jiujitsu47

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  1. Hey, I was just looking through the forum for something about tithing and found this. Thanks for posting. I've been struggling with tithing lately. My wife and I can hardly afford our bills, let alone pay tithing and save for my college program next year. Your post definitely has encouraged me to take the money I have set aside and pay tithing, with faith, and to test the principle. Thank you.
  2. Basically, does anyone have a good answer as to why we aren't suppose to get any tattoos? Is it in the scriptures somewhere, or a Prophets talk? I've heard about the whole graffiti on the body thing but I honestly don't understand that. People treat their bodies like garbage disposal units, shoveling junk food in day after day and doing terrible things. I could tattoo every square inch of my body and it would probably still be a cleaner temple than many church members. Then theres all of the church members who get plastic surgery. How are the two any different? Bigger boobs and a sexier nose... or a bit of art that you can hide under your garments...? I dunno, I'd appreciate any ideas. I'm not interested in them for rebellion or whatever, just have always wanted some.
  3. There are some great ideas here. I would add that you need to really respect his limits. Im not saying this is easy for girls, but, it is much more difficult for guys - especially since we are at our sexual peak around 20. I have broken the LoC with my fiance. We've changed our ways and are having our wedding in a month. The church authorities were forgiving because I had been a member for under a year and she was inactive for several years. She has a lot of trouble with keeping to the limits i have set. I can't make out with her because it is too difficult to control myself, nor can I lay down beside her. From her perspective though, it makes her feel a lack of comfort and affection because cuddling can be difficult so I tend to avoid it. Also, she likes to know that I want her, but I can't show that because things slide out of control too quickly. That said, it is important to bear in mind that he does love you and thats why hes avoiding the contact. Its really the only way that I know of to make it work after breaking the limits. Good luck, hope this helps a bit.
  4. Well, this is my second thread on this forum now. I'm engaged to be married in 10 weeks. Both of us have had our own problems with chastity in the past. She was inactive for several years and I am a convert to the church. We fooled around for awhile, but managed to stop completely when we got engaged. Since then we've struggled but made progress. Until, that is, I lost my job and had a 3 week gap before going to my new job. It finally happened the other day... we broke down and had sex for the first time. Obviously that in itself means we probably won't be going to the temple any time soon. My question is, how long do you have to wait? Later that evening she told me that if you have sex you have to wait a full year before you could be married. Apparently her parents told this to her. I haven't seen anything about that anywhere though. Is that true? It doesn't quite add up to me, as I broke up with my ex (we were sexually active) last summer and the bishop didn't tell me anything like that when I told him I'm engaged to my fiance with a date set much sooner than a year. Basically, I feel that once I do start my new job we will be able to refrain from further violations and repent. Right now we have nothing but time together and a lack of structure, which is for me a dangerous thing. Obviously we will talk to the bishop, we just want to know as much as possible ahead of time. Also we will have to talk to her parents about why we aren't going to the temple, should that be the case. Is it even possible for us to repent within the time frame of 10 weeks and be sealed prior to civil marriage? I didn't realize just how much I want to make it to the temple until after we had sex...
  5. I was really busy for awhile with work, just getting back to this now... Thanks for all of the advice. Things have been up and down I guess. We were solid for almost a month, then one day we made the mistake of going to my house late at night to help somebody unload some furniture. Well, my house is where we tend to mess up, being from a non-lds family myself. As a result of that I missed out on my chance to be given the Melchezidek priesthood. Hopefully I'll be worthy again by April when we have a priesthood conference or whatever it is. We've recomitted to it, this time we'll avoid my house. I really like the analogy of a diet. The problem for me is that, as arrogant as the proceeding my sound, I am a very disciplined person. I work at a gym, do cardio every morning, eat incredibly well, and train until I nearly puke/pass out. I've spent time in other parts of the world training with monks and trained here with professional fighters and coaches. My entire life I have prided myself on having a solid work ethic and the discipline to accomplish whatever I decide to do. Discipline is the basis of who I am. Yet, I continue to fail at this one thing, and that tends to invoke my 'all or nothing' mentality. Once I fail I beat myself up over it and have trouble going back to it, which is why my discipline is seeming to be a problem. It really is an issue of my ego. Right now I need to do a couple of things. One is to follow some of the excellent advice that you have all given to me. The other is to work on getting back to the part of my life which brought me to the church in the first place. Working at the gym has stopped me from doing martial arts because of the schedule... the job isn't quite worth the stress of it anyway. Basically, I was baptized by my martial arts instructor, so I feel like if I want to continue to progress as a son of God should, I need to get back to walking my own path. Hopefully I can find a steady day job so I can train again.
  6. Here's my situation. I've been a member of the church for a little over a year now. Born and raised atheist until I was 19 when I chose to be baptized. Since then I've had a tonne of ups and downs. The first girl I met from the church wasn't exactly conducive to my growth; her and I managed to shatter the law of chastity. We broke up and I went to my bishop, repented, and have since been in another relationship. This time we made a lot of the same mistakes, she is still a virgin, but we weren't exactly good up until this point. For the last couple of months we have been seeing our bishop regularly trying to work things out. We're engaged to be married in 5 months and want to make it to the temple. Because of that, we've finally managed to stop doing things with each other. Now, my problem is trying to control myself. At this point I honestly don't know what to do. I'll be alright for about 2 weeks at a time then I'll masturbate again. It's something I have been doing since I was a young kid and I have managed to control it much better, but it just seems impossible to overcome. Any thoughts? Oh, and I know this whole thing makes me look like the bad guy.. maybe I am... but don't judge me without knowing the whole story, obviously things about my fiance have been excluded. Really, I'm a saint now compared to where I was 2 years ago. So this is really the last huge problem I'm having.