My wife and I have been married for almost two years now. We have a great relationship and we love each other. Needless to say, we both know that we would lay our lives down for each other. When we were first married we were "two peas in a pod." We were inseparable and we were happy. During our first year of marriage we both felt that we had been blessed tremendously! We both have great full-time jobs that pay very well and we are both going to school part-time.
Here is my first issue. Our intimacy has diminished and is continuing to fall quite rapidly. I have talked to my wife about this and she understands that I see an issue and that it is getting worst by the minute. I have tried everything in the book to spice things up again. But nothing seems to work. I feel like the more I try with failed attempts the more I feel depressed and overwhelmed. I am starting to get the idea that I'm am the only one in the marriage that is working to make things better. We recently moved to a new area and I don't have anyone I feel comfortable talking to. Any help or suggestions would be greatly appreciated!!!
Second, when we were first married, having a child was in a few of our conversations. We recently have adopted a dog and I have heard her mention that, "we have a dog, why do we need kids?" On another occasion, she has told me that she does not want to have any kids. I love kids and I want kids and she knows this. I know I may not have the financial ability to support a non-working mother and one kid.
I'm hanging on my last thread. I'm starting to feel selfish because I keep working at it and nothing happens. What do you do in this type of situation? What do you do when you marry someone you thought was one way and then after you get married they turn into someone else?
