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Thats whats so confusing is that up until the affair I thought we had a pretty great marriage. We never argue, some disagreements about money and what not but nothing crazy. He works for a Nascar Team and is gone pretty much 80% of the time from Feb to Nov being home in spurts and a few days out of the week. Never on the weekend, never on Sunday so he doesn't get that spiritual "fix" that we all need. We chat thru phone, txt, email and webcam when he is away. This girl is a huge fan of the Nascar Driver he works for and she sought my husband out but thats no excuse..."She approached me" doesn't matter to me. He ended up telling me of the affair out of sorrow and guilt right when it turned from "flirting" to intimacy. He was the one cheated on in his first marriage, I know that for a fact...talked to ex wife. Thanks for the link

Thanks for the article, it is very well put. I know its not in our nature to be alone, and I don't want to be alone. But when your spouse turns to another no matter how long or short that turning is, it brings a sense of loneliness that is deep and dark and painful. Could I spend eternity with a man that didn't cherish me enough to remain faithful? I don't know right now.

Thank you. We aren't sealed yet, been married 5 years and I finally got my temple recommend and he has the affair around the same time. He says he wants us to be sealed and thats what we always worked for but I just don't know anymore. He went to Bishops court and after meditation and prayer the council decided no action would be taken except 3 months no sacrament, or prayer in public and to read BOM and give priesthood blessings at home. They felt his sorrow and felt he was repenting as he should and it was all spiritual and emotional. He is able to get his recommend back now. I know he is sorry and all and is repenting, I just can't move on. I NEVER thought he would do this, there was no warning and he actually was cheated on his first marriage and they were sealed. He swore he would never put me through what he went through. But he did, and now I can't help but think, "never say never" and he did it once he could do it again.

Hi. I am new to the group, found it as I was searching for any LDS forum about surviving Infidelity/ adultery. Not really sure what I am looking for but I know that I am looking. Not really wanting to talk about it with people that know my Husband and I but need to talk. Its been 6 months since his affair and I just am not getting past it. Do any of you have stories either success or failure to share with me? Any advice on how you forgive and move on from the most personal deceit and betrayal ever??? I have prayed and got blessing and prayed more...it still pops in my head daily and I am not sure I can move on. To top it off I found out I was pregnant (makes 4) 2 weeks after I found out about the affair. So needless to say I am a walking emotional bomb!! LOL I look forward to reading your stories and getting to know you all.