mrmarklin

We will be putting on market in January, then moving in with family temporarily until the house is built.  We anticipate a sale price that will technically give us a 35K 'profit' compared to the original purchase price of our current home.  Even if there is a crash and we lose 10% value on our new house, that would negate the 35K 'profit' and put us at break even.  The KY market only dropped about 5 or 6 % during the last recession, even at it's worst.  I think we are in a good position to come out okay on those fronts as well, even if we don't 'win'.  We also plan to live in this new home for 10+ years, which theoretically would be enough to bring us out of another housing bust and back into the green.

I don't know what part of the country you live in but from my seat 370k seems like small potato's for a new build. You can't even buy a 50 year old condo around here for that.
You have huge down, 15Y mortgage and are some how worried about the payment? Buy the house you will live there forever and be done with it.  If money gets tight refinance in to a 30yr deal.

I feel your pain.  As a fellow 9, I am accustomed to unwanted and unsolicited attention from the opposite sex. 
My advice is to put your attraction to the younger sister out of your mind.  It is normal to be attracted to women.  If she is an attractive girl, and you are attracted to her then congratulations  you are normal.  
IT CAN'T GO PAST THAT
If you find you are unable to control your thoughts/desires/actions then seek professional help, see your bishop.  DO NOT ruin your family and your life over this.  

Honorable. Filled with integrity. Stalwart. Faithful. Dependable. True. Righteous. Disciplined. Obedient. Trustworthy. Long suffering. These are some of the things we should be.
Disloyal. Controlled by our passions. Controlled by our genitalia. Unfaithful. Lustful. Wicked. Creepy. These are some of the things we should not be.

This is why I haven't moved to Mongolia. The cost of living is way too high.

On a serious note, PC, as I feel fairly confident that you understand the concept of eternal marriage per the LDS theology, I think you should be able to gather that a typical LDS believer would be uncomfortable with their son or daughter marrying outside of that.

You made a decision 12 years ago to go to his church.  You also married a non-member.  12 years and 4 kids ago that all seemed like a good idea.  Now you feel something is missing.........
You will not like my advice, but here it is:  Your marriage is first, your children are second.  You are reaping consequences of your bad decisions.  Do not sacrifice the sanctity of marriage or break up your family by planting your flag on this.  Once your kids are grown, do what you want.  Until then sleep in the bed you made.  If you are going to his church and he is an otherwise righteous man and good provider/husband, then you have no reason to go against his wishes.  

I think he does, based on the way he's speaking. And I think that's despicable. 
Family and children don't need DNA. Love has nothing to do with DNA, and if you think families are any less because they don't share the same blood, you need to rethink your life. I was adopted by my grandparents and they are a million times more my parents than my biological parents are.

And if you want my opinion: if your boyfriend hasn't even started school yet and you are halfway through undergrad, AND have the opportunity to get a law degree for free: stay where you are. Your boyfriend/future husband (if that's the case) can get his degree where you are at and you'll both practically be done at the same time, AND you'll save a ton of money, if you're wanting to start making those "big move" decisions. At the end of the day though, this decision should be made with a lot of prayer and attendance to the temple. 

I am pretty pro-husband-as-primary breadwinner.  But from what it sounds like—right now you have a plan, and he is more or less drifting (not to get all harrumph-ey, but I didn’t have to spend time after my mission figuring out where I’d go to school).  Speaking as someone with $89K in law school debt, this free tuition thing you’ve got lined up sounds like a pretty sweet gig; and if I were a woman I wouldn’t walk away from that while my fiancé was still trying to figure out what he wants to be when he grows up.

These tests are day to day life.  Who lives a life devoid of problems?  Not even the very wealthy have this luxury.  Steve Jobs with all his wealth could not prevent dying young, although he tried.
 
It's what one does about one's problems that define who one is.
Recently some have dealt with tropical storms, flooding and total loss of family, friends and every kind of material goods!  Many, if judging by the news have dealt well with these problems.  Others probably not so well.

For what it's worth: The idea of giving advice without judgment is a theoretical impossibility. How can one advise if one hasn't made a judgment on how to advise?

Revelation for couples should be received as a couple.  That's not to say it can't come to one spouse first, but that the other spouse should also receive it too.

