danceinthedark

I was baptised about 6 months ago and no where near ready for a temple recommend...I even struggle with basic faith in the restored gospel lately. My husband is life long LDS and I know he would love for us to be sealed. I would love to be able to go to the temple...I guess it would be tempting to in another 6 months-lie and say things to get me my recommend...however I have too much respect for the church to do such a thing. Besides...I feel if I were to enter the temple without being "worthy" and without total belief the experience would be empty and may result in further lack of faith in the Church.

I'm sorry you are feeling overwhelmed. Church attendence is something my husband and I are workin on as well. We too are staying home-although it is because we spent all day in the ER yesterday with our toddler because he couldn't breath...he is much better but needs breathing treatments every 4 hours. However, we are tempted to do all of our shopping today since we didn't get anything done yesterday-and that certainly isn't necessary. Really, we just force ourselves to go even when it's a hassel and we are exhausted...I feel once I'm there I really glad I made the decision to go. I think everyone has there struggles-just because yours maybe different from others doesn't make yours worse or better. I think I read somewhere that you are a convert? I am too, my baptism was about 2 months ago. I live in Utah where obviously there are many here who have been members all there lives and have been eating sleeping breathing the commandments-that it seems like they have it all together. But I believe that we all have our struggles-whether people can see them or not. Heavanly Father knows your heart and loves you. Be prayerfull and don't torment yourself.

Both my husbad and I are members, my husband a life long memeber along with his whole family...I am a recent convert. My family is Lutheran. I have a hard time being different from my family...especially because of Temples and the WOW. I think when it comes down to it that is the hardest part of my conversion..being different from my parents and brother, I love them and respect the faith that I was raised in. My parents are very respectfull of my decision and are not the source of why I feel bad about joining the church...anybody else in a similar situation? Thoughts? I already am starting to feel bad that they wont be able to see our son be sealed...and he is only 2!

Creepy? I don't see a problem with it in general. It's like everything else..if you don't like it...go somewhere else.

One of my favorites!!!! Can't we all just get along? I wish we could all be like this to our fellow brothers and sister of other faiths. With less defensivnes on all sides we could probably be a much more peaceful world!

Yes, motherhood is a divine calling and our most important job, but this is def. not a black and white issue. Before I was married and had my son I spent 7 years and thousand of dollars to become a speech pathologist. It was not a sure thing that I would marry and be provided for. So, I had to make sure I could take care of myself. I work part-time and yes, I do have my son in a daycare (gasp! pearl cluch!) I work to pay off my loans and have extra spending money for my family. Being outside the home part-time and working in my choosen field that I have worked so hard to be able to helps me stay balanced, and, ironically, family focused. When I am at home I am at peace and not burned out. I am wholley focused on my son husband, and home. Being able to work outside the home is a blessing for me and my family. If anything should ever happen to my husband I know that I can provide for my child because I have a skill outside the home. My child is happy and thriving and being raised with the gospel. Who are you to say that God does not call each one of us as mothers in different ways? I follow with what I know to be right and true for me and my family...and so should everyone else-without people self-righteously declaring what THEY think you should be doing.

So...I'm getting way ahead of myself by posting this...but I really wanted to know what is typically done. I am getting baptised at the end of the month...hooray!! My husband is already a member with a temple recommend. We were married in a Lutheran ceremony 3 years ago. My husband is very excited to be sealed in the temple (me too). I know it will be at least a year from my baptism until we can be sealed. My husband wants to go all out and thinks I should get myself a wedding dress (temple ready of course) instead of wearing a temple gown. Sort-of re-do our wedding-since I actually was really disapointed with how our wedding turned out in the first place. Is this done? Would it be weird if I was sealed in a wedding dress as I am already married? I don't think I would do a big pouffy dress...just a modest pretty dress to set the day apart. I hope to have our child/ren sealed to us the same day and have pictures taken-have a special family dinner-no reception or anything.

I agree about the wishy washines...of the stance on homesexuality from the ELCA...I am an ELCA Lutheran....but am investigating the LDS Church. I really want direction and guidence from my church. However, if you look at any stance on any issue from the ELCA they are all as amibiguous as the their take on gay marriage...sigh....(feeling very lost)....

that's: do I have to have the missionary discussions...I swear I attempted edit before I posted!

I have posted once before about joining the church. I am really starting to feel the Spirit guide me to being baptised. My husband is LDS...active, holds the Priesthood...so...do I have to have the missionaries come over and have the discussions to be baptised? I could probably ask DH-but I still feel silly asking him some things...and sometimes he doesn't really know anyways!

I was referring to that poster saying that (and I'm simplifying) that if I continue to drink coffee-I wont be able to be with my son in heaven. That to me is a threatening statement. It doesn't make me want to know that Heavenly Father. The Christ and Lord that I know loves me and I have faith that I will be with my loved ones after I die...I don't have to do anything...Christ already died for ME. It is just such statements that get made that push me further away right when I am wanting learn more...

Mahonri, seriously do you really think that by being threatening-you will help me any? Seriously...and, I am not considering membership for social reasons...I've got friends thank you. Also, I didn't want this to turn into a WoW debate..."hot drinks" vs coffe and tea blah blah....I know that for me if I were to follow the WoW I would have to give up coffee...so no need to debate that. CLEARLY I am not ready to be baptised...I know that. Thanks all for comments-I've got lots of prayer ahead of me!

Thanks for all the responses. I agree with all the suggestions to really read the Book of Mormon and pray...after all I know that is what the missionaries would have me do :-) I think it is hard for me to get started... I also don't think I want to join the church for social purposes...I have a genuine interest to learn more...it's not just that I want to make the hubs happy. A big part of my faith formation happened in my teen/college years...the leaders around me taught me to question everthing and to be non-conformist...so I think that is part of my problem in buckeling down and reading the Book of Mormon...I don't want to because someone told me to. Shouldn't God just tell me if it is true? I shouldn't have to do anything...that is the Lutheran in me ;-)

Hello there, so my basic story is that I married someone who is LDS...we were married at my church (Lutheran) I was raised in the Lutheran church and have a strong testimony of Jesus Christ. I pretty much attend LDS services with my husband. I don't dislike being Lutheran, but I desire to share the same faith as my husband. When we got married we talked a lot about our faiths and I never expected him to convert to my faith...I love him as he is and have alway had respect for his faith. He felt the same way towards me-we got married with the expectation that both faiths would be a part of our lives. However, now with the addition of our wonderful son I desire us to be all of the same faith. We had him blessed in the LDS church. I wanted that for him and our family. My biggest road block to converting is two fold: I don't have a testimony of Joseph Smith...I've read too much about him and can't see him as a prophet. The other part is silly...I could never give up coffee...alcohol I can do without, coffee is not only an addiction that is physical and psychological-but cultural as well. Just as it is cultural for LDS persons not to drink coffee; it is part of my culture to drink it. Lutherans all gather 'round the coffe pot after service. My family drinks it...I can't imagine not sitting down with my mother over coffee. Anyway, I wondered if anyone had any insights to offer me...I've discussed this all with my husband obviously...but he doesn't take me seriously...as I have dabbled with this same conflict long enough I think he figures I'll never really decide. Sorry for the long post....