normaje

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  1. How is she after the freak out? My daughter has anxiety as well. I believe she needs her freak out moment to stabilize her emotions. We have done therapy. We were taught some breathing and relaxing techniques to help but when she is in her moment she doesn't do them. We have refused medicine as there are no studies that can tell me how the drugs affect a growing brain. But we did put her on Omega 3 supplements. I don't know if it has helped or if she is just maturing but she is doing better than a year ago, and a big improvement from 2 years ago! Her freak-outs are shorter and not so dramatic. ETA: my daughter is 7 as well
  2. I agree....my 7 year old tries to peak on me and hubby all the time. I would never spank or yell at her for doing so. It is a curious age, so many wonderful and new things. Human bodies are beautiful and I would hate to raise a child that would believe other wise. Spanking and yelling is a little extreme when the child just needs to be reminded a naked body should be private. And throwing religion into the mix is just a no-no. I don't understand the molestation comment....If there is this going on in the home then professionals that deal with this need to be called in to help with the whole family. Teaching a child about sex and sexual relations doesn't mean they understand. I have told my children about sex and my 7 year old still thinks babies are made when someone kisses too long.
  3. I am so sorry for your loss. Shortly after my labrador died, 10 years ago, the Ensign had a wonderful article written by Marlin Jensen about raising and loving animals. I kept that ensign for many years because it was such a huge help for me. I believe animals go to heaven but perhaps not with us but with God....but I think I will see my special pets again. For me they are such a huge part of my life I can't imagine being without them in death.
  4. You said your son has some disabilities? Could he have ADHD? This can also be your wife's problem, many adults have ADHD as well that are undiagnosed. I have ADHD children...they are not told to clean their room and left for themselves, because of their disability they need help to organize and put away. I help them do a deep clean once a month or every other month depending on the mess. Inbetween the deep clean (where I help them decide to throw away) they are told in steps what to do. For example I tell them a step "pick up toys and put in toy bucket", after this task is completely finished I say "pick up clothes and put in clothes basket", and so on until everything is in its place. My kids are taught everything has a place. If it doesn't belong to any place it gets thrown away. If they want to keep it they have to find what place it belongs. I let my children do the work and I supervise. I only do physical work on deep clean day. However, I suspect this really isn't about the housework but more about the spouse's attitude toward what you feel is important.
  5. Terrible book....I could hardly read it but I suffered through because someone I trusted recommended it. It would make me feel much better about it if I knew it was false. I just can't believe a mother could be so evil to her own child.
  6. Have you guys tried a marriage counselor or just a do-it-yourself? There may be some other reason she doesn't keep up the house. IMO children should not be responsible for the upkeep of home or cooking of dinners. But I see no reason they can't help with some of the chores. I hate cooking so I am relieved when my husband picks up the slack when I can't think of a good reason to do more than sandwiches or mac-n-cheese. :) Hiring someone would be a good solution to the house cleaning.
  7. Marriage counseling could help. Anxiety disorder is not very fun...I wonder what became of the OP? It did seem like the problem was one sided, but how can the marriage get stronger if one is in bliss and the other not happy?
  8. Sometimes it is the teacher that helps the most....I think most senior primary boys don't sing. Our primary has men teach the older classes and luckily they are men that love to sing. Our music leader challenges the kids to sing louder than the teachers...sometimes it works. :) Good luck, I don't envy your calling at all! I teach in primary and sing along because it is fun but no one wants to hear me sing alone, I am musically challenged.
  9. I am kinda appalled at some of the replies. The bishop was wrong and should have reported. Perhaps the church needs to step up training for this. Abuse of any kind should be reported, then the law can decide if a crime was truly committed. Clergy men are not law and should not pretend to be.
  10. I am so sorry about your divorce, and your ex-husbands actions since. I would be very hurt if I were in the same situation. I don't think anything will come of you talking with the bishop but if you feel the need to do so it would at least take some burden from you. I agree when you find a potential future husband to see about the cancelling of your ended marriage. Good luck. ((HUGS))
  11. I think the problem here is all that move on must acknowledge Jesus as our Savior. The 1/3 chose instead Satan. And how can they move on without a body which we have been told can only come from this temporary existance.
  12. yes, the heroes tribe is very split as well...I think it likely some of them will flip sides as well. Coach definitely. I don't really miss his weirdness....I am just so surprised that Russell has gone so long with his unsocial attitude and ego. Clearly not seen as a big threat to the seasoned players...and even Boston Rob was filmed saying Russell had no idea how to play with the big boys. lol. And to be honest I didn't think he could either. Colby can be swayed and a few others I am sure it they need another vote. Anyway only JT is left for me that I wanted to go to the end...but after watching JT play this time I really could care less if he goes farther or not.
  13. normaje

    Gods?

    ouch! I didn't mean my post to be harsh, but I guess that is how it sounds. I don't claim to know much about anything but I know questioning every little thing leads to disbelief leads to leaving the church. What I meant is he is young and has a lot of growing up to do...and I still don't think anyone should go on a mission if they don't have a strong testimony. IMO. From what little I have read on this forum is most of it is very deep doctrine...and anyone that is struggling with their testimony needs to go back to square one. Prayer, and scripture study...and time to grow their testimony. If you believe that Joseph Smith is a true prophet than everything falls into place over time. IMO...and feel free to pick apart. and yes, I agree what his bishop said was ignorant...apparently I didn't relay that well enough. ETA: I wanted to add, last night I knew my post would be followed by more experienced forum members so I really saw no harm in adding my opinion first.
  14. I would be too afraid of being struck by lightning if I even thought to disagree.
  15. ^^that^^ errr, mrt I think your fridge begs to be cleaned more than every four years.
  16. neat...I have never donated blood as I get faint even have blood drawn for minor test, so good for you.
  17. oh russell, how did we under estimate you....surely you won't go far with your super huge ego to tag along. Loved Sandra's game plan. We will see what next week brings because I guess JT wants to give Russell the h.i. idol. I had no idea we would be left with the players we have at merge. I was hoping Boston Rob would make it to the end and win. He was the rock for the villian team, but I think even he thought Russell was nobody compared to the seasoned players. It should be very interesting the next few episodes.
  18. whoa a survivor thread!! You guys are the best. Stay tune for my comments in a couple days.
  19. I'm pretty sure I was told this too, but it has been so long since my first visit when they explain all the rules. And that first time everything just becomes such a huge (wonderful) blur.
  20. you are pretty funny MrT. I guess if a guy needs to wear a thong I won't question. (i knew you were kidding though)
  21. oh, yeah I guess that would require me to attend Relief society night more than once a year. LOL.
  22. oh, and it doesn't mean it will be easy letting him go...it sounded like you really liked him so let yourself cry a little if it doesn't work out.
  23. oh, I guess this has been discussed...but I don't have access.
  24. Going to sacrament meeting is a huge step...don't feel guilty about not attending R.S.