SuperAlbeee

I'm a new member since July 2009 and still reading through the Book of Mormon. I was a very strong Buddhist before I became interested in the church. I loved my religion and I felt like a very happy individual. But when LOTS of very strong coincidence occurred in my life, it made me see that God was trying to get my attention. When I gave in and decided to investigate, the first few times I read the BoM.... I felt something in my heart. I didn't investigate with intending on converting. I read to educate myself on mormons. After several weeks of reading the BoM and having lessons. I returned to my buddhist readings... and I didn't feel the same. There was an emptiness there. I now know I couldn't feel the spirit reading buddhist things, but I felt it when I read the BoM. That was one of the ways I know the BoM is true. As much as I resisted converting.... I remember telling my my boyfriend (who is LDS) after about a month of keeping it a secret, that I was going to convert. I said to him "I'm thinking about converting, because when I read the BoM.... I think (and I almost cried when I said it), how could a young man who was not an academic, or a scholar write such things?... these things are not made up I'm sure about it. And I can't ignore the fact I really feel something when I read it....how can it not be true?" I still feel emotional when I recall saying that to him. And recalling it, strengthens my testimony. The BoM is true. They are God's words.

I would like to share with everyone, that my boyfriend is an LDS member, and he has just move to China where there is NO church and he is not allowed by law to share the gospel. It's hard for him because he can not take sacrement, has no bishop to talk to, no priesthood holders to help discuss the gospel or teach him in person. There are many man mainland Chinese people living or studying in Australia. And there were a lot in my ward back in Australia (I'm in Spain at the moment). Nearly every second week chinese people were getting baptised. Hearing their testimony is amazing because these people have NEVER heard the gospel, or about Jesus. And when you see them speak, you see they are affected by the spirit. I think China will be the next big super power in the world, and will have a very big role to play in our future of the world. Don't forget just how many people live in China !! Their population is incredible. That also means, there are millions upon millions of people who have NEVER heard the gospel. Thank you for posting this point from General Conference. I also urge everyone to pray for China in particular to become open

