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    Bini got a reaction from Jane_Doe in What Causes Loss of Testimony?   
    I am good  Just been busy with life and whatnot... Turns out little boys keep a mama on her toes...
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    Bini got a reaction from Maureen in What Causes Loss of Testimony?   
    I am good  Just been busy with life and whatnot... Turns out little boys keep a mama on her toes...
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    Bini reacted to Jane_Doe in What Causes Loss of Testimony?   
    Bini!!  Long time no see!  How you doing?
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    Bini got a reaction from Jane_Doe in torn...   
    Sumiko, follow what your heart tells you. And by that, I mean the harmony and wholesomeness you feel inside, won't lead you astray. Saying this, your marital situation does place a damper on your membership within the Church, as in, your participation will be limited. As for feeling welcomed and accepted, you'll always find people that taste like vinegar, no matter where you go. So surround yourself by the positives and brush the negatives off your shoulder.
     
    Good luck! This forum is a great place to learn/re-learn about Mormonism. We are also a forum of many backgrounds, not all LDS, and with diverse views and opinions. 
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    Bini got a reaction from MrShorty in torn...   
    Sumiko, follow what your heart tells you. And by that, I mean the harmony and wholesomeness you feel inside, won't lead you astray. Saying this, your marital situation does place a damper on your membership within the Church, as in, your participation will be limited. As for feeling welcomed and accepted, you'll always find people that taste like vinegar, no matter where you go. So surround yourself by the positives and brush the negatives off your shoulder.
     
    Good luck! This forum is a great place to learn/re-learn about Mormonism. We are also a forum of many backgrounds, not all LDS, and with diverse views and opinions. 
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    Bini got a reaction from Blackmarch in Fiance cheated   
    I disagree.
     
    Married in the temple, not married in the temple but are a couple, or unmarried but are an exclusive couple - if one partner engages in romantic kissing, sex, or otherwise activity that should be reserved for your significant other - is cheating, that's my opinion on it.
     
    OP should be very careful and proceed with open eyes, whatever she chooses to do.
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    Bini got a reaction from Sunday21 in Update on Wanting to Leave Marriage   
    Truth.
     
    If you don't have children or aren't around them, you probably think little kids just aren't all that aware - but they are! I remember my daughter not even being a year old and reacting to my husband playfully tackling me. She'd get these big eyes and start rattling the bars of her crib very upset and wailing. After this had happened a few times, we knew the horseplay was just too much for her. No doubt children that are a couple years old and toddler age understand plenty! They may not comprehend big fancy words but they read and sense body language like experts. They know when they are loved.
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    Bini got a reaction from Backroads in Pumping Mothers   
    Hi, Classylady!
     
    Thank you for thinking about me and checking up. This time around has been a dream! My little boy is such an easygoing little guy which is the polar opposite from my daughter who was super colicky. On top of this, I am not dealing with depression this go around, so life has been much much easier all together :)
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    Bini got a reaction from Maureen in Pumping Mothers   
    It looks platinum blonde but it's not really. It's more of that cotton candy hue. And thank you! As for the pumping situation, long story super short, I ended up exclusively breastfeeding shortly after I made this thread. (No more pumping or bottles.) So post my son's 2.5 week milestone, he's only had mama's breast, and while I thought it'd be super challenging to commit to - it's been a great experience for us :)
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    Bini got a reaction from Maureen in Pumping Mothers   
    Hi, Classylady!
     
    Thank you for thinking about me and checking up. This time around has been a dream! My little boy is such an easygoing little guy which is the polar opposite from my daughter who was super colicky. On top of this, I am not dealing with depression this go around, so life has been much much easier all together :)
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    Bini reacted to Anddenex in The gross, disgusting awfulness that is breast feeding a baby   
    This lady's approach to this scenario is humorous:
     

     
    But be careful, she uses the word, "boobs," -- oh no.
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    Bini got a reaction from Just_A_Guy in Sign of the cross   
    I don't know what policy is but from what I remember, yes, converts are discouraged from wearing crosses or doing the sign of the cross but my own opinion is that if it's done because it brings that person comfort and a sense of being closer to God, so be it. I don't think a piece of jewelry or the motion of one's hand is all that relevant in the grandness of things.
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    Bini got a reaction from NeuroTypical in Mixed feelings on suicide   
    I've had time to reflect on all of this. I'm less bothered now. I think some of them are simply in denial, to be honest. Though to be fair, I know everyone grieves in their own way. His funeral was not done until after Christmas, as his wife didn't want to put that burden on the living, our her own family (she and her sons). I didn't attend, I couldn't. From what I understand, only those in California attended and everyone else did not go. Thanks for the condolences. 
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    Bini reacted to mirkwood in My co-worker was murdered today   
    http://www.ksl.com/?sid=38168303&nid=148&title=veteran-police-officer-gunman-killed-in-holladay-shooting&fm=home_page&s_cid=topstory
     
     
    Doug and I were area partners in our rookie years. He was a good partner, cop and man.

    RIP Brother we have it from here.

    EOW 1-17-16


     
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    Bini got a reaction from Backroads in Update on Wanting to Leave Marriage   
    Alright, I'm caught up on the topic at hand.
     
    It sounds like there's an overwhelming amount of dysfunction going on here, on your husband's side, and on your side. So your son is the victim here. I suppose it's one thing to choose to stick around and be belittled by a spouse, but the moment that crap starts on the children, you got to make a hard and fast decision in whether that's the life you want for them. Edit: I would also add to consider birth control in the future, if you plan to remain intimate with this man. It's simply not fair to bring children into toxic relationships like this.
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    Bini got a reaction from Backroads in Update on Wanting to Leave Marriage   
    Truth.
     
