Nelly

Immigration has changed the last few years, it's actually been backlogged since October 2012, due to the DACA act that Obama had executive order forced for USCIS to complete within a short amount of time for those folks. That means all fiance, and spousal visas were backlogged that when through the USCIS. Not only that, but now the NVC has been backlogged too because of that. From what I -remember- reading on the immigration process, you cannot come to the US to get married and adjust status. That's illegal. The OP did say they got married the day after they got engaged, so probably no fiance visa. If he was on a tourist visa, chances are it was a 90 day one if he was from a country that has the ESTA program, if not he would have waited for an appointment with the Embassy for an extended tourist visa (up to the 6 months). Adjustment of 'status' in USCIS eyes is going through the process properly from a Fiance Visa (if approved and in USA) to changing to a Spousal Visa. The only time USCIS looks at priority date is if you are a permanent resident petitioning for family members, where US citizen families have no PD and are first serve basis, or whenever they get around to your application.

The way you have written your post where they just married on a tourist visa, is illegal just like Mahone said. Fiance visas and marriage visas are delayed right now with USCIS and have been for the past few years, if he has overstayed the 90 day tourist visa, the US will see that he was seeking residency without the proper paperwork and trying to cheat the system. This can lead to some worrying, and high chance of denial (as it is a red flag). I've seen other people go through this method, all because it's "love" or "legit", doesn't make it right to do something illegal. I even saw recently where one girl had her fiance come to get married, and he was turned away at border because he thought he was able to just stay there. If you are caught lying to a CO officer at border control too, that can cause issues as well. As for the support, give me them the benefit of the doubt. It's hard when your own family turns your back on you, the people who you love the most. As time goes on they will remember the ones who do give them the benefit of the doubt, and were there for them showing unconditional love and support, because even though you can forgive, you can't forget. I'm glad I didn't give into other people's comments or silliness when I made the decision to marry my husband. It was the best decision I ever made, and I was the only one to see it was right at the time. Of course, those family members deny they ever said such mean things, or make excuses up about it, but we all make choices in our lives, sometimes we might not agree with some of the choices people make, but doesn't mean we have to judge others for it. If it causes contention with family members because you support your cousin, then they have a problem with it themselves. Ignore it, and do what you think is best. I've come to realized that people's attitudes are already made up when they have heard of such a situation, but then they change tunes when they see they were in the wrong. I think older generations are still not use to change or things that weren't a 'normal' process back then. :)

What I learned when I got married, is that you, your husband, and kids become your first family, and your families become second. I know that sounds harsh, but you are focusing on making your own family. I don't see nothing wrong with the plan, but only the opinions of you and your husband should matter. I think it's something you and your husband need to decide for the both of you, not his family. It's ya'lls future. Ya'll are on the right path I believe. You're being sensible, and making sure that your quite stable for children. I know a lot of couples that get married that have no jobs whatsoever, and live with their parents! Not even going to go to school! Pray about it! Then pray about it with your husband. Talk to each other and make sure you communicate about it. Don't listen to his family, or anyone else but you and him. It will be hard, but it's about what is going to make you both happy, not his family or anyone else! Nobody else's opinions matter but just you and your husband's. I see nothing wrong with your husband going to school full time, while you're working to help support him so he can help support you and his family later on in the future! Good luck xxxx

I met my husband before he went on a mission, I totally fell in love with him, but I had to wait! Because he was going on a mission and I could never, ever let myself let a guy choose me over a mission. She's a girl, a lot of things can be running through her mind right now. Such as, what if I fall too hard for him and he's leaving soon, how am I going to cope? (I did this.) She's scared out of her mind since you told her you loved her. (It took me a month to say I love you back to my husband!) Or she's probably trying to protect you so you are focused on the work of serving the Lord, and she's not a distraction. I "waited" for mine, yeah I had some fun while he was on his mission, but we did stay in regular contact and avoided the "I Love you's" during his mission. I knew he was homesick and it wouldn't have been right to do that. Don't think too hard about it, or read between the lines, it won't do you anything good. Do what you need to do, and things will work out like they're suppose to :) xxxxx

The tiny creme eggs does some wonders! Totally one of my favorite chocolates.. ever since I've had the REAL cadbury, I can't go back to the American ones!! I did the same thing to my sister. :) My husband likes to always steal the cadburry cream eggs, especially the caramel ones... we received some today from his mother, oh and got some mini chocolate cadbury eggs :).

Oh my goodness, the REAL Cadbury has nothing on Hershey for sure!! They sell a 1kg cadbury chocolate bar in one shop and my husband got me one for valentine's day.. even though I didn't get to eat it all, my Mother-in-law and Sister-in-law ate 90% of it.. :) We've been eating creme eggs, and these delicious maltezers.. :) mmm.

Thanks everyone! It took a lot of planning and decisions.. I always wanted to change my mind. Oh yes, dravin! The food here is a whole different variety and is fun trying. I don't like Indian curry though as I found out last Saturday! Thanks bini! If y'all want to see more pics or follow me (as I am on Facebook more than anything as pam knows...) message me so I can tell you where to find me :).

I planned this all by myself with Mahone's help , and had some amazing people help me put it together the day before! http://a7.sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/382790_10150418792449760_152126514759_8748238_2084358980_n.jpg and one more.. :) http://photos-c.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash4/385046_10150416468164760_152126514759_8741323_1425887140_a.jpg

why that picture Pam?!

I don't have to be

he's more like this..

I have a shirt at work on Clearance that says ba-humbug. It's $2.97 if you want it.

I know Christmas isn't for another four months, but it's not just about the message of Christmas!! It's about that we should always think of Christ in our lives everyday, and I love this video ever since I saw it! We all get caught up in our busy lives, but we should always take a minute and always remember what's important! :)

He refuses to even fix my laptop now Slamjet.. the worse is he deleted all my bookmarks when he deleted Firefox, knowing they would get deleted.. and half of the wedding stuff was on there!!

That is just brilliant!! hahaha