The problem with most of these answers is that it's all the personal interpretation of the scriptures and the words of the leaders of the church who by all rights are not going to say anything contrary to the established 'party line'. The truth of the matter is, no one knows what happens in the after life, there is no proof of any of this. None, nada, zilch. It falls on your faith and you either have that or you don't. Then you have to decide if you want to find the faith. Then you must establish how you want to live to ensure the outcome you have the faith to believe will happen. It's pretty simple really. I don't have that faith, tried to get it, couldn't, and I've moved on. The scriptures feel dead to me, inert, and filled with contrary ideas, ways of doing things and a ton of double speak. They've been perverted for the use of man to keep those who are of a lesser status down. Now that may sound negative but to me it's not, I accept that idea and I move on. I try to live my life the best way I can, I support my wife who is raising our children in the church and I am willing to let the chips fall where they may. I love, I live, and I help where I can.