lizzy16

What was your mood today? Relaxed, calm. What were your activities today? Church, got home taught, slept, did hw, hung with a friend, made lunch. Why do you usually dress the way you do? comfort&expectations. I got home from church, changed into grey leggings/sweat pants with black short shorts over them and a pink t shirt. And, 3 hours later the HT were knocking. I crawled out of my nap and sat on the couch feeling a bit awkward but not wanting to change.

good luck :) If I took a break from the internet I'd fail every single class i'm taking. All the hw is submitted online. Liz.

I'm all for that :) I love cooking too haha.

I'm tone deaf. Don't put me anywhere near music. People might actually stand up and leave when they're children start singing for the primary program. hahah. Why is this good for me? Techn. I should still be in young womens my self. I can't think of any reason they'd ever give a 17 year old a calling as YW president. Being in college surrounded by either young adults or middle aged professors all day has got me to feel quite uncomfortable around kids. And to imagine I used to babysit all the time. I went to my cousins for Christmas and after 5 mins of playing leggos I about had it. I'd prefer something like Ward cleaning assigner...or activities committee. Or, that person that arranges meals for the missionaries :)

So, in my education class the teacher mentioned Jesus Christ being the master teacher. What are your thoughts on this?

I was talking to a friend who was never physically punished as a child. She was shocked at parents who 'spank' there kids. And, then I was in my BOM class and someone in devotional announced how his mom gave him the belt after making a bad choice. I was a bit shocked by his admittance to this since usually this seems as something kids try to cover up. At least amongst my group of friends we all pretended we had perfect families until one night at a sleepover we talked about how our parents raised us. Several people ended up saying they'd been 'belted' as a child. One of my friends was shocked at all the 'abuse" and the fact none of us seemed to care much/weren't outraged. And then I announced how I was all for corporal punishment ect in schools. That stirred things up. Once when I was younger the neighbors called the cops after hearing yelling and my dad was taken into custody. It was the night of my grandparents annual family Christmas party. I remember being really embarresed that 'daddy was in jail." He ended up not being charged and nothing went on his record after the judge determined the cops acted rashly however he had to take anger managment classes every monday night for a what was probably a year or so. I remember because we had FHE on Sundays from then on. Most when hearing that would jump to the whole 'abuse' thing. And, like Judo's father I know my dad has anger issues. But, he isn't truly abusive. Anyways, The word abusive is totally subjective.

I know I'm getting to this a bit late but thought I'd give my view as someone who recently left home. I really adore my parents. Even when I was just starting middle school through my senior year of highschool I realized how blessed I was. During my younger years they raised me with right and wrong, taught me what I needed to do and sort of sheltered me from society. I never listened to music, tv ect as a teenager/child (i still don't.). They taught me the value of education. And, once I hit high school they loosened up. I came and left the house as I pleased, I did things with friends without being monitored, I went with camping trips and overnight things with friends, ect. I'd always ask. Because, I knew they loved me and wanted to know. But at the same time they would always tell me I didn't need to tell them everything. Like, I'd call my dad and say I was going to a friends house. "Okay." He'd say. And, I'd go. He'd later tell me he didn't care as long as I left a note saying I wasn't kidnapped. I'd leave in the morning telling my mom I was going to town and I'd come back late at night. (Note: I wasn't an idiot and didnt' wander the streets alone at night. My home town is very safe and small.) I wasn't ever given a curfew. But because I understood my parents didn't want to give rides late at night I would usually just sleepover or have a friends parent drive me home. I'd walk in the door and my parents would ask how I was. But, nothing grilling... They used this 'hands off' method with both me and my brother. But, we didn't take advantage of it. They trusted us, we trusted ourselves and it all worked out. It totally worked for my brother and I. My sister however probably will be kept on a tighter leash. My parents always let me make my own decisions. About everything. From skipping school, going to church, hanging out with friends and even getting my license (I'm waiting to get my license when I go back to NY in April. Last summer I just wasn't ready to drive alone. I had an incident that really freaked me out and it just wasn't the right time. My mom was rather encouraging about getting it before I left but at the same time trusted my judgement ) They'd give input, but they never pushed me. If I stayed home from school/skipped school they didn't care. If I skipped church they wouldn't say anything. And, it totally worked for me. I didn't take advantage of it (and if I had i'm sure they would have had a sit-down.) I did what I thought I needed to. I'd skip school when I needed it. Sorry, this is getting so blabby haha. I'm just really thankful how my parents raised me. Now I'm at college. And, It wasn't an awful transition. I have one roommate that doesn't know how to clean a stove, cook ANYTHING (even instant potatoes.) and calls her dad every night and talks to her hamster on the phone. ("I hear you. Oh you are so cute. Aww i hear you squeaking!" ) My parents didn't scream at me. Even when I was younger they'd be straight up about everything and talk to me as an adult. My mom trusted me a lot. And, I think its mostly because she trusted who I hung around and she trusted that she raised me right She met all my friends, she'd ask how they are and I had a birthday party every year. She knew my closest friends by name. She didn't always approve of them. 'Your one friend that always wears short shorts?" (Val? I love val. I'm sorry how she dresses bothers you. I'm blessed to have her as a friend.) "The one that constantly plays with her phone?" (Oh, i'm not friends with her anymore mom. Don't worry.) I went on a camping trip with my friend Val and her family before I left for college. Her dad and I ended up having this long discussion about society degrading, values degrading ect. And, he thanked me for being a good friend, influnce on her and said one of the reasons she turned out so good was her friends. "It doesn't matter what a kids parents say, what their teachers say or what they see on TV. In the end its the friends that make the difference." And, I really think thats true. Friends are so influential. Sorry this is so long and rambling. It's...late :) Oh, and I was quite the dramatic child. But, i'd go to my room and cry it out. More then once my mom came upstairs and asked me if someone had hurt me. "Noooo, just leave me aloneeeeee." I'd shout. And, my brother would come in later ask. I'd tell him. And, he'd tell my mom. Basically: It's not your job to be her friend. Be her parent first. Don't put up with sass. And, meet her friends.