Hey there, I would like to add my comments to your post. I'm a recent convert, so I'm probably closer to being in your wife's shoes at the moment more than ever. I'm not married, so I don't have a husband to break the news to but did have to tell my mother. My mother was distressed, upset and anxious when I told her my decision and that I wanted to get baptized. She had the same concerns that the church would be controlling and I would be limiting my my opportunities in life/ relationships because of my choice to be a LDS church member. But I had to explain to her that it was adding to my life. I felt more direction, strength and it was a place for me to grow and be a better person. She was worried I was pressured into the decision, worried I wasn't taking my time. But I had to tell her I had feelings about my own spirituality without any sort of pressure, and hey if I didn't want to be there, no one was forcing me to be there, I was free to walk away. Not one can stop me leaving... I mean seriously.. legally as well. I am still with the church, I didn't walk away. I really love it. No one forces me to do anything, or to be there. I love going to church, learning and feeling the Spirit (the Holy Ghost) every Sunday. As a woman, I can say that this church is one of the best places for a woman. As you may or may not have read, women are respected and treated as equals. There are three meetings on Sundays for church. Scarement, Sunday school/ gospel principles/ Relief Society & Priesthood. That is why church goes for 3 hours. It seems like a long time but actually it's a really beautiful way to spend some of your Sunday. I guarantee you that when she comes home from church she will be in a good mood ;-) Basically Relief Society is for women 18 + , Priesthood is for men We learn the same things, but the reason men and women seperate is because we are taught the gospel in context to our roles as a man or a woman. Also the style of learning and discussion is suited to men and women. One of the many reasons I love the church is because Relief Society teaches me what my role is as a sister, a daughter, friend, person in the community & one day a wife and mother. The women are there to teach, share, support & love one another like sisters. The church does become your family and you can ask of them anything you would ask of your own family. I've never been told "no" when I've asked for help with something. It's like that all over the world in all LDS churches. I've been to two LDS churches outside my country (Australia). Been to Prague, Czech Republic & Alicante, Spain. And the first question I have been asked as soon as I have arrived at the LDS churches by Relief Society is "Can we help you with anythng? Do you need anything? Here are contact phone numbers, address. If you need anything you can call us" And even whilst I am away from home, I get beautiful emails from one of the women in Australia asking me how I am, if I need anything. I love that they haven't forgotten me and just say hello and ask that question. Because whilst I have been away some things have been difficult, and it's good to know they haven't forgotten me and care about me. So, for your wife this would be a really wonderful thing to have Relief Society there for her whilst you are away to help her with anything she needs. She might be dealing with the emotions of being alone without you, she might want someone else to pray with her for your safety (which is such a blessing), she might want a blessing to comfort her or she might just need some help in her house because she might be unwell, feel overwhelmed. Or there is something which she can't do on her own which requires a man and someone can organise for their husband to come out and help. Or the missionaries can do it. they don't just door knock. They help lds and non lds people in the community. The women in the church (and the men) are really there for each other. And that is all by God's help and inspiration. Please know that. One thing which was difficult for me to get myhead around was the idea of prophets and apostles. And I think other people who don't understand the church get scared- like i did. I thought "this is just crazy!" I visualised a men, up o podium wearing expensive jeweling, cowboy hats (not that there's anything wrong with cow boy hats), who look like car salesmen, ranting loudly into a tv late at night, being worshipped as God's themselves. Meanwhile embezzing all the church's money, riding in limozines and private jets. It was FAR FAR from the truth. These men do not get paid nor are they looked after by the church financially. They do their work out of their own pockets and leave some very very highranked jobs when they are called to be in the genera presidency. One apostle was a high profile american judge, another was a german Luftansa senior executive. These men do sacrifice when they are called. They are humble men with soft hearts who teach us the ways of God, Jesus Christ and how we can improve our lives. I had the special opportunity to see one speak whilst I was investigating the church. Elder Holland one of the 12 apostles. I was COMPLETELY sceptical and I can testify that I came away feeling as though God had touched my heart. The feeling was so beautiful and some very small things he had said, made me know that God was truly there. I can't explain the feeling other than I felt like crying... because the feeling was so beautiful and had touched my heart. I'm not a person who cries in public. am I some crazed fanatical Christian behaving like they are at a rock concert.. Actually, I wasn't a christian at all before joining the church. I was a strong buddhist from a VERY old fashioned traditional family. A quiet warm person who doesn't like to make a scene. I haven't put my family traditions or buddhism on the backshelf. I embrace the fact those things has made me who I am and brought good things into my life. The church just builds on those things. I've never felt that way I felt when I heard Elder Holland speak. Not because the man is so good at speaking or is some powerful expert cowboy brainwasher. He was a normal man, a grandfather, wearing a simple navy blue shirt and tie. I just felt God was in the room that night. Since joining, my mother is happy with my decision. She knows that I'm on a really good spiritual path and there are some things she is starting to admire like my choice to have a healthy life, no coffee, no alcohol. My skin is so bright and healthy! She told me she admired my ability to live that way and wished she could do that same. Actually.. I have a lot of friends who have all started wanting to give up coffee and reduce their alcohol intake for health reasons. Mum supports me and asks me lots of questions to learn more herself. There are some amazing things about the restored church. The church as enriched my life. I live a happy, healthier, moral life which I'm proud of. I make better choices, which set a good example to others and inspires them, and it has strengthend my relationship with the people around me and with God and Jesus. The church will help your best friend soul mate, wife, be a better wife, friend, mother, daughter sister. It WILL strengthen your family. It accepts marriages with non LDS members and gives it's members the knowledge and blessings to help it every step of the way. Even if you decide the LDS church is not for you for what ever reason, that is okay. I would expect people to accep my beliefs and therefore I respect their beliefs. I urge you to allow your wife the opportunity and experience in her life with the LDS Church. We only get one life (if you're not a buddhist hahaha). And as one of the others has said I encourage you to attend a church meeting with some LDS soliders just to have the knowledge of the type of church your wife is attending and so you can yourself feel the presence of the spirit. No one will pressure you when/ if you express you don't wish to attend again. God bless you and keep you safe. Thank you for serving to protect our world from terrorism.