    If you don't have children or aren't around them, you probably think little kids just aren't all that aware - but they are! I remember my daughter not even being a year old and reacting to my husband playfully tackling me. She'd get these big eyes and start rattling the bars of her crib very upset and wailing. After this had happened a few times, we knew the horseplay was just too much for her. No doubt children that are a couple years old and toddler age understand plenty! They may not comprehend big fancy words but they read and sense body language like experts. They know when they are loved.
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    Bini got a reaction from Jane_Doe in Update on Wanting to Leave Marriage   
    Truth.
     
    If you don't have children or aren't around them, you probably think little kids just aren't all that aware - but they are! I remember my daughter not even being a year old and reacting to my husband playfully tackling me. She'd get these big eyes and start rattling the bars of her crib very upset and wailing. After this had happened a few times, we knew the horseplay was just too much for her. No doubt children that are a couple years old and toddler age understand plenty! They may not comprehend big fancy words but they read and sense body language like experts. They know when they are loved.
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    Bini reacted to prisonchaplain in Pumping Mothers   
    On behalf of those of us of the male persuasion, I officially thank all females.  Whether you pump, just feed, use formula with bottles, or do not have children, but still put up with all the extra details of female living...you deserve kudos and honor. 
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    Bini reacted to FiestySoprano in Mixed feelings on suicide   
    Bini,
     
       Firstly, I am so sorry that you have experienced this kind of loss.  I know that it is unlike normal grief.... because those who remain are left haunted with the "what ifs", and shattering shock......I know, because my baby sister took her own life eleven months ago.
     
      Firstly, we never hid it. At first people politely did not directly say it, but as time has passed both my family, and her friends have become more vocal about it. For us, it is because we do not want anyone to think we are in any way ashamed of her, or what happened. She had an illness. There is no shame when someone dies from cancer, or some other disease/ illness......yet we have a long history of incorrect notions, beliefs, stigma, and shame regarding suicide. It is still an illness that causes it. This is why we often say, when people ask how she died.... " Depression".  When people are in that kind of place.....they cannot think clearly. Pain drowns out everything, false notions pound at them. Sometimes they just want the pain to go away, and cannot understand what else will go with it.  Additionally, there is the false belief that it is a selfish act that also contributes to "shame" etc... when in reality, they often think that they will taint everyone, and that those they love will be better off without them.  My sister had two young children, and she never would have done something to hurt them.....and to us, that is the strongest indication of how twisted her perceptions were.  It was clear in her journal that she thought they would be better off without her, and that she was not worthy of them.
     
       The reason I have been vocal, is because we as a society need to be educated about the truth behind the causes of suicide, as well as learn how to perceive mental illness is new ways. If people did not feel ashamed, and if others understood better how to respond......so many losses could be prevented. My sister told her younger sister ( and her maternal side) about her plans, and tragically, she did not know how to respond, or that she should have taken it seriously ( which is common).  I know that she did not tell me, because she knew I would have taken it seriously and acted/ prevented.  I unfortunately had told her a story of intervening for someone in the past.
     
       I am so sorry that your family does not understand these things. Of course it is their own choice..... but often concealing things in that way causes people to have to bottle up their pain, feelings, reactions.... and leaves them in silent torment and confusion over what happened.  It is difficult beyond words even for those of us who are allowed to openly talk about it.  It is so hard to grasp, and the mental wheels of self-blame, and thinking over " what ifs..." is pure torment.  I logically understand it was not my fault, and that I was there for her and told her many times that I loved her.... but its still hard to stop those wheels from spinning sometimes. I miss her so much. 
     
    This is an article that I wrote ( I hope I am allowed to post it--it is not spam or selling anything). I continue to be amazed at how many clicks this gets, and I am glad.... because of all of my posts, this is the one I most would want to be viewed. It is my little voice contributing to the effort of breaking the stigmas.  It details both the issues surrounding suicide and mental illness in general, as well as what I experienced through the loss of my precious sister.
     
    https://delaneylynnlostinthought.wordpress.com/2015/09/22/september-is-national-suicide-prevention-month/
     
     
      I hope that you and your family can find understanding and peace. I am so sorry, my heart goes out to you.
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    Bini got a reaction from classylady in Pumping Mothers   
    It looks platinum blonde but it's not really. It's more of that cotton candy hue. And thank you! As for the pumping situation, long story super short, I ended up exclusively breastfeeding shortly after I made this thread. (No more pumping or bottles.) So post my son's 2.5 week milestone, he's only had mama's breast, and while I thought it'd be super challenging to commit to - it's been a great experience for us :)
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    Bini got a reaction from classylady in Pumping Mothers   
    I like to think both babies were/are good babies. But a first time mum dealing with PPD with a colicky baby was the worse setup! I am grateful the second go around has been much gentler on both of us :)
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    Bini got a reaction from AngelMarvel in Severely Need Relationship Advice   
    She has told you why she is the way she is. She has point blank said that marriage and family is not something she desires right now. Until she receives the help she needs, you cannot change the circumstances, but you can continue to be a friend and continue to live your life. In my opinion, you are very very VERY young, and there's lots for you to still learn about yourself. Experience life, meet new people, travel, and get to know yourself more. 
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    Bini reacted to classylady in Pumping Mothers   
    Bini, I'm so glad you're not dealing with depression this time around.  And, having a "good" baby is always a blessing!
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    Bini got a reaction from classylady in Pumping Mothers   
    Hi, Classylady!
     
    Thank you for thinking about me and checking up. This time around has been a dream! My little boy is such an easygoing little guy which is the polar opposite from my daughter who was super colicky. On top of this, I am not dealing with depression this go around, so life has been much much easier all together :)
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    Bini reacted to classylady in Pumping Mothers   
    Bini, how are you feeling this time around?  I know with your little girl you had postpartum depression.  I'm hoping it will pass you by this time.