hahah! I went to my grandparents for thanksgiving and the first thing they asked was, "So, what are you hoping to gain from Byu-idaho? A husband? becoming a nuclear engineer?" " Grandpa. I'm 17. My goals are to gain my BA in English Education, spend my next few summers traveling western USA, working, going to mexico as part of a TESOL program and then go on a mission. And, then I'll get married. At least I hope thats what happends. If the right guy comes along before I have my chance to go on a mission I'm going to be upset." "Well. When your getting married let me know. I can't wait for you to go to the temple. You'll love the SLC temple sealing room." He's convinced I'll be married in the SLC temple haha. He then spent the entire weekend suggesting we invite the local YSA over for a game night. My grandfather is a hoot.

And then in the spirit world. Will you be given a chance?

hahaha, I won't turn 21 for another 5 years. I'll have graduated college and had 1 year before I can put my papers in. But, if I'm no where close to being married I'd love to go on a mission! But, thank you for the compliment.

Well, I wasn't sure how different they were. I mean the papers filled out and submitted to SLC. The medical papers, ect. I'd like to go on a mission at some point and want to see what they look like. I'm a curious cat haha :)

Is there a place online I can see what girl mission papers look like? Just curious. :)

I was talking to my friend in Northern Ireland about this. Axe (the stuff teenage guys spray on themselves.) is called something else there. But same can look and everything :)

Good to know :) But Seriously. Pam. What weird questions?

What do you mean? What other strange questions have I asked?!

Just wondering :)

I'm not a parent. But, I think my parents did a wonderful job in raising my brother and I. We were never rewarded for doing what we were supposed to. Even as kids. It was expected of us. We'd earn "Extra mile bucks" if we went the extra mile without being asked. If we did the dishes or vacumed or some random nice thing that my mom wasn't expecting. And, if we said "Can we earn an extra mile buck for that?" Then whatever it was turned into a chore. We could 'buy' things from the extra mile store ( a bunch of treats of different levels.) This also helped with my math/money skills. :) Good luck with the homeschooling.

So, I made cinnamon rolls for FHE. And, now there harder....not awful but I'd like them softer like they were out of the oven. If I pop them back in for a few mins will they get softer? Or if I put them in the microwave or something? :) Liz.

She actually did call her parents. I overheard it from the living room. I know that the food issue was brought up but didn't care enough to wait to see what was said. And, again tonight a friend came over. He offered to make herrice when she started complaing to him how she wanted some. Well, I straight out said she can eat her microwave meal and I'm not sharing. Now he thinks i'm a jerk. But, thats okay :)

So, today one of the girls asked me what i'm making for dinner. I replied I wasn't making anything for anyone and she can make her own food. She started complaing with a "Well, i have nothing to make now that you took away all the food." She had fair warning and could have went to the store anytime in the past 3 days. She also has tons of food in her cabinent. She then asked to use rice of mine to which I said firmly "No" and she could eat one of her many labled microwave meals. She then left to her bedroom muttering she wasn't hungry anyway. Just an update :)

I wouldn't have stopped sharing if they had bought items to share as well. I understood fine. Apparently they didn't. And yes, I know. It wasn't a very outspoken way but i do think they got the message.

Oh, I volunteered to do the bathroom. And, I wanna keep it that way. It's so easy! The living room and kitchen are always way more messy. I just sweep, clean the counter and empty the garbage. Easy! We clean every thursday before clean check. And, every four days we roatate who does dishes. The cleaning is very fair....well for me. Personally I think i'm getting the upside of that whole thing :)

The bathrooms always my job.

Jerome, That was kind of the point. Liz.

Rm, thats a bit too extreme considiring the circumstances. Liz.