wash_ma

Members
  • Posts

    5
  • Joined

  • Last visited

Everything posted by wash_ma

  1. Before being married, but after attending the temple, I broke the law of chastity. After being married, I found out that I might have a child from this pre-marital sin. I have confessed my sins to my wife, bishop and stake president. I was told by the stake president that there will be a church council, but not until and after there has been a paternity test done. He said that knowing if the child is mine will make a big difference on the discipline given. I am guessing that what he is implying is that if the child is not mine, I will be disfellowshipped, but if the child is mine, I will be excommunicated. I am having a hard time understanding why this would make a difference in discipline. I thought fornication was a grievous sin, no matter the consequences of that decision. Please help me understand a little more.
  2. I was contacted by phone by her bishop saying that she had told him who the father is and they contacted me asking to financially support the child. I am not sure what her motivation is, for this reason my stake president has asked to find out paternity.
  3. Gwen, Thanks so much for your insight and opinions. To answer your questions, I have two children with my wife, the child from my mission is about 8. I've known for about 5 years about the child (during those years I have sent money each month to the child). I have been asked, for church disciplinary reasons I am guessing, by my stake president to find out for sure. Hope you can give me more of a wife, or woman perspective with this information.
  4. FunkyTown, I appreciate your insight and your blunt response to my inquiry. I am willing to and want to take full responsibility for my actions and consequences for those actions. The dilemma is that my wife wants nothing to do with this child and doesn't want our children to have anything to do with this child. So how do I balance both of these situations is my question and crossroad.
  5. Near the end of my mission in a foreign country, I had broke the law of chastity with a girl, who I found out a couple years later (and about a couple of months after I got married) that the child she bore could be mine. I kept this a secret from everyone until recently when I confessed to my wife, bishop and stake president. I am currently going through the repentance process, but nothing can be done in regards to church discipline and the future of my marriage until we complete a paternity test. My wife has expressed that she will leave if the child is mine, but if not she will stay. We are trying to figure out what is the Church's stance on this situation and my responsibility to the child? Do I have to provide just financially for the child, or am I required to have a relationship with the child? Please help.