This may sound ridiculous, but it sounds like you are so busy doing the right things and being the right person, that the core essential of who you are and what it all means has become hidden. So, perhaps a vacation is in order?  Whether you do a personal retreat, or take the family is up to you, but taking the time to slow down, pull out of the fast-paced routine, and breath deeply, may bring perspective. If you believe in God (or Higher Power) at all, being able to pray apart form your busy church life, may help. Being able to rest, to listen to music, to hear the ocean, or breathe mountain air--to just reboot.  You may not get all of your answers, but at least you'll gain some strength to figure out your course of action.

Tell her you would like to be friends with her after her mission, and ask for her home address, or friend her on Facebook.  
Then forget about her for 4 months.

https://www.deseretnews.com/article/865689265/4-U-of-U-students-charged-with-criminal-mischief-after-allegedly-spray-painting-BYU-cougar-statue.html

So @Just_A_Guy, our resident Utah attorney (or anyone else who knows): How serious is a Class B misdemeanor? Is it the kind of thing that keeps you out of medical school? Denies you a job or a loan? What are some other Class B misdemeanors in Utah? Just wanting to compare.
I have never had much (read: any) sympathy for vandals, and specifically toward U of U vandals on BYU property. But defacing a statue with spray paint is different from pulling it down or breaking it. While I'm not filled with sympathy for the U of U students who vandalized the statue, it would be a shame to see them receive a permanent, life-altering criminal record for what amounts to a stupid college stunt.

Don't worry, I know all about Spaghetti Eis.☝️

I'm starting to consider the possibility that it isn't God, but reality, that imposes ideological litmus tests and ties them to our salvation.
Someone who believes the Book of Mormon is "inspired fiction" is very likely to take a "nuanced" (i.e. squishy) approach to things like revelation and modern prophets and obedience and sin, that's going to make them a very easy mark for deception going forward and that makes it very, very difficult for them to convey any serious devotion to the Gospel on to the next generation.
It's not that God rejects them for their heresy--He'll keep them as long as they stay.  It's just that they've planted an anchor that isn't going to hold them and their children through the storms that are inevitably coming; and unless they find a better anchor they're going to drift away.

If feelings are based on what you "want" to feel, who cares what you feel? It's meaningless.
And I do not believe that "Everyone's feelings are valid" means the same thing as "We should be sensitive to others' feelings." I think you were trying to say something else, but I can't figure out what.

Umm, I really don't have a problem with this.  You do know that it takes two people to get married right?  She had to say yes. And it's says it's okay in the scriptures to do so.
1 Cor. 7:8-9
8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I.
9 But if they cannot contain, let them marry: for it is better to marry than to burn.
And one of the primary outcomes of sex is children and continuing the circle of life is essential to this life. Even using birth control they ain't perfect and somewhere 3 times out of 100 you will get pregnant   I don't know that it's the best long-term reason . . .but then again God gave men these desires specifically so they would have the desire to start a family. So no, I don't have a single problem with it.
Now, that changes if the guy is like well I'm going to get married so I can have sex and then when I've had my fill or I'd like to have sex with someone else then I'll just get a divorce-that it very bad and very deceitful.  I think there was a rumor going about of BYU students who went to Vegas to "get married" had a weekend of debauchery, got divorced and then tried to claim they never broke the law of chastity . . .they were ex'd. Simply because they never planned to actually be married.  So if the guy got married then got divorced, yeah big problem.  Otherwise, not a problem 
 
 

I'm not sure what the issue is, and as one of the unwashed is there something more complicated that I'm missing?   It seems blatantly obvious to me as a heathen.  
Committing sin and unrepentant and/or willfully disobeying God equals no baptism.  
Follwing the will of God and obeying the church rules equals baptism should you choose it. 
Anyone can attend and even participate to a decent degree, but baptism requires a covenant with God.  
What am I missing?

These things are all true. Prior to Luther's day the Catholics solved this by selling indulgences. Problem solved 

These things are all true. Prior to Luther's day the Catholics solved this by selling indulgences. Problem solved 

These things are all true. Prior to Luther's day the Catholics solved this by selling indulgences. Problem solved 

Still gotta to be baptized.
"Jesus answered, Verily, verily, I say unto thee, Except a man be born of water and of the Spirit, he cannot enter into the kingdom of God." John 3:5
And you gotta have obedience to the commandments.
"And, behold, one came and said unto him, Good Master, what good thing shall I do, that I may have eternal life?
And he said unto him, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments." - Matthew 19:16–17