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Loudmouth-I don't like kids, and I'm not selfish enough to have them before I figure everything else out first. Don't worry. I know kids don't fix marriages...who even thinks that anymore? To everybody else-thank you. I appreciate your understanding and kind words. My husband and I talked, and he admitted he has had a hard time loving me, but that he still does. He's been through such hell I can hardly blame him. We talked about the things that are wrong, finally, completely honestly. I know that everything will work out. I will take the offered advice to heart, and put it to use, especially the dates and sex thing no but really, I truly appreciate all of the help.

This is going to be long but please, bear with me. I NEED some advice. I got married a little over a year ago. Civilly, we messed up..but have always planned on getting sealed. Shortly after getting married, everything fell apart from me. No job, no money, all sorts of health problems and depression that warped me into an insecure, needy person. It was horrible, and this went on for the better part of the year. Just recently, things have been better for me although not in my marriage. Although my husband has stood by me in these trials and been supportive, we don't feel "in love" at all. And I feel as though neither of us try, or when we try, we're trying with the wrong angles. I love my husband, he has been there for me when few others could stand to be. My depression isn't "cured" though and I can snap at him sometimes. I also tend to act whiny like a little girl when I feel like he isn't bothering to pay attention to me. I know this all sounds weird, but I have been working so hard to be the person I was...only better. I am trying to get rid of these awful things depression left me with, and it seems impossible. We met with our bishop a few days ago to get started on trying to get sealed. It looks as though we will be able to very soon. Just this morning, however, I woke up with a sense of sadness, feeling as though we aren't supposed to be married, we'd be happier without each other, etc. Don't get me wrong, sometimes we're happy. But we feel like roommates rather than husband and wife. We just talked about if we're "in love" anymore and he says he is in love with me, but I just don't see it. I feel that we should feel a certain way that we just aren't. Before going off on me about "that's not love that's infatuation" please understand that I know the difference. I also know though, that the way we're feeling ISN'T how we should feel. It doesn't FEEL like a marriage. We don't seem to be the partnership that we should be. We are trying so hard to be better, to be worthy to be sealed, and to include the Lord as our foundation. But I am afraid. I'm afraid that my husband will just get fed up with me someday and leave. I'm sad that we have no romantic feelings between us after only a year. What will it be like ten years down the road if he doesn't ever open up and we don't ever work this out? I know this is jumbled, and perhaps confusing, but please, someone help me. I need the help so badly. I need to know how we can fall in love again, and treat each other better as well.

Badboy look, if you are truly a member of the church you not only know their stand on homosexuality but adultery is well. You may wish that you had been converted later so you could experience the joys of all sorts of sin, but you weren't. Time to get over that and own up to your sins if you care, and if you don't care then embrace not caring fully and stop torturing yourself about it. Don't come on to an lds forum expecting people to tell you it's okay, it's an advice board and you're going to get it how it is.