XOOMER DON'T GIVE UP AND DON'T SETTLE FOR JUST ANYTHING Marriage. committment and family is one of the biggest things in life for an individual. The myth is, that is will make them feel complete. A friend of mine said once: "it to whole people to make a relationship not two half people" Another friend recently said to me that a bishop told her once: Marriage is like a garden. You have your garden the other person has theirs. Meaning what ever YOU cultivate in your garden, you will take with you into your marriage. The garden represents ourselves: spirituality strength and committment, finances, self estem, well being, health, lifestyle. The objective is to both have nourished, well looked after colourful looking gardens. Two full individuals. Who don't let each other down, or rely on the other for their well being and self estem for their nourishment- which they didn't have in their garden. A man who doesn't want to be alone at 26 years young, has some work to do in his garden. Get your life in order, give yourself some nourishment, get your spirituality back on track and keep it on track, get everything ready in your life so that when you have another half who has put in the hard work into her own life to make it full as well, you're sure going to have a marriage with 2 strong individuals who love each other. If you are not coping the next few days without counsell from your bishop... if it were me, I would tell your lady friend you are going away for the weekend and won't be contactable. You're clearly confused and talking to her on the phone and allowing her to cry and manipulating you is not going to help your situation. Have some time and space to yourself. Or spend time with your family. Be around good people to get you through the next days. If that's not an option, go away for the weekend somewhere nice. BE PATIENT, PRAY a lot, try to fast, it REALLY REALLY works, READ your scriptures to help you get answers. And when the bishop is available, tell him everything and let God and the bishop guide you. What ever you decide to do for yourself if you choose not to be with this woman, ie- joining the military again. Make sure that choice will help you grow and cultivate your own garden. I hope you work it out. God bless you.

True people can both have higher and lower sex drives. But I think when a couple are on the same page and very in tune with one another, love and care for one another they tend to be insink with each other's needs.

I know some spouses completely lose their sex drive when they fall out of love with their partner too. People can fall out of love because their partner has killed all the "in love" part of their relationship with their selfishness and unwillingness to work together at a serious problem like gambling.

I received on of these emails requesting my email address exchange. it seemed like a very friendly innocent young women from Africa wanting to make friends. Stupidly I gave my email and I received some email telling me she was a refugee living in a camp in Senegal. Her parents had been killed by rebels. That's all it said. I wrote back and said it was awful she was in a refugee camp (dumb me!). Asked some questions about her life. She wrote back told me about how awful it is living in a refugee camp, then she goes on to tell me her father was an adviser to some leader etc. He has a fortune in a european bank account, she wanted me to help her transfer money from a bank account and to be her partner/ mentor. To help get her established and studying in my home country. If I helped her there would be a reward of 20% of her father's 8.2 Million dollar estate. I knew at that moment it was a scam. So I've reported it to my national authorities that deal with computer scams and fraud. I looked up this scam it's called the "orphan" scam. BEWARE DO NOT GIVE YOUR EMAIL ADDRESS OUT OR GIVE ANY PERSONAL DETAILS OUT NO MATTER HOW SWEET THIS PERSON MIGHT SOUND

If your husband can not respect your wishes, as his wife to reduce his gambling and has even put you both into debt for his habbit, it seems to me the problem is much more serious problem and he needs to face up to it and get help. As his wife you can go and get him all the reading material about gambling addictions so he can understand and relate to his problem. You can obtain phone numbers of gamblers help. You can give him all of that information in the world and ask him to do something about it. You must also tell him in the most straight forward language, that it is having a serious affect on your relationship. My ex defacto boyfriend of 3years (before I became an LDS member) was an alcoholic. I expressed to him many times that it was affecting our relationship and he had to do something about it. I was supportive I was there. I did everything I could to help him. But he neglected to listen to me. He made many promises to do something, sometimes he pretended to do something about it, but actually... he lied about it. In actual fact, he never admitted to being an alcoholic and never committed to changing. I can related because I felt like I was talking to a brickwall. I felt frustrated and depressed about my future with him and the quality of my life. He only wanted to put things in action when it was all about to break up. Which wasn't good enough because as soon as things were okay again with me... he went back to his old ways. I know now, that is not a good partner in a relationship. An addiction problem of a partner does affect the happiness and longevity of relationships and your own well being. We saw a pyschologist together about this because I ended the relationship. He wanted to make the relationshp work, and I wanted it over and I wanted a pyschologist to explain to him why it was over. I revealled how I had asked him many times over the years to do something about his addiction and how he didn't do enough. There were many other issues but not relevant to this topic. The pyschologist told him he had clearly repeatedly neglected his relationship when I had many times expressed something needed to be done about his problem. When I heard her say it to him, it strange seeing a third person summerise his failures in our relationship. I knew then, without any emotional manipulation from him, that it was actually okay to leave that relationship. I knew in my heart I had been a good loving partner. I had been the one who put in a lot of time and energy to fix the relationship. It was he, who wasn't working with me as his partner to improve the relationship. Living with a partner who won't not listen to you when you express you are unhappy, especially about an addiction does affect the quality of your relationship and your own well being. I think you have the right to leave if you have tried everything to work with him to improve the marriage and be supportive in his gambling addiction. If he refuses to work together with you, then he no other choice but to face your decision to end your marriage.

