I just want him out of my life. I am so tired of living in fear. I have been for 7yrs.
  16. I am getting my bags pack to head to the womens shelter. The police phoned to let me know that my husband is in town and contacted them to get some of his stuff. I let the police know this is what he does every time he comes to town and that I tell them the same thing. I gave all his stuff to his parents back in April. All I have left is my stuff and marital items that the courts have to decide on. Thanks to his girlfriend, who has taken him back(now I no longer worry about her. She knows his history now and she has to make her own mistakes) she let me know he knows where I live. The police warned me that he could want to hurt me and that is why he is stalking me. So I am headed to the womens shelter. I just have to wait for one phone call from the constable.
  17. My daughter is 10. My sons are 4 & 18 months. Right now things are great between my parents and I. It has been strained at times in the past but now that I am no longer with my addicted/abusive husband things have been fine.
  18. -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- I have to make a really tough decision in the next couple of days and I have no idea what to do. And of course the decision is mine to make with no help from my AH since he has no part in the kids lives. I have to decide weather to split my kids up, I get the 2 boys and my parents take permant custody of my oldest who is my daughter. Or Take all 3 kids. Why is this such a hard decision? There are many reasons. My daughter has sever emotional problems and acts out by seeking out and hurting her brothers severly. She also lies to everyone. Not little lies huge ones that can cause the children to be removed by social services. She destroys property and her own possesions. My oldest son also has ADHD and color blindness. He is only 4 so is having a hard time dealing with all of the stuff happening. For safety reason it hsa been suggested to split them up. At least for a while. This way my daughter can get the one on one care she needs and supervision and structure she needs and the boys do not learn from her example and also are safe and my oldest son can get more care and attention that he needs. I am going to be a single mom either way. My heart aches to have all of them home. I love all my kids. But everyone is telling me I need to look at the big picture. I need to do what is best for them since I obviously have failed them when it came to protecting them from my AH. I want to make the right decision. Why am I always the responsible one? Why do I have to make all the hard life changing decisions? Why do the addicts get to make an exit to do as they please with no responsibility? I love my kids> I don't want to hurt any of them. I want them to have the best life possible. I am so lost.
  19. It is. It's like a weight is lifted off my shoulders. My prayers have definately come true about my kids not going to the reunions.
  20. My mother just called me to let me know my addicted/abusive husband called them today. Not to talk to the kids. Didn't even ask to talk to the kids, so didn't. No surprise there. The purpose to his call was to ask for pictures and to tell my parents that he is now living at his parents place. That his girlfriend and he are seperated (temperarily)till after the court date on the in August and then they will be getting back together. He said they seperated because Social Services got into an uproar about something(he didn't say what, I think it had to do with the email his girlfriend sent me that I forwarded to them and his probation officer). He also told them that Social Services told him very nastily(his words) that there is NO WAY he is getting the kids to take to the town he lives in or BC for the reunions. YIPPEE. After what I read in the email from his girlfriend there was no way I wanted my kids anywhere unsupervised with him. I feel sorry for his parents. They can't seem to stop enabling him. He is 32years old and still runs to them to take him in because he can't support himself. I would never think about moving into my parents place. I am my own responsibility. I also pray that his girlfriend has the strength to keep him away. After the email I recieved I worry about her and her children.
  21. He never showed. The kids were taken to social services for the visit and 15 minutes into his 30 minute time he called to say he couldn't make it. My daughter was relieved but my 4yr old son was devasted. He ended up setting up another visit the following week. That was for an hour. And he brought his girlfriend and her kids. He told the kids that this is their new mom and their new siblings. My kids were so upset. My daughter end up acting out severly for the next week. My oldest son was totally confused asking me if I was still their mother. I ended up calling my lawyer who contacted social services to ensure it would not happen agian because this has totally tramatized them as I knew it would. Then on top of it all I got an email from his girlfriend last thursday. She is very concerned about her kids and herself. She even states she is scared of my husband and thinks he may hurt her and her children. The stuff in it is not shocking to me but she is obviously scared. She says that he almost got her kids taken away by social services, that he has been lieing to her and stealing from her. Boy does that sound familiar. That he yells and screams at her and her 4 kids when he doesn't get his way, that he tries to control her every move, That he is stalking me and knows where I live. Even lists my location. She states that she is scared of him and that she is scared that if he finds out she contacted me that he will hurt her and the kids. She kicked him out but he won't leave the property. This I understand completely because he would camp out in my driveway when he was kicked out. She begs me to contact her. I feel so bad for her and her children but I can't risk contacting her. Though I know exactly what she is going through. I called the police though. THey sent an officer over for the email. I also sent a copy of the email to my lawyer, my husband porbation officer and to the social worker dealing with the case. That is all I can do. I hope she can get out of this situation before he can hurt her and her kids the way he hurt me and my kids. My lawyer though was glad for the email because she says it shows that this is something he does to all kids and women. I feel bad for everyone involved in this situation now. I still have no respect for his girlfriend BUT no one deserves to be treated the way my husband treats us.
  22. Yes there is a no contact order from the last assualt he did to me. He has been in jail for a total of 6 weeks. But that does not stop him. As far as he is concerned it is just a piece of paper. He has no respect for the law at all.
  23. If you had read my post you would have seen that I did call the police. That they have been invovled since the very first time I charged him for assualting me orver 2 years ago. I have also forwarded the email to my lawyer, his probation officer and to the social worker dealing with the case. My landlord is looking to find me a new residence in one of his other buildings. Still within the same city. I am not leaving the city because the police, my lawyer and my therapist and the womens shelter all say I am safest here. Since he is well known, I am 2 1/2 hours away from the town he lives in, all my support networks are set up here and so on. I have been attending a domestic violence group for women survivors at the womens shelter for the past year. The police told me thursday night that I am doing everything right in protecting myself. As for refusing to get a gun that is not me enabling him. Not everyone is comfortable handling a gun and I am not comfortable with one. I am doing everything I was advise by the police and the womens shelter told me to do to protect myself.
  24. I LOVE Rotties. THey are one of my favorite breeds. My dog is a Service dog. She is my medical alert dog. She goes every where with me. She can not be protection dog trained. Because if she acts aggressive she can't be my service dog anymore. Thanks for the suggestion though. If she was not a service dog then I would consider it.
  25. I just talked to my landlord. Whom I had already made aware of the situation earlier before he found me. And my landlord said he is going to try and find me a new place to live among his other rentals. I really like this landlord. He has no tolerance at all for a man who abuses women or children. I am keeping my fingers crossed that he can find me a new place soon.