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Also dont forget to look on the bright side of things, this is a great opportunity to really test your faith in god. If you turn to the savior, all that has happened in the past can be erased and you can come out on top being stronger than you can imagine. This is a time for you to be selfish and only think about who god wants you to be, and truly who you want to become. Dont let others influence you in this truly life changing time in your life! you can do it! I know its hard, but i too know that it is worth it and it is possible.

wow im blown away by the number of posts that i have received. im thankful for all of your thoughts and advice. Please understand that my mind set is NOT that i have to marry a virgin, i fell in love with her and after learning of this it has been heartbreaking. i dont doubt at all that she has been forgiven and that she has changed, it is true that this is MY problem. im looking at this as something that i wouldnt want to bother me for the rest of my marraige or cause any problems, not as me being selfish and only wanting to marry a virgin. But again thank you for your comments and this is something i will just have to work out between me and her and i have hope that something good will come :)

Very true, i need to decide for myself how important this quality is in my future wife and what i really want and need. thank you for your advice

well it is very important for me, but i dont want to be unforgiving. i think i need to just give myself more space and more time and date more girls to help me with my decision. i would love to have that one of a kind bond with my spouse of being together and never with another

thanks for the replys, i should have said that im not having a problem at all with her worthyness or thinking she is a sinner, i guess its just a feeling of jelousy? your right though i will just have to get over it

ive been searching for advice on this subject for a while now. I have been dating a girl for a while now and our relationship is getting serious (in a good way) as we have gotten to know each other more i have learned that over a year ago while i was on a mission, she had a boyfriend with which she "went all the way" at first i thought i could handle the news, but found out this went on for 3 months.... today she has repented fully and has a temple recommend and is worthy. But i still feel sooo hurt because i feel that i love her and feel like i could marry her, but i dont know that i can get over this. anyone have experience with this? will these feelings just get more intense and worse in the future? or is it possible to get over this? im not perfect myself but i always imagined being with my future wife that was still a virgin. thanks for your time