Very interesting, but something which has never once been mentioned is about her telling you WHO the other father is and what his involvement will be. Surely he would like meet his son or daughter and be at the birth? Why is he abandoning her now if they had a loving relationship? Surely she had some sort of relationship with the biological father. And if not, why won't he take responsibility? Or was it just another fly by short lived romance ? We're talking about looking at her 'behaviour' here and morals and standards. What do you want with a woman who gives her self so easily to men in a short space of time and has unprotected sex. You were talking about marrying a women like this? How can you consider it when you, yourself are an LDS Christian and have been brought up with higher standards than this. Even by non lds life style.... this type of behaviour, having unprotected sex with 2 different guys in a short period of time is utterly stupid, risky, irresponsible and not respectable. Even if non LDS girls have sex before marriage (because they are not religious, it's acceptable in society, they don't understand or embrace the gospel). !!!! it doesn't mean they sleep people just like that if they like a guy. Other non lds women would view that behaviour as wrong. And if her attitude and behaviour is like that, there's an even higher chance she would have had a lot more unprotected sex in the past which makes the risk of STIs even higher in her. There is a really famous quote in Australia: When you sleep with someone, you are also sleeping with everyone that person has slept with. And you see a picture of a messed up double bed.. and to one side you see many empty messed up beds. Most normal non LDS women will take time to know guy and decide if there can relationship before they give themselves. They go out on dates, they are picky about who they want. How can this girl expect to have a long term relationship with a tourist from the U.S? In mainstream non LDS society, yes women do have sex outside of marriage but a lot of them are educated to use protection, both birth control (if they are sexually active) AND protection from STIs. I don't think this girl is even fitting the standards of a non lds girls. Who has unprotected sex with 2 men in a short space of time? The seoncd one being a US tourist who could just have his fling and go home and never call or write to her again. AND I'm sorry I will be very frank... some married couples have a lot of trouble conceiving. It can take many months, sometimes years of trying. Women who fall pregnant accidently must be COMPLETELY careless about birthcontrol in more ways than one. Another other issue is: Surely she could be pursuing legal avenues to get the biological father to pay child support. Or is it that she is not even a legally allowed to be in France to claim such a thing because it would bring attention to the fact she is in the country illegally? The more and more I think about your situation the more I'm convinced she is not of good morals and values and might be manipulating you. How do you know she didn't TRY to fall pregnant with the other guy? Just because you are infatuated with someone... (that is also what this could be, love and infatuation often get confused), doesn't mean you have to suddenly be a good christian, step up and save her. This girl has been completely irresponsible about birth control, protection from STIs and choosing wisely who she has sexual relationships with. That is HER agency and she is now in a position where she has to account for the consequences. She is not married and pregnant not living in her home country. I would also assume she doesn't have much money either. If she is not going to get any support from the biological father, not in a financial position to look after her own baby, in a foreign country without welfare, then she may even want to put this baby up for adoption to a couple who CAN not have children of their own, have a secure home, loving marriage, great environment. As a good Christian, you should know that a child has the right to born to loving parents who are married and have a loving secure home. What will this child's future be like? What about it's education? Which country is it going to live in? If she can not offer this these key things to her child, then I think she should strongly consider giving the child up for adoption. One person's mistake can be a married couple's blessing. I know a couple who are medically unable have children, and it breaks my heart to see them getting older.. getting to their mid 40s now, frustrated from sitting on a VERY slow national waiting list to adopt. This couple are amazing, intelligent, active, loving people who would make the most fantastic parents. They have a very loving marriage, beautiful architectural home (the husband is an architect) they are ver happy and yet... they feel incomplete because they can not physcially produce their own children. These are the types of people who are parents in waiting to adopt. If her Fillapino family want to take care of the baby, what if they are already poor? Won't this place a burden on their family? The LDS Church have services for unwanted pregnancies. Look on the LDS website. It has some very good information.

