Windseeker

Even though this is regarding criticism I think it applies to other areas as well. I can easily see the sense on both sides of this argument.

I don't believe my wife is deceiving me or lying to me if she chooses not to confess all her sins to me. ...and I can speak first hand to the fruits of telling a spouse about an infrequent pornography problem, abandoned by my wife, I get to hold my daughters hand by myself while she rests in the ICU after her second suicide attempt. not all spouses have Christ-like levels of understanding and forgiveness.

To the OP, I think you need to follow the spirit first and foremost. That said, my personal opinion is if your level of pornography usage means being disfellowshiped, then of course you need to confess to your wife. If you've confessed this to the proper authorities and have taken the sacrament and are temple worthy, then perhaps you should repent for your lack of faith and understanding of the gospel. NOT ALL SINS need or ought to be shouted from the roof tops. I feel that men who deal with this issue need to "man up" and "own up" and that does not involve going and whining, seeking comfort and whether you intend to or not, blaming your spouse for your problem. You might feel something like a hero after confessing this, and while you turn around and pat your righteous self on the back with a grin of satisfaction at your load unburdened, you ignorantly just dumped a whole heap of guilt, disgust, insecurity and shame on your wife. There are many burdens a husband and wife must bear together, but this is one that might prove too much and for what? So you feel less guilty? Rather then unload it on your spouse, use that guilt to drive you to be more tender, more dedicated and more true to your wife.

My hobbies currently are longboarding (skateboard), kitesurfing and boardgaming. I also play some online computer games like Elder Scrolls and League of Legends. In the future I plan to do more surfing, learn to write (sci-fi fantasy) and would like to build and fly light sport aircraft.

I really like what you said here. Reminds me of this great article I've read recently. Here is a quote The article is a great read but will warn you it does have some mild language. Are Today’s Parents Getting a Raw Deal?

My wife and I got a couples massage last week. I had a female and she had a male. This place was highly rated but neither of us was impressed. We both felt the massages we both give each other were more intuitive and effective. I've heard good things about the deprivation tank and would like to try it sometime. In today's age we have such constant intent sensory input I can't think of a better way to truly escape.

there's a special snowflake here somewhere..

Exactly. The "pornography problem", simply put, is the destruction of the family. No question the lions share of the blame lies with the person who chose to get mired in sin. When a spouse is informed it's completely reasonable, due to it's nature, that there should be overwhelming feelings of disappointment, rejection and not being good enough. And depending on the depth and degree, divorce may be necessary. Sin could not have been more precisely designed to so perfectly prey on our inherent gender weaknesses and destroy relationships and family than Pornography. My point is the cycle of pain, withdrawal, sin (self comforting) is remarkable and can be partially mitigated with an understanding patient partner or greatly exacerbated and magnified when a partner turtles and seeks vengeance. The wonderful thing is like all sin it's got an achilies heel, thanks to our Savior it can make a supportive spouse a consecrated saint and the vanquisher an exalted victor.

..and I would concede that in some extreme cases divorce might be correct option. I happen to know a few Temple Presidents, Mission Presidents, Patriarchs, Stake Presidents and Bishops who's families would have been shattered by divorce if it wasn't for some very patient and understanding wives...and that was pre-plague days. The idea that pornography addiction would be automatic grounds for divorce, must make Satan very happy. Women who knee-jerk react by castigating, scorning, condemning, emotionally and physically abandoning their husbands for falling are every bit a part of the "pornography problem" as the women depicted in the pictures and video.

What consequences would you like to see fp?

Pornography does not equal Adultery. Thankfully "grounds" for divorce is up to the individual or this plague of Pornography would be followed by a plague of divorce.

I was a poor flight attendant and never home when my first child was born and he was a honeymoon baby. We did end up divorcing 14 years later but it had nothing to do with when the kids came. It's nice being in my forties and having kids in their twenties. I have no regrets having kids early.

I really like this article. I'm past being able to do any of this with my kids, but thought I'd post it anyway. I think it has some great ideas. http://qz.com/165716/how-i-made-sure-all-12-of-my-kids-could-pay-for-college-themselves/

Holy Paladin here, Order of the Rolling Stone, not to be confused with the band "Rolling Stones". But if I were in the band I'd still be a Paladin and play bass.. "Let's get our freak on!" --favorite saying when engaging in battle I don't have a pet hamster or any other pets as I find them a distraction when it comes to stomping evil. I have not idea what the standard attributes are. Can anyone list them?

Along those lines I thought this was interesting

I spoke with a friend last night who moved here from Sweden (he's Brazilian, his wife is Swedish) and they are so happy they are no longer there. The rapes are getting out of hand and he has 3 daughters. He mentioned that in the EU he used to be able to travel easily to Portugal without a passport but now every country has locked down and now you must show you're a member of the EU. He moved here mostly for economic reasons but is very grateful to be here in the U.S. To answer your question I would second what Anatess has to say.

We could take a lesson from history - http://http://www.history.com/this-day-in-history/macarthur-orders-end-of-shinto-as-japanese-state-religion We bomb the countries that produce terrorists until they submit and reject Islam. We rain pigs blood on Mecca and Medina and then wipe them off the map and warn any countries that produce terrorists going forward will be held responsible. But I don't think this will happen. In the end I think it will always exist until the final battle between good and evil.

Watched King of Devil's Island last night on Netflix. I enjoyed it.

... in our quest to be tolerant of everything, we’ve become intolerant to everything" - Maine teacher forced to say goodbye to pink Hello Kitty Christmas tree in classroom At least one educator gets it. I think some people are waking up thankfully.

Latest inspiration from my favorite sad genius Yann Tiersen

I finished the The Golem and the Jinni by Helene Wecker An Urban Fantasy set in late 19th century New York. I enjoyed it.

I know myself well enough that a close friendship or any friendship with a girl other than my wife is just not going to be something I experience in this life. I admit it and perhaps it's perceived as a weakness by others, but it's not something I really feel bad about. I'm ok with that and honestly avoiding friendships with women is not something I do only for my marriage but for myself as well. I might be wrong but doing a quick search of all our scriptures I can't find any commandment that says we must have friends or seek friendships. A matter of fact the only directive regarding friendship I can find is this one in James - 4:4 Ye adulterers and adulteresses, know ye not that the friendship of the world is enmity with God? whosoever therefore will be a friend of the world is the enemy of God. Somehow, I like to think I fulfilled my calling to love and serve the people of Okayama Japan. Since I don't have one friendship to show for it, perhaps some will feel I wasted those two years..lol. I think this life can be just as enriching and wonderful while maintaining a protective barrier with members of the opposite sex outside my family.

I'm sorry to hear that. Hang in there.

Take care cdowis. You'll be missed.

http://local12.com/news/around-the-web/muslim-mans-photo-of-prayer-in-lds-church-goes-viral Here in Florida we had a interfaith Christmas Nativity and it really turned out well. A local High School sang and everyone said it was amazing. They also had real animals including a Mother and Baby Camel. http://boyntonlivenativity.com/ Glad to see our church reaching out like this.