Bini

I want to take a road trip across America, avoiding big cities, and exploring small towns and lost gems.

I want to take a road trip across America, avoiding big cities, and exploring small towns and lost gems.

Dear Bini,
i am sooo sorry. I did the divorce thing...it was tough. Very hard but the toughest part is making the decision and after that point things get way easier. My sister and I are both divorced. Both of us found that life was so much better after divorce than before. One of the reasons, I think, that divorced people suddenly renovate themselves after divorce is that they have the energy and freedom to do so. I don't know what your situation is and I totally respect that you want to keep it private so my experiences may not be yours but, both my sister and I found life so much easier when we were no longer tied to disturbed spouses. It is exhausting living with a crazy person! Also, living with a fruit loop is very hard on you physically. I went through about 4, 13 week support groups for abused spouses. I only did 2 full 13 week programs and part of two others because of scheduling problems. I learned a lot of amazing things but one thing was that you need to get out of an abusive relationship before you get too old. Abusive relationships are very damaging physically and you start to develop a lot of health problems. Once you get too old, few people are able to leave.
Anyway, congrats. It gets better from here. In a year, you will be amazed at the difference in yourself! Treat yourself! 
Hugs!
 

The 15-month still breastfeeds and eventually winds up in our bed every night.
My general breastfeeding goal is 2 years. 

Just wanted to post some successful milestones that my son and I have achieved in his first year and in 2017. He's 14 months and I'm still cosleeping and breastfeeding him. This is something that I hadn't done or limitedly did with my daughter who is 5 now. My personal goal was to breastfeed to a minimal of 6 months which tends to be the recommended age for babies. We achieved 8 months of exclusively breastfeeding before introducing him to solids, which has reduced a lot of food allergies and the reflex to spit up or push out food with his tongue. Now well on his way to being a toddler, he still receives the beneficial nutrients from breast milk and is also a champion eater. He literally out eats my 5-year old! As for cosleeping, due to societal and family member pressure, I felt that stuffing my first child into a crib was the answer. She was extremely colicky. With my son I decided to cosleep with him and allow him to nurse as he needed through the night. Surprisingly, both my husband and I get great sleep in comparison to our first experience with child #1. If you're wondering about intimacy, we haven't had any problems getting our 1-1 time in, either. So mamas, if you're on the fence about cosleeping and extended breastfeeding, I would say to you, GO FOR IT  I recommend it.

Just wanted to post some successful milestones that my son and I have achieved in his first year and in 2017. He's 14 months and I'm still cosleeping and breastfeeding him. This is something that I hadn't done or limitedly did with my daughter who is 5 now. My personal goal was to breastfeed to a minimal of 6 months which tends to be the recommended age for babies. We achieved 8 months of exclusively breastfeeding before introducing him to solids, which has reduced a lot of food allergies and the reflex to spit up or push out food with his tongue. Now well on his way to being a toddler, he still receives the beneficial nutrients from breast milk and is also a champion eater. He literally out eats my 5-year old! As for cosleeping, due to societal and family member pressure, I felt that stuffing my first child into a crib was the answer. She was extremely colicky. With my son I decided to cosleep with him and allow him to nurse as he needed through the night. Surprisingly, both my husband and I get great sleep in comparison to our first experience with child #1. If you're wondering about intimacy, we haven't had any problems getting our 1-1 time in, either. So mamas, if you're on the fence about cosleeping and extended breastfeeding, I would say to you, GO FOR IT  I recommend it.

Just wanted to post some successful milestones that my son and I have achieved in his first year and in 2017. He's 14 months and I'm still cosleeping and breastfeeding him. This is something that I hadn't done or limitedly did with my daughter who is 5 now. My personal goal was to breastfeed to a minimal of 6 months which tends to be the recommended age for babies. We achieved 8 months of exclusively breastfeeding before introducing him to solids, which has reduced a lot of food allergies and the reflex to spit up or push out food with his tongue. Now well on his way to being a toddler, he still receives the beneficial nutrients from breast milk and is also a champion eater. He literally out eats my 5-year old! As for cosleeping, due to societal and family member pressure, I felt that stuffing my first child into a crib was the answer. She was extremely colicky. With my son I decided to cosleep with him and allow him to nurse as he needed through the night. Surprisingly, both my husband and I get great sleep in comparison to our first experience with child #1. If you're wondering about intimacy, we haven't had any problems getting our 1-1 time in, either. So mamas, if you're on the fence about cosleeping and extended breastfeeding, I would say to you, GO FOR IT  I recommend it.