I completely agree!!! There is a famous woman who used to be a Fillapino house maid to a famous multi millionaire in Australia, Lang Hancock. Rose Porteous- google her. She is famous for being married three times, and the third marriage was to the country's wealthiest men. Guess what??....he died left her a fortune, which she profitted from. His daughter saw through Rose Porteous and tried to sue Rose for marrying her father for his fortune and attributing to death. She got sued by a law firm for legal fees. She is now disgusting rich and lives very lavishly. The Australian public hate her. She gives Fillapino women a bad name. I am not slandering or generalisation about all Fillapino women. I have a couple of friends who are lds Fillapinos. They are warm sweet generous caring people who work hard, not married, good morals and values. But reality is, this is a problem in world, and gives Fillapino women a very bad reputation. Don't get manipulated it could ruin your life.

This is where I was going with my information about Filipinos working in Paris. It's just not possible unless she is a student, and it still doesn't add up. Because of the likely socio economic situation for most Fillipino people. Go onto a French Embassy website and look at the visa requirements yourself. You'll see she is highly unlikely eligible to live in France legally. Fact is EVERYONE wants to live and work in France. They have one of the best health care systems in the world... yes it is better than the US because it's 100% free and they have the best treatment in the world. Education is free (including university), and the standard is very high. Not to mention it's one of the most beautiful places in the world. And their welfare system is excellent. Every 10 years or so, the government try to do something about illegal immigrants and give the illegal ones citizenship... because they have been there so long. And then they crack down on their borders. It's a cycle. I don't know what the situation is in europe when Filipinos, but the situation in China and HongKong is even worse. Filipino women living abroad are sadly renoun for house cleaners and prostitution. I respect the ones who come to china and HK to work and send money home to their families, but I don't respect the one who work as sex workers. I'm very sorry to suggest this, but it is a logical explaination to why she is pregnant with another man's child and why she can lie and manipulate you. Women in prostitutes are professionals at lying and manipulating men. That is the art of what they do for money. This situation is HIGHLY RISKY and I believe you may be manipulated by her. Other than repenting you might actually want to get a sexual health check to ensure your health has not been affected. The last thing you need. As I've said earlier, you may think you know this girl, but you don't, nor do you know who she has been with. Not using protection is serious. It only takes one person to infect you with an STI and some STIs do not have any symptoms. Look after yourself and your health and keep all of this advice in mind.

PS- whilst I think it's great that she loves you enough to ask you to be there for the birth, I think that it will not help you "take a step back" and take the relationship slowly or rationally. By being there you will be "assumming" a fatherly role and will make an emotional connection to a child which isn't yours to a person you haven't committed yourself to. I think that's a bit emotionally manipulating to ask this early for you to be at the birth, considering you just made it clear you don't know if you want to marry her and need to take things slow. Have a VERY VERY long hard think before you agreed to be her birthing partner. I know it's nice to day dream about being an instant father and making a bond with a child but as I wrote earlier... you need to view your situation VERY VERY rationally. IF you felt it would be the wrong decision to be her birthing partner, for the reason I have mentioned, I don't think it would be offensive or wrong to suggest it should be her sister. When and if you decide to marry her LATER down the track after you she has converted, you have repented (yourself) and you actually get to know her and have a normal relationship... then you have all the time in the world to have your own biological children together and can attend those births. This is a complicated situation she has put you in. Please think very very carefully before you agreeing to attend the birth. And for goodness sake, do not let the hospital put your name on the birth certificate if you are both not married. You could have some real legal issues later down the track.

Good to hear you talked with her and told her what you were feeling and that you guys need to slow down take a step back and that you will come to visit. Obviously she would be upset... but please do not allow her tears to influence the rational behind your decision. In the end you won't be with her for love but pity. And that is one of the worse foundations for a relationship. In the meantime, did you find out what she is doing in Paris? How is she able to stay in Paris? How will she pay for her hospital treatment when she has the baby? How is she working? Is she asking you for money? Because if she is an illegal immigrant in France... that also says a lot about her character. Becareful, don't let her manipulate you into sending her money. Even if you are close and you love her. If she wants help tell her she has to contact her family or go to the church for help.

