Bini

Red Sparrow = Excellent
I don't like Jennifer Lawrence as an actress, I don't know why, there's just something about her that grates on me. That said, I thoroughly enjoyed sitting through this one. The acting, plot flow, and intensity were executed well. I plan to watch it again soon.
A Wrinkle In Time = Good
I went into this movie with the lowest of low expectations but ended up being pleasantly surprised. The plot could have been great but fell short, and despite a decent cast, some of the actings felt mediocre. But while there was a lot that could have been improved upon, the cinematography was vivid and whimsical, my kids loved the odd characters. The experience of watching this is best on a big cinema screen, but for a movie ticket price, I'd vote you watch it on Redbox or Netflix at home.
Walk The Line = Great
Good movie. I think they did a good job of summarising Johnny Cash's life in a two-hour presentation. A bit heavy at parts, not always uplifting, but the vocal performances by Joaquin Phoenix and Reese Witherspoon are excellent!

Most foods like this I eat by a random grab, but with M&M’s, I like to put 6 in the palm of my hand and in rainbow order: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, brown. Then I start at one end, doesn’t matter which, and eat one by one. I’ll keep doing this until the rainbow gets smaller. Idk just more fun, I guess. 

Is there a “culture” of this? Yes, in my experience, and I’ve lived inside Utah and outside Utah, even overseas. I have seen this issue of parents feeling guilt and shaming kids who seemingly go astray within the church all over the place. My best advice, tell him to check himself, and remind him that your children are adults and capable of making their own life decisions. He isn’t going to love or even like everything they choose to do. 

I think sometimes we forget that children that age lack long attention spans, and as a society, we demand they function on our schedule whatever it be. I think this is wrong regardless if I Am Your Mother. Children, especially 5 and under range, are still learning how to observe what’s around them — register it — and regulate things like restlessness etc, etc. I think understanding that their brains are still developing is key, and having patience with them, and gradually introduce them to situations and expectations you’re needing of them. 

Let him have a say via things like: 
-Help pick out things in the grocery store/cook book to make.  If he wants a pizza, he can have ONE pizza for the week- let him put it in the cart and then put rest of the things in there.  Once he eats that one pizza it's gone and we have to eat rest of the food.
-Have him help cook.  It gives him a sense of ownership.
- If he picks 2 things to eat for dinner (like 2 sides), he has to eat one.  He can pick which one.
- Small portions.  Small = TINY.  And otherwise leave the plate empty.  It's less intimidating.
-The "no thank you" bite technique. 
-Don't cave.

Most foods like this I eat by a random grab, but with M&M’s, I like to put 6 in the palm of my hand and in rainbow order: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, brown. Then I start at one end, doesn’t matter which, and eat one by one. I’ll keep doing this until the rainbow gets smaller. Idk just more fun, I guess. 

I understand this. What I should add to my first comment is that most people cannot engage in intimacy without it emotionally/mentally messing with their head, and so in that context, I would strongly recommend that in order to avoid all of that, one would be wise not to reside in the same household with an ex-partner.

@Bini!      Nice to see you again!!  

I am convinced that is you.

Well, then, maybe it's me, too.

Which is the real Vort...?

Girls? You mean women? And every woman who goes to work, tries to tell a doctor who thinks she's 'imagining' her symptoms, or is told she shouldn't do this or that because she is a 'girl' is affected by feminism.

I am a feminist. I am a proud and vocal feminist. It is my feminism that enables the ways in which I help men to break down social norms to help them be more open and expressive, to build more community and support with each other.
It was feminism that inspired me to push for more social engagements within my Elders Quorum, building greater unity and trust among my brethren.
Feminism is a broad category of social pholosophy. Labelling it all as "bad" because you don't like certain strains of the bandwidth says less about feminism and more about the speaker.

Maybe.

I understand this. What I should add to my first comment is that most people cannot engage in intimacy without it emotionally/mentally messing with their head, and so in that context, I would strongly recommend that in order to avoid all of that, one would be wise not to reside in the same household with an ex-partner.

And welcome back, @Bini.

Red Sparrow = Excellent
I don't like Jennifer Lawrence as an actress, I don't know why, there's just something about her that grates on me. That said, I thoroughly enjoyed sitting through this one. The acting, plot flow, and intensity were executed well. I plan to watch it again soon.
A Wrinkle In Time = Good
I went into this movie with the lowest of low expectations but ended up being pleasantly surprised. The plot could have been great but fell short, and despite a decent cast, some of the actings felt mediocre. But while there was a lot that could have been improved upon, the cinematography was vivid and whimsical, my kids loved the odd characters. The experience of watching this is best on a big cinema screen, but for a movie ticket price, I'd vote you watch it on Redbox or Netflix at home.
Walk The Line = Great
Good movie. I think they did a good job of summarising Johnny Cash's life in a two-hour presentation. A bit heavy at parts, not always uplifting, but the vocal performances by Joaquin Phoenix and Reese Witherspoon are excellent!

