mrmarklin

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  1. If the Jews are being punished, it is because of their continuing non-belief in the doctrines and gospel of Christ. Not for any past sins of their forefathers. Just like many other nations in the world. Just like the Lamanites and Nephites were, and just like any of us will be should we not obey the commandments and continue in the paths of righteousness.
  2. Some of the Kubayah members of this forum think I should be "supportive". Sorry, all I have is realistic advice.
  3. How long did you know your husband before marraige? He didn't swear then? Frankly I find that a little incredible. You didn't even meet his family before marraige? I find that a little incredible too. But I'll take you at your word. And assuming it's true, you didn't do any due diligence prior to marraige?? Didn't discuss your various interests and tastes? I gave you good advice: My good advice remains the same. You probably can't change your man. Get your own TV/DVD player.
  4. Get some sort of job. Nothing like good honest work and commitment to improve your self esteem, and get yourself off of government assistence. Also you have too much "dead" time on your hands, and having less to yourself will cause you to focus more on what's important. Work hard and do what your boss says, and you will start getting positive feedback, further enhancing your esteem. Any job is OK. I'm a CPA now, but in college I cleaned bathrooms to put myself through. Yeah, praying and stuff is OK too, but by itself is nowhere near enough.
  5. First off, he's done this ever since you've known him and his family. So I think it's a lot self righteous to try to set some sort of standard now. You should have dealt with this BEFORE marraige. Actually you did. You tacitly accepted it. Second, get another TV/DVD player. They're not so expensive now. We've got several, and all the kids have moved out. My wife and I don't have the problem about what to watch because we can each do what we want.
  6. Your wife has already answered your question. Of course she's not temple worthy. She doesn't believe in the Church anymore. And believing in the church and following the prophet is one of the temple questions.
  7. Dr Laura Schessinger counsels that a single parent should not date until his/her child is 18 and on their own. Since you have such ambivalent feelings about dating right now, I would take that as very good advice.
  8. A Mormon IS doomed if he worhips Joseph Smith!!!
  9. I was "rebuked" one time on an internet forum. The guy didn't know I was LDS, but he didn't like my beliefs.
  10. Be quiet. If she was "caught in the act" she already knows.
  11. Think you've touched on the truth. Women think that they can be "friends", but guys always want to take the next step. Assuming that's true, and I believe it is, there can never be what we know as true friendship: ie: a two way street of full companionship.
  12. "Although most claim it's monotheistic, it seems to be more along the lines of henotheism. It seems to at least recognize the existence of other divine beings but makes it clear that God the Father is the one we're to worship through His Son." Of course basic Mormon beliefs track with the bible!
  13. IMNSHO The short answer is NO. Been around a long time, seen a lot of stuff, and I don't think it's possible. It is possible to lie to oneself.
  14. He is not worthy to bring his wife through the veil, when the time comes.
  15. I suppose it's possible to have known one's spouse in the pre existence, but I wouldn't spend a lifetime banking on that. Not a believer in that sort of destiny. Knowing what I know now, I would not have married my wife, but would have made another choice. Nevertheless, I've been married to the same woman for almost 40 years. I'm with Monson on this one..................... "Thomas S. Monson has said Choose your love...love your choice."
  16. Backroads, you obviously have a limited understanding of what it means to be married for time and all eternity and the true meaning of the temple vows.
  17. I think you owe it to your children to keep up the facade until they are raised. There's no reason to shake their faith because in children at home, some of it may depend on you. After the last one is back from his/her mission, just go quietly inactive. Of course you'll have to tell your wife why, and word will get around, but at least you will have fulfilled your responsibilities as a father. You should also prepare yourself for the possibility tht your wife may also leave you. After all, you've already left her.
  18. It used to be "normal" in the Church to be American and White. But not any more. Not for a long time. While the Church is family centric as an ideal, in my (nonUtah) experience that's not really "normal" anymore either.
  19. I have had this feeling many times, even though I'm a hard-core believer. I have met many in your situation, and I'm speculating a little bit, but I'm assuming you're a "social" Mormon who was raised in the church and "went along" with all the programs because they are good ones, all your friends were Mormons, and a lot of the social activities were centered around church activities as well. I'm not a social Mormon, but in my early days had a lot of doubts about the church. I solved those doubts by praying and it is a good solution. That being said I let a lot of the "guilt trips" of Mormonism go by. I don't read the scriptures every day (actually hardly ever), don't pay a lot of attention to the exhortations to do Home teaching, attend the Temple a lot (two activities that bore me) and many of the other things that a lot of us are guilted into doing. I truly believe that one does not have to do "everything" to attain exhaltation. God can see our limitations. The above being said, realize that the Church is essentially a volunteer organization, and one must put something back. I enjoy teaching, and have steered all my callings in recent years in that direction. Mormonism is a good way to live, and I've taught it to my children. I can honestly say that the Church saved my wife's life (probably literally) in her youth and looking back on it, mine as well. Ultimately, you need to ignite your faith through prayer. And I don't mean those silly repetitions that we all know about, and don't go any higher than the roof. God wants to help you carve out your own niche of Salvation, but He can't do it alone. There are some good books on Prayer, and you owe it to yourself and your family to read one and follow its urgings.
  20. I'm sure if you explain your reasons to the Bishop (should the subject even come up) it would be OK. I've been in a Bishopric, and I think it be alright IMHO.
  21. I think we have to look at it firguratively. Even before the times of Noah, there had to have been rainbows. In other words Noah's, wasn't the first. Take it as an analogy, kind of like the fig tree's leaves.
  22. Current LDS architecture is an oxymoron. Clearly are designed for cost effectiveness, and ease of construction. I think there are only 3-4 basic plans world-wide. In Cedar City Utah there is a "rock" chapel that is now a tourist attraction. The reason most of the cool buildings are in Utah is that they were self-funded back in the day, and didn't have he heavy hand of SLC beaurocracy dictating design. They actually had architects! They uses stained glass, etc. in the designs many times depending on the affluence of the community.
  23. Most of us guys should be so lucky...............:)
  24. One other thought: It's cheapest to go in the winter, and England is relatively mild. The very heavy snows the last year or so are very unusual. My first trip was at the end of January, and aside from being somewhat cold, was very pleasant.
  25. As a person married to someone who came from an abusive houshold, I would tell you that these problems are not easily overcome. Unless you and your friend have had some serious counseling it's impossible to get past these issues. You should move on, there are many "normal" young women out there who would make good companions. The confusion you have had in your prayers is God's way of telling you what I have just said.