Yenni, it sounds like you and your family are really going through a tough time and I think it's completely normal to to vent, and it's healthy. Your brother sounds amazing. You are lucky to have someone like that holding your family together. It must be difficult dealing with your own personal issues and mother's problems. My boyfriend's mother sort of went through what your mother went through, and his brother (an amazing man) held his family together. My boyfriend's mother, who is a beautiful hearted woman, someone I admire and someone I call a friend, was financially abused by her husband. She had been a stay at home mother to 5 children. My boyfriend's father had been a senior policeman. Whilst it was prestigious to be a senior ranking police offier's wife, she was very badly financial abused (you can look up what financial abuse is on the internet if you're not sure) and one time I was told he was physcially violent to her (broke her nose). So their marriage ended. She had no money, 5 children ranging from 2 years old right up to 18 years old. No skills or qualifications. She went to college and did some qualifications in community work. Meanwhile my boyfriend's older brother, who is a very strong member of the church, worked very very hard whilst studying at the same time to solely support the family and stand in as a father figure to his younger siblings. It was a very big burden for a very young man to take on. My boyfriend considers his older brother more of a father figure than his own father. - Even today Years on, the mother got some really great jobs with her qualificaionts she gained. Whilst she has endured financial hardships I know her prayers to God have been answered. 2 years ago, my boyfriend's mother suffered discrimmination at work. It was exactly the same situation as your mother. She was made to feel uncomfort and picked on to a point where she was being forced to resign, and she did. This is actually illegal in Australia. It's is part of the discrimination and harassment Act. You mother probably has a very strong case to go to an equal opportunities board and sue McDonalds, or get compensation for all the financial difficulties it has caused her life. It is against the law to make someone's job so difficult for them that they feel pressured into resigning. If she has co workers and former managers who can testify she was a good worker, your mother certainly has a case. My boyfriend's mother had a very strong case, took it to court, was offered a big lump sum payout from the university she worked for. She was compensated for her financial and emotional hardship caused by her place of employment. She used that money to fulfil her dream of opening a small women's boutique fashion clothing store in a very nice suburb. She also bought herself a much needed new car. I can personally see the blessings she has received. She has had a very very hard life (ever since she was a child). She is a really good person who has always been generous to everyone all throughout her life. Even today, she continues to be generous with what ever she has. I think it's definitely important for you to make sure you can to university and do what you can to go there. If it means you need to use your mother's car and there is no option, then there is no other option other than to not go to university. You mother needs to follow up this issue with her job at McDonalds. She was unfairly treated and this is definitely a legal issue she can be compensated for. I would recommend she undertakes some sort of training or education to help her get a new job. To get a blessing to help her learn and succeed in this. If her memory is seriously failing her, she might want to see a doctor. There might be a medical reason for it, and might mean she has a legitimite medical reason for being unable to work or learn. Don't give up on your situation. Whilst things are really hard for you, I know have seen through people I love that situations seem impossible but, if you keep God in your life ask him for help, he will help you. Other suggestion for the car thing for you: car pool with someone in your area? Maybe put up an ad at your university for car pooling. I'm sure there are university students out there who might want to halve fuel costs.

Not that I'm a married. I'm a new LDS member, since July 09. I used to be in a serious defacto relationship for 3 years (not together with him anymore) and I have been learning a lot about celestial marriages. Whilst I don't feel "qualified" to answer your question because I am not married, I have been in a relationship which suffered serious problems with addiction, so I hope my comments can count. It seems to me that one of core problems of your marriage might be your husband's gambling addiction. Any form of addiction is usually a symptom of some emotional turmoil going on inside a person. Usually coupled with depression. If a partner in a marriage is suffering from some addiction or mental illness, I don't think they are in a good position to give their partner the things they need in their marriage. Of course he's being a completely dull and boring husband. He is putting in all his joy, time energy and your financial resources into gambling. If he put that much love, devotion and energy into something you did together, I'm sure the result might be a whole lot different. I think a bishop might say that you need to work on your marriage. From what I have learned about marriage in the church, that a marriage may only end if a partner is abused, or adultery has been committed. In someways there might be a form of abuse occuring. He is abusing use of your finances. The church does run some programs (in Australia) for all types of addictions; sex, pornography, alcohol, tobacco, drugs. But I'm sure it depends if they are running this program in your ward in your. There are also community centres which have free help for people with gambling addictions. I know in my country, the support, financial advice and counselling services are around, and they are free- if you know where to look. My advice would be definitely talk to you bishop and seek his guidance on the matter. Don't be afraid to talk to him about it. He is there to listen, he cares about you, and his job is to be there for you. Talk to him as though you would talk to God.