Red Sparrow = Excellent
I don't like Jennifer Lawrence as an actress, I don't know why, there's just something about her that grates on me. That said, I thoroughly enjoyed sitting through this one. The acting, plot flow, and intensity were executed well. I plan to watch it again soon.
A Wrinkle In Time = Good
I went into this movie with the lowest of low expectations but ended up being pleasantly surprised. The plot could have been great but fell short, and despite a decent cast, some of the actings felt mediocre. But while there was a lot that could have been improved upon, the cinematography was vivid and whimsical, my kids loved the odd characters. The experience of watching this is best on a big cinema screen, but for a movie ticket price, I'd vote you watch it on Redbox or Netflix at home.
Walk The Line = Great
Good movie. I think they did a good job of summarising Johnny Cash's life in a two-hour presentation. A bit heavy at parts, not always uplifting, but the vocal performances by Joaquin Phoenix and Reese Witherspoon are excellent!

I'm not leaving  (and I had completely forgotten the story about the misspelled name. It happens so frequently to me that I wouldn't be speaking to anyone if I let it bother me.  I was just saying, I see how people leave over what seems like minor things to other people. 
I certainly see how people become less active. 
If you had heard the Brother's tone, you might have felt differently. I don't know what he does for a living or what kind of people he's used to speaking to, but he needs to get a grip. If he had said, "Is there something else you can do?" I wouldn't have taken any offense at all. That, to me, would be a logical, inclusive, kind of question. But 'explain'?  Heck no. 

I will try to be civil when I see this brother next. Humble may take more effort than I am willing to give. 
I hate to go down this path, but when stuff like this happens, I have to ask myself, "Would he ask a man this? Would he ask a white man this? Why are you asking me these questions?" Not everything is gender or race related, but then a lot is and sometimes you have to call people on their garbage.
My stepfather was a litigator. One day he won an especially large settlement and the judge actually asked him, "What are you going to do with all that money?" Wha????  White litigators pull in big money all the time, but no one asks them what they going to do with their fee.  Yeah, you have to be watchful, because people can get up to all kinds of shenanigans. 

I have done this twice before and after 5-6 years in the ward, don't recall ever being asked more than once to do it. Now it's not only 3x, but 3x w/n 5 months! Enough already!  And I already do what I can do. The repetitive motion stuff like vacuuming is out; I do the dusting, but it is repetitive enough, given the amount of space to cover. We have a young ward with many families with multiple kids. They come through and have multiple people working on the family's 1 task while I have to do all of my work myself. I've had it. 

This is why you just let people tell you what they have to say and move on. He had no right to ask me to explain myself. BTW - I'm a lapsed lawyer (changed careers). I reallllly know enough not to ask if someone has passed the bar or gotten a job 'yet.'  I think some people were raised in barns. 

So, my name (misspelled) showed up in the bulletin for the 3rd time to help clean the church. I did it the first time, but not the 2nd. As it turns out, the brother in charge of cleaning schedules was standing in the foyer. To be polite, I told him I wasn't going to come. He asked me, "Can you explain?"  What? OK, fine. I did it once. That's my commitment. I have to take an arthritis med before and after I do that assignment and I just don't feel like bringing on pain in order to clean the church. 
I walk toward the door, and I'm so hot I turn around and go back. "I've already done it once, "I repeated. Then he says he's done it four times. I am supposed to be shamed into compliance? Did he expect me just to roll over and say I'll show up? I'm 64. I don't need to explain myself to some white man about why I do or don't do something. 
No one told me I'd have to be a maid to the Church when I joined. And people wonder why folks become less active.
 

I'm going to throw in a different angle to think about :]
Maybe you're going through a mid-life crisis? The kids are grown or almost grown and you're looking at the time that now lies ahead of you. Perhaps you feel cheated after all that work of being committed and raising a family? After all, when did you get to have "fun"? Could you possibly be digging up the past in some sense or form to justify your own feelings of wanting to have fun now?
I wish you peace of mind and that you don't allow this to chip away at your heart and love for your wife and family. These kinds of hard feelings will definitely tear-up a good marriage.

Finally got around to watching 12 Years A Slave and wow. I thought it was beautifully and tastefully executed. For starters, I was expecting it to be unbearable to watch, and some parts were difficult, but overall it was put together in a way that educated the audience instead of using shock factor. The characters felt genuine and the story, despite heartbreaking, reminds us that a broken man can piece himself together, no matter the trials endured. The language never exceeded a PG13 rating, that I recall. However, there is some nudity necessary to the plot but you are so engaged in the dialogue and what is going on, you're not focusing on that aspect, rather you are understanding how these families (men, women, and children) were stripped of their clothing, shackled like animals, and examined by potential buyers to live a life as plantation slaves. Personally, the most upsetting part in the whole movie for me was seeing children ripped from the arms of their mothers, and all being sold to different slavers. There is one rape scene that is subtle and shows nothing but is unpleasant, fortunately, it is short lived.

I agree with you 100% that girls and women are in no shape or form responsible for the thoughts and actions of their male counterparts. We are not distractions and it is unfortunate that our self-worth and self-respect is directly linked to how we present ourselves in attire. How I choose to cover my body does not take away from my self-worth or self-respect. I am no less valued or have less respect for myself than any other woman who chooses to cover her body differently. This is a toxic concept that continues to perpetuate within certain groups. How you treat others and how you contribute to the world - that is what determines the kind of person you are - not what you put on your body. Again, you are not responsible for the thoughts and actions someone else has. Sadly, society has a long history of victim blaming, and while the dialogue has become better, lots of education and awareness still needs to come to light. If a man (or anyone) is having unclean thoughts and acts upon them (sexual harassment or sexual assault) - it is on him - it is not on the other party, period.