Akkima

Oh as far as she goes.... we are creating a paper trail. He has spoken with a supervisor (apparently she has done this before to someone else). She has been blocked from the network that my husband primarily uses as well as from his work IM and e-mail. She was warned to not contact him again or charges maybe filed. She has tried to contact him 2 more times but unsuccessfully due to the block. Husband is looking for a new job, but they are looking into letting her go. Again thank you all for your advice and input it has helped a great deal!

Thank you all for your input! To answer some questions.... He left the computer open and I saw that he had received an e-mail from a girl I was not familiar with. So I asked who she was; he said a girl from work, no idea why but asked, "Are you having an affair with her?” and he said yes then clarified by saying an emotional affair. However I am not sure if that is the case or if he just feels so guilty that he is calling it worse than it is. He said he liked the attention and needed to talk to someone and did not want to put more on “my plate.” He also stated that he did not care about her more than an acquaintance and that he did not develop any feelings for her. He has seen her only 1 time at work for about 15 min. all of their work is done in IM or over Radio. He has offered to have a polygraph test but not sure if this is a wise choice.

You can try going to your local library. Our library has subscribed to many of the more pricey gen. databases. They also have it set up so that you can access the sites with your libaray card from home. The family search database is gen. info that has been contributed by members so if you are not from a large LDS family that has done a lot of research using familysearch can be frustrating, but it is getting better. Good luck!!

I am trying to get a grasp on what people who share my standards and beliefs would consider this. In a nut shell my husband was being heavily pursued by a woman he works with she attempted to contact him over 40 times, they did speak appox. 20 times via texts and IM. She made multiple inapporpraite comments and offers. He hit on her about 5 times telling her she was beautiful 3 times and made a couple of inappropriate comments. This lasted about a month. He told her it was wrong and she said that it wasn't , that it was just flirting. He told her he loved me and our kids a few times and to not "go there" a few times. My husband told her to never contact him again that he wanted no part of it. She attempted to contact him 5 more times that we are aware of. However we recently found out that she changed her work schedule so that she would be off the same time as my husband ( while I am away from the house) and that she has been researching me on the net. I feel very uncomfortable with her actions; sometimes I am actually fearful. Do you consider this an affair? What do I do about her? How should I proceed? I do not trust my husband now and feel sick daily. Please help me I never thought this would happen to me/us. Thank you for your input, thoughts and time.