ryanh

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    Sometimes I'm really left scratching my head wondering why replies like the first three are even posted. I don't understand. I'm of the persuasion that loving and caring for someone as fellow children of Heavenly Father does not preclude our right to protect ourselves from harm. There are family members that I have not had meaningful contact with in over 11 years because their behavior is repetitively harmful and sadistic. I don't think there is any reason, nor purpose, in exposing ourselves to such situations any more than we should expose ourselves to moral evils. Have you critically examined your own thoughts and motivations for wanting to continue to interact? Does classifying an individual as 'family' really put them in a different category? Are we not all 'family'? And yet, does it not seem reasonable to avoid interacting with certain elements of the human family? Disrespecting your husband's wishes to cease contact could feel to him like a forced subjection to that which he doesn't want to be subjected. I would urge you to consider his perspective in the matter. I've been there, and when my wife made moves to contact certain family members, it really hurt.
  2. Charley - I'm glad you brought up depression. Too little of society (including LDS society) recognizes the impact that mental illness can have on family relations. ADD, depression, anxiety, Alzheimers, etc, etc, are all biologically based illnesses that receive far too much negative stigma, and too little understanding. They can all throw a monkey wrench into a marriage and make the pat sunday school answers insufficient. Ryan