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There's no magical age but if you're feeling conflicted, that's a pretty strong sign that you ought to wait and only tie the knot when you feel in your gut that you're ready. I married as a teen and from my own experience, I would not recommend it, I think one has a lot of growing up and maturing to do. I might even say the same thing about 20-something year olds

Just wanted to post some successful milestones that my son and I have achieved in his first year and in 2017. He's 14 months and I'm still cosleeping and breastfeeding him. This is something that I hadn't done or limitedly did with my daughter who is 5 now. My personal goal was to breastfeed to a minimal of 6 months which tends to be the recommended age for babies. We achieved 8 months of exclusively breastfeeding before introducing him to solids, which has reduced a lot of food allergies and the reflex to spit up or push out food with his tongue. Now well on his way to being a toddler, he still receives the beneficial nutrients from breast milk and is also a champion eater. He literally out eats my 5-year old! As for cosleeping, due to societal and family member pressure, I felt that stuffing my first child into a crib was the answer. She was extremely colicky. With my son I decided to cosleep with him and allow him to nurse as he needed through the night. Surprisingly, both my husband and I get great sleep in comparison to our first experience with child #1. If you're wondering about intimacy, we haven't had any problems getting our 1-1 time in, either. So mamas, if you're on the fence about cosleeping and extended breastfeeding, I would say to you, GO FOR IT  I recommend it.

Just wanted to post some successful milestones that my son and I have achieved in his first year and in 2017. He's 14 months and I'm still cosleeping and breastfeeding him. This is something that I hadn't done or limitedly did with my daughter who is 5 now. My personal goal was to breastfeed to a minimal of 6 months which tends to be the recommended age for babies. We achieved 8 months of exclusively breastfeeding before introducing him to solids, which has reduced a lot of food allergies and the reflex to spit up or push out food with his tongue. Now well on his way to being a toddler, he still receives the beneficial nutrients from breast milk and is also a champion eater. He literally out eats my 5-year old! As for cosleeping, due to societal and family member pressure, I felt that stuffing my first child into a crib was the answer. She was extremely colicky. With my son I decided to cosleep with him and allow him to nurse as he needed through the night. Surprisingly, both my husband and I get great sleep in comparison to our first experience with child #1. If you're wondering about intimacy, we haven't had any problems getting our 1-1 time in, either. So mamas, if you're on the fence about cosleeping and extended breastfeeding, I would say to you, GO FOR IT  I recommend it.

Yes, welcome back @Bini.
M.

Don't know if this has been said but if you are not willing to fight for your marriage, then you shouldn't be in it. Plain and simple.

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Glad you are here! Look forward to your posts!

Backroads, life is too short not to convey your feelings and or concerns to loved ones. I would make a single effort to bring to my parents' attention that there are things I'd like to share with them about my child and with the focus just on my child. Be as direct as needs be, and if they don't understand, perhaps those special milestones ought to be shared with someone else that can appreciate them. Best of luck.

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As an ex-Mormon, I don't much care what the Mormon Tabernacle does and honestly, I'm not all that surprised. I do not like Trump but I'll survive the next four years, sadly, unlike some. I really like Bernie.

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@Bini Great to see you here!

Hi, Suzie!

Bini!!!

Hi, all!  I just kind of need to vent a little bit, and possibly get some advice.  I've been home from my mission about two and a half years now, and I'm really starting to get tired of all the pressure to get married.  Don't get me wrong, I do want to be sealed in the temple eventually, but I feel like I don't want that to happen for a few more years.  Currently, I am 23 years old, and will be turning 24 in June.  I find myself not really agreeing with the whole "if you're not married by 25 you are a menace to society".  Honestly, I don't want to get married until I am at least 30 years old.  I just want to graduate and begin pursuing a career because I am passionate about it, not because I have to support a family.  Somewhere in that time, if I happen to meet someone that I really like, and decide I want to marry them(assuming they feel the same), I'll get married.  I really just don't like the culture of dating like crazy and marrying the first person you feel that you could stand being with the rest of your life.  To be honest, there just seems something wrong with that whole way of thinking.  On the other hand, I find it frustrating because I know people will say that "If that is how you feel, do it.", but because everyone else is getting married so young, I feel like by the time I feel like I am ready to pursue a marriage, It'll be completely hopeless for me.  Therefore, I am conflicted in my feelings.  Has anyone ever had a similar experience, or feelings about this whole thing?  Thanks!

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